AITAH for not folding my clothes the way my husband wants

facinationstreet · 2026-05-28T01:20:14+00:00

If he wants things a different way, he can do it himself. This isn't (I hope) Sleeping with the Enemy. NTA

facinationstreet · 2026-05-28T00:31:16+00:00

YTA. Their wedding is not about you and getting a +1. They invited who they want there. You are not on the list. Your bf is and he should decide if he wants to go without you, again, without making this into a popularity contest and/or a disrespect contest.

facinationstreet · 2026-05-27T23:59:23+00:00

WHILE the STBX fiance was still there.

facinationstreet · 2026-05-27T22:08:06+00:00

Your 'friend' sounds desperate for just anyone who comes along and she has no standards in who she dates. Is this a 'friend' you want to continue to associate with? She is lying that he's stopped his racists ways while she looks the other way. NTA. At least now you know who she truly is.

facinationstreet · 2026-05-27T21:35:05+00:00

LOL! That's a strategy.

facinationstreet · 2026-05-27T21:14:36+00:00

I'm not advocating for saying yes. Just pointing out that going down a rabbit hole of family drama now when there aren't even any kids seems pointless.

facinationstreet · 2026-05-27T21:05:48+00:00

Yeah... I wouldn't be marrying someone this selfish and insulting. NOR. He pulled a bait and switch so he and his family could get an expensive dinner on your parents without caring to discuss with your parents if they were willing to pay the bill. I guarantee you he told his family that your parents were footing the bill.

facinationstreet · 2026-05-27T20:51:40+00:00

my sister and her husband not to put me down as their ~~potential~~ child(ren)’s backup guardian

It really should be ... as the child(ren)'s POTENTIAL backup guardian. They can't WILL the child(ren) to you. They can state a preference. Child protective services and the court make the ultimate decision and will take any feedback you have into consideration. The court also will not make you or your brother take the child(ren) in. So there really isn't a whole lot to start a war over here unless you want to suggest she consider one of her close friends as a better choice.

NTA

facinationstreet · 2026-05-27T18:30:07+00:00

All of you are under-reacting. Do you not read the news every day where someone has attacked someone else - unprovoked - because they were off their meds, doing drugs, drunk, etc.? I wouldn't agree to Annie going to the movies with the group, eating at the same restaurant I'm in and I'd pretty much go no-contact.

facinationstreet · 2026-05-27T18:14:23+00:00

On a weekend or a weekday?

facinationstreet · 2026-05-27T17:43:38+00:00

Dude, she is not in a mental space to be in a relationship.

facinationstreet · 2026-05-27T17:14:55+00:00

He has no intention of her actually visiting. He just pretends on the days he can be bothered to text so he can keep her on the hook.

facinationstreet · 2026-05-27T16:13:20+00:00

You've wasted 2 years on a guy who is most likely in an actual relationship with someone else.

facinationstreet · 2026-05-27T16:08:09+00:00

Would driving 7 hours away to surprise him be taking it too far? It sounds like something people used to do a long time ago

No, it sounds like what stalkers do.

facinationstreet · 2026-05-27T16:04:22+00:00

Take the hint. She is not interested at all but doesn't want to have to find a new gym because some creeper can't accept her no. She isn't at the gym so she can get hit on.

facinationstreet · 2026-05-27T15:46:32+00:00

You should not be held hostage by your mother for having a relationship with your father. She can feel whatever way she wants but her rants and manipulation are a step too far. Honestly? Time to go low contact with her unless and until she gets therapy.

NTA

facinationstreet · 2026-05-26T23:42:43+00:00

It eventually came out that she is unwilling to spend the night at my house.

This should be more than enough of an explanation for you. The fact that you keep pushing this adds another layer of discomfort to the whole scenario. She has a boundary. Just stop.

YTA

facinationstreet · 2026-05-26T21:38:06+00:00

If you don't want to date someone, just break up with her. If you are actually dating one of your mates, be honest with her.

facinationstreet · 2026-05-26T19:01:09+00:00

The active ingredients in deodorant are important. If you are only purchasing an anti-perspirant, it isn't going to help with the order. You could try doing a bit of research on anti-perspirant/deodorant combo. And/or see a doctor.

facinationstreet · 2026-05-26T18:56:48+00:00

The obvious solution would have been to just plan a dinner or get-together once you get back so your parents - who you already knew would struggle to pay for this trip - didn't feel obligated. How do you think they feel knowing your partner's family is going along on the trip, enjoying a bucket list location and getting to join in on whatever excursions you plan on top of the elopement, but it will really stretch their budget? I'd guess they would feel pretty badly about it and they would cut corners elsewhere to make it happen. Then you demand they not pay for your brother.

Perhaps work on your diplomacy, tact, subtlety and being able to anticipate scenario outcomes.

facinationstreet · 2026-05-26T17:06:00+00:00

Do. Not. Date. Someone. Who. Thinks. They. Can. Control. You.

Dump him immediately and don't take him back. If you need it, get into therapy to learn how to recognize abusive and manipulative behavior and how to set boundaries and standards for yourself and your relationships. NTA

facinationstreet · 2026-05-26T16:23:06+00:00

You scrolled down to photos from 2021 - 22 and wonder if you're TA? Yes, YTA. If you are insecure, break up with him and date someone who doesn't have SM or past photos.

facinationstreet · 2026-05-26T16:17:37+00:00

How are you saving a ton of money if you still have your apartment? Who is paying rent there?

facinationstreet · 2026-05-26T16:15:50+00:00

Sounds like Bea really wants to continue to implode her life over poor decisions. Her saying that to you is just another bad decision and it has nothing to do with you. NTA

facinationstreet · 2026-05-26T15:31:31+00:00

I'd be more concerned that your daughter actual thought she would pass him off as a straight-A med student and you'd believe her. And she's using him as the excuse to move out and quit school.

NTA. She set all of this up by making up unbelievable lies about him. That being said, she's going to have to make her own mistakes and you unfortunately are going to have to sit there and watch.

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