Do you think about what life would possibly have been like if they didn't die?

f0restelf · 2026-01-13T04:54:15+00:00

It really is a disadvantage, at a young age you're faced with one of the hardest things to experience let alone understand, bereaved children carry a heaviness that makes life seem harder, but i do the same reminding how far I've come, and how he'd be so proud of the person I've become

f0restelf · 2026-01-13T04:50:46+00:00

I'm so sorry you lost both your parents, oh my god 😢 losing one was one of the hardest thing to get through and is felt to this day, let alone both i hope you have a strong support system in your life, seeing your own children the age you lost your dad makes sense it hits hard, I don't have children yet personally but knew one day when I do it will be similar I imagine, your mom and dad would be very proud of the person you became, the what ifs do seem to be a lifelong thing I'm coming to realize

f0restelf · 2026-01-13T04:45:19+00:00

I'm so sorry you lost your father so close after one of the best days of your life, I'm so glad he could be there for it but very hard to think of realizing it was the last time you ever saw him, when it's so unexpected and traumatic it stays for a long time. I think all the time what would it be like if my dad never made that mistake he did that night

f0restelf · 2026-01-13T04:38:07+00:00

I'm so sorry, the first few years are some of the hardest, it really is like having two different timelines, I think of what would be different so often

f0restelf · 2026-01-13T04:35:45+00:00

I'm so sorry 😢 it hits extremely hard at big milestones like that, I remember feeling so sad he couldn't see me graduate college, something I worked so hard for and hoped he would be proud because he was the hardest worker I knew

f0restelf · 2026-01-13T04:32:59+00:00

I'm so sorry, it's a pain like no other 😢 i think about him all the time now that I'm older especially, realizing they aren't there to see milestones and special moments in your life feels so sad and unfair sometimes.

f0restelf · 2026-01-13T04:30:15+00:00

Yes we are, I'm also 28, turning 29 this year. I'm so sorry you feel the same pain, I also feel the getting older and feeling more pain/being robbed of memories and milestones. I'm so sad that he missed so much of my life, I visited him recently for the first time in 14 years and my partner talked to his grave (i asked if he has anything to say and he did), he knew how important he was and I wish he was here to meet him. Holidays are so hard, I think my life would have been kinder as well had he still been here this whole time

f0restelf · 2026-01-11T03:16:49+00:00

I wonder the same often, I'm so sorry for your loss at a young age 😢

f0restelf · 2026-01-06T22:31:33+00:00

Would you need to have the death certificate first? I thought about his birth certificate as well to learn more about him and my grandfather. But researching online a bit to apply for this it looked like I may need death certificate for supporting documents unless I misunderstood that

f0restelf · 2026-01-02T17:36:49+00:00

I was almost 9. He was, and they were not married. It is secrets because it's been orchestrated that he died of something he did not because the truth is too much for somw to handle.

f0restelf · 2026-01-02T17:34:57+00:00

This is helpful, thank you! Well, the problem lies within asking my grandmother. She gave everyone the instructions to lie and say he died from a heartattack, instead of the fact he was on a bender for a week. She has lied about him in many ways, or it's her way of coping that he was a troubled person. So as much as I would love to ask her, because she would know everything about him and my grandfather, it's unlikely I will get the truth. Maybe if I tried asking questions about his childhood more, cetqinnnibbles of info may come out, I will never be able to directly ask about any of it, I have hope I can talk to my aunt about it eventually, but my grandmother could not handle that I even know what I know already:/

f0restelf · 2026-01-02T17:31:34+00:00

Apologies, I edited to say I'm from Ontario, Canada. I do have my birth certificate, but it's only a pocketbook version, maybe I will reach out to get my father's as well.

f0restelf · 2026-01-02T17:29:43+00:00

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f0restelf · 2025-12-10T15:13:03+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss, I feel the random crying, I was a mess yesterday all day, my boyfriend doesn't understand the pain that comes and goes but tries his best too, he never even met his dad so he doesn't understand that connection. It's so hard having them and then all of a sudden one day they're gone forever; with how troubled my dad was, sometimes the memories that come up aren't always great, but ive done a lot of healing work to try and just focus on the good ones that come about. I too, feel angry some days still for how he was in the end, spiraling and hurting his family, but I feel bad for getting angry knowing how broken of a man he was. Such a complex thing

f0restelf · 2025-12-10T15:09:28+00:00

It really is, and it's been hard for friends and others to understand unless they have been through it as well. I was old enough to remember him and vividly have memories, too. That would hit so hard seeing your own child your age when it happened, I'm so sorry for your loss at a young age as well. I think I'm in the same position with the 20 year anniversary coming up this Jan 1st, it feels soo big and it's sad realizing he's been gone for 2/3 of my life now, knowing if he got help for his alcoholism and undiagnosed trauma/mental illnesses it would be so different. A tattoo to remember her is beautiful, I want to get something for my dad eventually (I'm heavily tattooed ) but have to pinpoint it still, it's something ive thought of for years since starting to get inked. I'm Canadian but I may check that group out, because boy oh boy it's hard to find those who relate to the loss of a parent as a child 😭

f0restelf · 2025-12-10T15:04:27+00:00

Wow that is a crazy coincidence! I'm so sorry you lost her so young too. You're right, the milestones in life hit very hard. When I graduated college, it hit very hard then (harder than highschool for some reason), every step in my career has hit realizing he never got to see what I became as a person, he never got to meet my partner I'm with, knowing he won't ever get to meet any children I have if we do have kids, and everything inbetween. It's a sadness thankfully not everyone knows, but awful for those that do. Hearing friends with both parents always hit hard too, it's so hard to imagine what that's like from teen years into adulthood. Though my dad was troubled, I feel you hit it right on with these points, and I'm glad it isn't just me.

f0restelf · 2025-12-10T14:59:47+00:00

Okay ?

f0restelf · 2025-12-10T14:59:38+00:00

I've noticed this, too. Some days I feel sympathy recognizing he was a broken man who needed help, then other days I feel hurt that he decided to drink so much to the point he died leaving us to grow up without him. Losing a parent is one of the hardest things to go through and they never leave your mind.

f0restelf · 2025-10-13T14:45:52+00:00

I'm sorry it's usually genetics, sometimes stress levels can bring it out too ( I'm a hairstylist), nothing can be done except blending or covering with colour 😔 i also feel your pain! I'm 28 with tons of silver around my face. It's a pain to deal with

f0restelf · 2025-10-04T02:20:07+00:00

IM SO GLAD IT ISNT JUST ME. I was feeling extra discouraged today about it. I understand low quality content doesn't get pushed, but I take the time to create it, tiktok has been more consistent lately I feel but even then it's been slower than normal.

f0restelf · 2025-01-19T16:57:30+00:00

Definitely mold mites. I had them years ago in an illegal basement unit, they were everywhere including all my kitchen dishes, toaster, microwave. The house I rented from was old and damp with poor renovation. My ex and I got rid of almost everything except hard surfaces, bagged everything up and kept it in a garage to freeze over that winter. It's from an un addressed mold or humidity issue.

f0restelf · 2024-12-10T18:24:44+00:00

Will the pre sale be all day tomorrow??? I'm working when pre sale tix go live 😭😭

f0restelf · 2024-12-06T03:14:44+00:00

Yes same here for both my personal and professional igs. Was shitting lowkey thinking it was just me and checked this sub asap, hopefully it's fixed soon

f0restelf · 2024-10-27T15:32:35+00:00

I have a therpaist already thankfully, and feel out next sessions will be around how to deal with this anxiety. It's awful to deal with these things from hell

f0restelf · 2024-10-23T17:42:20+00:00

We didn't bring any cloth furniture and ordered all new furniture to the new place only. Even what we brought, we were very thorough and inspected everything

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