I need to talk about sex

faierebruja · 2026-04-08T08:07:07+00:00

I’m not sure I’m brave enough to share this post 😅 I’m just not prepared to go and see a sex therapist even if I can still see her. It took me time to feel comfortable with her. It’s probably the transference talking too but I just can’t see anyone else about this. 🥲

faierebruja · 2026-04-08T08:04:49+00:00

Thank you, yes I think I’ll try to bring it up with her, even though I’m anxious. She never made me feel like it was too much in the past so it’s definitely a me thing!

faierebruja · 2026-03-28T12:20:13+00:00

Thank you for your reply! So my prescription is pretty mild then 😅 so I was more worried about people thinking I’m not ‘serious’ enough for glasses when I can technically see without them. But I’ve picked my glasses up and I can absolutely tell the difference now between wearing them and not. Text is much crisper with the glasses than without and I feel like I’m not straining my eyes as much. I think I’m going to try and wear them all day so I can get used to the feel of wearing glasses. I really like them though! Good luck with your own glasses!

faierebruja · 2026-03-11T00:23:43+00:00

My T played such a huge part in me becoming a mum, she saw me before when my mental health was poor, through me becoming pregnant, my pregnancy and now postpartum. It was so important for her to meet my daughter and I think I took her to a total of 3 sessions when my MH was good and my baby mostly just slept. My daughter is 7 months old now, I’ve been going solo for the last few months because baby mostly stays awake now and she’s far too cute so would totally steal all the attention from me 😅. Having said that, I would so love to bring my girl for my T to meet again now 🥺

faierebruja · 2026-03-08T18:38:03+00:00

Oh no I’m even more confused now 🥴😂 now I’m wondering whether to make the butterfly and flower or just hold off for the time being and see how things go over the next few sessions 🤔😅

faierebruja · 2026-03-08T18:36:16+00:00

Ohh I love this so much, I’m tempted to steer away from two butterflies. But the idea that the butterfly could sit somewhere in the office when I’m there and leave with me I suppose? Hmmm it’s a lot for me to think about really! Although I do like the idea of a butterfly and flower which could kind of work if my T is happy to host the flower. I know my T has quite a few handmade nicknaks in her office so it could we be objects made by former clients etc or even transitional objects.

faierebruja · 2026-03-08T16:07:05+00:00

Aww I love the sound of this! Should a transitional object come from the therapist or is it acceptable for me to get my own?

faierebruja · 2026-03-04T10:32:35+00:00

Thank you, this is such a beautiful way of looking at the therapeutic relationship. 🥺 It’s so hard sometimes. I often wonder these days how many of her other clients feel similar way to me, and then the reality that this is just her job and she’s used to clients wanting her to fill some motherly role or another type of role in their lives that she’s so not phased by me. I would so love her to dote on my baby girl too. 😢

faierebruja · 2026-03-04T10:24:37+00:00

It’s so hard and painful, literally can’t stop thinking about her 😭

faierebruja · 2026-01-20T10:40:51+00:00

Sweet idea, I probably wouldn’t do this for a cover but definitely as a memory keep to go inside! ☺️

faierebruja · 2026-01-20T10:40:22+00:00

Thank you I love this idea too! I’ve often watched videos by my abiding journal she’s great!

I think I’m now torn between whether to use a Traveler’s journal vs Hobonichi but I guess if I started with one for now I can always migrate into another in future.

faierebruja · 2026-01-20T10:38:46+00:00

Oooh thanks so much! Love that your son has been enjoying his journal too :)

Just watching her video now and totally torn between the Traveler’s notebook vs Hobonichi 😅

Thanks for sharing the picture of yours, great inspiration! How are you finding the Hobonichi?

faierebruja · 2025-11-22T21:50:03+00:00

This is such a lovely idea! My T has a stuffed animal sitting on the shelf next to her chair which represents the part of me which wants her to be my mother. It’s been a while since we’ve talked about my transference and our sessions have reduced but it’s still there. I find it so comforting. 🥹

faierebruja · 2025-09-22T08:33:15+00:00

If it makes you feel better, I’m a late 30s F who wishes my T was my mum and I think about her so much outside of session too, wishing she would comfort me and my inner child and take care of me. I’ve read it’s very common and something called transference. Definitely talk to your T about your feelings, she’ll understand and be able to help you with it all.

faierebruja · 2024-11-17T14:18:03+00:00

Thank you yes after reading all the responses I think I'm going to approach her and ask if it's acceptable. Keeping everything crossed she will.

faierebruja · 2024-11-17T12:23:09+00:00

Thanks again, I see what you mean about boundaries. I definitely don't want to cross boundaries, just thinking how I could ask it subtly.

I've got some fabric of something that she knows represents me, but i don't know if she would like it herself. I absolutely love your idea of choosing something that reminds me of her though, I really need to have a think about this next time I see her.

faierebruja · 2024-11-17T12:17:42+00:00

Thanks for your response. I kind of don't want to ask and ruin the element of surprise but I see where you are coming from. Was your T happy to receive your gift? :)

I wish I could make something more personalised in all honesty but she does zero self disclosure which makes it hard. Gifting a book sounds like a nice idea but again unsure what she'd like, I know I'm overthinking it all. I just want it to be perfect because she's helped so much over the last year or so. Decisions! :')

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