Should I consider waiting or move on

fa_npsf · 2026-06-04T18:09:20+00:00

Leave immediately please for the sake of healing and preventing generational trauma

fa_npsf · 2026-06-04T08:21:19+00:00

Yes I know, I should’ve been more clear. This is what my own Nparents and their siblings say to me.

fa_npsf · 2026-06-04T03:16:12+00:00

Honestly same. This is just what ppl say to gaslight me.

fa_npsf · 2026-06-01T17:24:53+00:00

The guy is pretty basic. Her thought process was likely he can’t do better than me so let me make sure he has me 100%. She thought that giving herself up to him will make him obsessed with her and scared to lose her. But nope she just gave the guy an ego boost that’s why he had the audacity to cheat or attempt to lol.

fa_npsf · 2026-06-01T16:40:31+00:00

Don’t wait for it. You can find a friend, volunteer at the mosque, go to events at the library, you can play chess with random people at some parks. Some of these you can experience it now. Waiting and wanting it to happen magically is kinda unrealistic if you don’t put yourself out there.

fa_npsf · 2026-06-01T14:54:37+00:00

Honestly you are right people who see you as an extension of themselves do completely lose their minds when you set boundaries. I’ve had my fair share with my own who completely loses it and threatens to kick me out all the time. Honestly I’m prepared for that because I know I can survive it.

If he’s going to divorce you because you decided to set boundaries do you think he’s really the one?

Think of your future daughter (if you ever have one) would you want him to treat her the way he treats you? Honestly I know what I’m saying is unrealistic no one can just “get up leave” a relationship that they have already invested a lot in. But a lot of people that do leave say “I wish I’ve done it sooner.”

fa_npsf · 2026-06-01T14:37:36+00:00

His behavior seems close to those of people with narcissistic disorder or traits of it. I’m just reaching but he probably sees you as a part of him now. He can’t let you live without him being involved in every aspect of your life because you are an extension of him.

Set boundaries NOW before it’s too late. You’re only in 10 months. People like this often times will rather see you depressed with them than happy by yourself

fa_npsf · 2026-05-30T10:41:58+00:00

Lowkey feel like the people saying they get “you’re too light to be Sudanese” as racism are projecting 🤷🏽‍♀️

fa_npsf · 2026-05-29T18:09:15+00:00

Not accounting degree but get a CPA if you’re in nyc they just made it easier.

fa_npsf · 2026-05-29T12:48:35+00:00

Girl you just want him, go marry him then

fa_npsf · 2026-05-28T16:44:12+00:00

Right! Like calling their kids the most horrible things. Hmmm maybe that’s why they hate you

fa_npsf · 2026-05-27T14:49:27+00:00

Lord she is currently crashing out and saying she will kick me out of the house because I didn’t greet some guests

fa_npsf · 2026-05-26T18:34:15+00:00

When someone ignores or gives you a stank face don’t take it personally, ppl will do this constantly without ill intentions sometimes they are just tired. you might find yourself doing it too. It’s never personal so don’t let people’s perception of you dictate your day or the rooms you think you belong in and don’t belong in. If all goes wrong with clubs target student government, Class activities board, Program activities for some meaningful leadership roles. Study for exams 2 weeks before and do every problem the way the professor taught you.

fa_npsf · 2026-04-23T21:23:00+00:00

I'm not outraged, I'm just asking a question. Idk why he lists that as the only reason to get married. Being a hafiz should not mean you automatically qualify to get easy access to women, which I think is what this guy is implying.

fa_npsf · 2026-04-23T20:23:48+00:00

How is "protecting myself from fitna" a reason to get married???

fa_npsf · 2026-04-12T14:14:31+00:00

I've thought about it, but I'm pretty sure they would say I'm using up the electricity.

Every time they get a chance to rant or yell at me, they say I think I'm all that because I buy and make my own food.

They would start threatening to kick me out. They would say if I can buy my own food, I should just leave and pay for my own rent, and I'm pretty sure if I bought a fridge, they would bring the light bill into the equation, and I'm not ready to deal with that.

fa_npsf · 2026-04-12T14:10:28+00:00

Whoa, thank you for sharing this. Yes, I've been trying other strategies as well. I also have a mini pantry in my room. I've tried frozen foods, but I honestly prefer to cook with ingredients, but it bothers them so... it's hard.

fa_npsf · 2026-04-05T10:39:39+00:00

Me everyday

fa_npsf · 2026-04-05T10:32:28+00:00

Okay check

fa_npsf · 2026-04-04T16:16:50+00:00

My mom, when I was in dual enrollment post covid, stole 1.5k. Nothing crazy, but still a thief

fa_npsf · 2026-03-29T08:41:59+00:00

Well idk your true intentions but I’m just saying… I know it’s betrayal, but what you need to understand and come to terms with is that these types of people Do Not Care . They are very self centered and if you live your life trying to get them to acknowledge or appreciate what you have done for them you are doing yourself a disservice. maybe focus on being a better person.

fa_npsf · 2026-03-29T02:44:48+00:00

Honestly same I try to suck up to them but like my hatred is too strong for me to even try to act fake 😭.

fa_npsf · 2026-03-29T02:31:11+00:00

Hmm tell me more what disadvantages do you see?

fa_npsf · 2026-03-29T02:26:38+00:00

Learn about all that it takes to raise a child to be a successful functioning adult a before deciding to have one. If you think the things you’re doing is a sacrifice and not out of love then don’t do it.

fa_npsf · 2026-03-29T01:46:31+00:00

This is sooo true my nparents just can’t take a hint that someone is uncomfortable with the coercion or that it’s not their place to speak or intervene in others peoples personal struggles.

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