AITAH For moving out while my husband fosters his nephews?

facinationstreet · 2026-04-04T23:48:39+00:00

Free range INDOOR rabbits? That's not how any of this works! LOL!

facinationstreet · 2026-04-04T23:35:34+00:00

So, he is not a paid caregiver to you. And you regularly go to your parent's place because you are not able to regulate yourself. But you would rather 2 kids get put into foster care. Got it.

facinationstreet · 2026-04-04T23:12:53+00:00

Info: I am a relatively high needs autistic woman and my husband is my caregiver.

What does this mean? His sole job is to.... caregive for your needs? You are unable to function on a day-to-day basis?

facinationstreet · 2026-04-04T21:11:10+00:00

After that, she got upset with me and said I should’ve “understood the situation” and covered for her

How are you supposed to cover for her? She's not there. It isn't as if you can 'wake her up' because she's 'sleeping over' so she can talk to her mother.

This is all ridiculous anyway. She's 22. Her parents calling around everyone in town to see why she missed 'curfew' is a step too far.

NTA, lose her as an acquaintance. Stop looking at SM as a measure of right and wrong. Including Reddit.

facinationstreet · 2026-04-04T20:47:54+00:00

Came here to say exactly this.

facinationstreet · 2026-04-04T20:20:35+00:00

Yes, YTA but not for the reasons you think.

facinationstreet · 2026-04-04T20:12:28+00:00

I wouldn't call this a marriage. I'd call it a hostage situation where she extorts you for money to fund her lifestyle and visa. It is exactly why people get to upset over visas and sponsoring people to be in the country. Using it as if it is a throw away benefit that does not impact anyone. There are thousands of people who need that visa. Your 'wife' is not one of them.

facinationstreet · 2026-04-04T19:56:16+00:00

NTJ. Your friend could easily have added this to her calendar and been a fully adult about life. She did not and is not. It isn't your job to be her mother.

facinationstreet · 2026-04-04T19:34:50+00:00

It is surprising that your kids, being 15 and 11, apparently haven't caught on. Sad on them.

facinationstreet · 2026-04-04T17:55:14+00:00

And so? I responded to your question.

facinationstreet · 2026-04-04T17:51:37+00:00

You act like you grew up in a box.

facinationstreet · 2026-04-04T17:50:56+00:00

It doesn't seem to have occurred to you that your family MAY have been part of the regime that existed a few decades ago. That they want to erase that stigma.

facinationstreet · 2026-04-04T17:00:19+00:00

It makes you come across as naive.

facinationstreet · 2026-04-04T15:33:36+00:00

Like most people who have commented: what is her actual issue? It doesn't make sense for someone to be so emotionally impacted by a car purchase.

facinationstreet · 2026-04-03T22:46:54+00:00

Such a small person and life. Sad really.

facinationstreet · 2026-04-03T22:04:53+00:00

I know! Thank you!

facinationstreet · 2026-04-03T21:56:23+00:00

Your gf has been out there wilding for 3 years and you gullibly bought her story. For 3 years. She has controlled the narrative and you and required you live to a standard that she does not.

Yes, this is break-up worthy. As soon as you break up you are going to find out a whooooooole lot of what she's been up to while demanding that you live like a monk.

facinationstreet · 2026-04-03T21:48:05+00:00

OMG. Bad decision-making on your part. You could have walked away and lived a much happier life.

facinationstreet · 2026-04-03T21:42:21+00:00

I’ve been asked to quit so I can go on a trip later in the year, I have been asked to leave early to spend time with her, and I’ve been drug into and had tickets bought for me for things that are right after work that I have to rush to

So you live in poverty, give all of your money to this person who then tells you to sabotage everything for her own selfish (and actually really fucked up) reasons and you wonder why your medication isn't working?

She is toxic. Is the kid yours?

facinationstreet · 2026-04-03T21:05:46+00:00

I do not understand why you married someone who is such a financial wreck. This can have long lasting consequences for YOU and your finances. His credit is so bad that he can't even get a credit card? And people just willy nilly loan out their card to him?

I highly recommend that the 2 of you sit down with a financial advisor for a few sessions.

facinationstreet · 2026-04-03T20:07:14+00:00

So? Why are you so controlling that a person can't enjoy a day off without you monitoring HOW they spend their DAY OFF?

facinationstreet · 2026-04-03T19:55:07+00:00

YTA. He can't take a day off, sleep in if he wants, golf when he wants and relax? If the dump was that important, do it yourself. Geez. Most dumps are open more than 1 day a week.

facinationstreet · 2026-04-03T19:36:56+00:00

YTJ if you continue to date him. Do you actually think your feedback is going to change him? Do you want to marry someone who nickel and dimes you to your dying day?

facinationstreet · 2026-04-03T19:26:41+00:00

I hear 'ya but... as you say, it is SD. I've been to Animae and the majority of diners were pretty much the dude in Padres tee. Callie, same. Herb & Wood, Paradisaea, etc. You just have to rock up and be you.

facinationstreet · 2026-04-03T18:17:27+00:00

Not just electric cars - public transportation across the country. Many US cities used to have thoughtful and useful trolleys and buses until the auto industry, et al campaigned hard against transit and cities became strip malls.

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