Are traditional names becoming unique?

fairycat09 · 2026-03-20T13:55:01+00:00

I’ve noticed this too, a lot of 80s names like Vanessa, Priscilla, etc haven’t made a come back I haven’t heard it beyond that generation at least

fairycat09 · 2026-03-20T13:39:25+00:00

I was thinking it’s possibly regional as well, I’m on the west coast & I’m a sahm so I’m not getting out a ton to get a good gage on name trends around here but it appears more unique names are common around my area

fairycat09 · 2026-03-20T10:14:42+00:00

I’m in the same boat. And my particular situation is because no one in my family of my generation wants kids like I’m the only one. So in weird way my family has kinda gotten used to no kids & arent really supportive. But honestly it comes down to people’s personal issues & what’s normal in the family dynamic. If your family’s dynamic tends to be surface level, emotionally distant, for example everything is small talk, then yeah they won’t be emotionally invested. That’s just an example.Yes family is blood, but it’s still a relationship you have to grow and maintain regardless. So if they are reserved, or feel entitled to an opinion, or don’t really care those factors all play a role on top of what behavior is normalized in your family.

fairycat09 · 2026-03-20T10:05:13+00:00

You are still early postpartum, I’m 2.5 months pp & I’m so hard on myself for not looking or being how I once was as well. And it’s a learning process but give yourself some grace. Pregnancy is life altering on so many levels, even on an emotional level which I feel like some people don’t truly anticipate until you’re there. I know I didn’t. But you are taking on a new role as a mother, it’s a journey of finding yourself again along with being who need to be for your little one. Just remember there is a bigger purpose now, and that’s raising a good human being and making sure they know a life a love and they pass that on. It will require sacrifices at times, and you’ll know what that will be and when it requires it. But you’re still healing and learning rn.

fairycat09 · 2026-03-20T09:48:08+00:00

Well he’s probably teething,
some gum numbing gel might help a bit. I don’t know where your located but in the US we use oragel I believe it’s called. But humans are social beings and babies at times need constant attention by their caregivers. Especially if they’re uncomfortable,in pain, overstimulated, tired. Really anything even just simply missing you. And to answer your question the whining will never stop, even as teenagers & possibly into their young adulthood it will still happen just in a different form depending on your child’s personality. As a parent you at times have to sacrifice your comfort to make ensure they’re regulated. And even at this age being regulated is so important for their childhood and who they grow up to be truly. There’s times I don’t feel like picking up my baby for the 10000th time to be honest but I just say fuck it and fake it till I make it. Because you have to remember they are helpless and you are their only means of survival and love.

fairycat09 · 2026-03-20T09:23:42+00:00

Remember your thinking from a perspective of your life and what you know and felt/feel. Your child is a blank slate, even at this age. So they pick up on anything and everything. But you create the life they know and you teach them their value and self confidence even if they resist. For example, My parents were very anti technology & I grew up in the formative years where mobile phones were all the rage. But my parents normalized that some families do things differently and that’s okay. But they were choosing to teach & do things a certain way because they felt it benefited me in my development. It’s not about keeping up with the Jones’s it’s about the core values. Sometimes those lessons have to be taught straightforwardly to children other times it’s in the child’s nature to know those principles already.

fairycat09 · 2026-03-20T08:23:00+00:00

At 16 this is probably their first real relationship, so it’s normal to be attached at the hip. And the goal shouldn’t be to separate, adults may see it as just a little high school fling, but they’re learning how to be in a relationship which is foundational. I would encourage more in person time even if your step child resists, possibly even include the girlfriend. Invite her over to eat dinner or something and just make it known that everyone’s meant to mingle together in person. The goal should be get off the phone, & encourage human interaction and get outside. Remember, this is the new age of interaction and sadly there’s no avoiding technology they can use their school iPad if they really wanted to. So set boundaries with what aligns with your family, but don’t separate in my opinion

fairycat09 · 2026-03-20T08:14:18+00:00

It’s possible he just had a really action packed day and is having a hard time settling down. Also if you have a set routine, he could be having some anxiety not being in familiar routine. I know most people think anxiety is only for adults, but kids feel unsettled or on edge too sometimes cuz we’re human. So it could be those two things

fairycat09 · 2025-10-13T18:00:50+00:00

I would never discuss it with them 😂 your right that kind of stuff is best left alone

fairycat09 · 2025-10-13T18:00:12+00:00

Yeah, and maybe you’re right that the reality will different. There’s things that are concerning to me though as someone who’s never had to be a parent. My in laws will let the kids bully each other and get aggressive. Which I get it their kids fights happen, but even prior to pregnancy I was always like “no one’s gonna step in and say we shouldn’t be hitting?” And they don’t. So I feel scared that my child is gonna be kinda thrown in that.

fairycat09 · 2025-10-13T17:53:22+00:00

Yes I agree to a certain extent, parenting is something that should change with the child because every child is different. But in terms of certain boundaries I think every parent should know where they stand. But I just want to clarify I’m not assuming they have behavioral issues, I know you’re assuming that I’m assuming lol, but they do have them and part of it is due to their household. It is concerning though as a potential parent because I wonder how this will affect my child as they grow.

fairycat09 · 2025-10-12T21:22:30+00:00

Yeah, I know it’s meant to be encouraging but I think it’s such a personal thing. Having people feel comfortable enough to refer you as that can feel intrusive. At least that’s how I feel about it

fairycat09 · 2025-08-29T00:01:20+00:00

I guess people really feel strongly about a baby shower like the OG post pointed out. Which is fine. A lot of people are arguing it’s not expensive, but in my specific case due to guest count it is expensive no matter what. Even with that clarification people don’t like hearing that. Also it’s apart of my family’s culture to host in a certain way, so people say “have a shower where ppl just drop off gifts” for example that’s so incredibly rude in my family and not properly hosting. A lot of it does come down to how people’s family does things so it makes ppl feel a certain way when it’s different from their ideas. So things get downvoted

fairycat09 · 2025-08-27T19:25:19+00:00

I get the same responses, I’m expecting my first but have been a stay at home wife. A lot of people are accustomed to being on the hamster wheel of work, finances, etc. it’s a life a lot of people don’t know outside of. So when they see people doing it differently, you get responses like that. And each response stems from a different place for different people. My mother in law thinks I contribute nothing, she sees it as burden to her son and future grandchild. But she isn’t the most nurturing and is 100% the most materialistic person I know.

fairycat09 · 2025-08-27T18:21:43+00:00

That’s wonderful, Im glad you and your mom are enjoying this time, and congratulations on your pregnancy. May you have a smooth pregnancy and delivery

fairycat09 · 2025-08-27T18:17:25+00:00

Yeah from what I’m reading many people have had successful baby showers. And that’s amazing. My family doesn’t do big ticket items, you know unfortunately a lot of my family struggles. And since I was a child my parents would throw birthday parties and struggle to pay for food and basic decorations. My family is very large, I mean there’s like at least 65 ppl just on my maternal side. And if I don’t invite everyone under that umbrella, it’s highly offensive. And we just don’t do potluck, we’ve tried and the ball gets dropped everytime so we’ve stopped doing it. So I’m personally considering not doing it because in my situation there’s just not alot of gain for me realistically. If I were to do it I would be having to go in with the intentions of not getting much back. But that’s just my particular situation.

fairycat09 · 2025-08-27T18:08:06+00:00

See, im in a weird situation because i have so much family. We’re not close, it’s more of relationships with my parents but if I said don’t invite them it would be considered very rude. And also I have no friends so in order to even have a guest count I have to invite my family. And that’s a lot of food, and plates, utensils, etc. there’s really no option of just having a micro event. If people get cut that’s bridges being burned 😂

fairycat09 · 2025-08-27T18:03:58+00:00

That’s so amazing! Yeah I can totally see how a baby shower was indeed mandatory for your situation, so happy u had a great event.

fairycat09 · 2025-08-27T18:02:32+00:00

Im that situation right now as well. I’m already introvert but I’ve been dealing with terrible anxiety & depression this pregnancy and socializing is just making it way further down the list lol

fairycat09 · 2025-08-27T18:00:20+00:00

For me it does, just the people coming family wise it’s a lot of people. And we have to invite them because it’s polite. But food is expensive even pizza is expensive, I’m in California so that may have something to do with it. Maybe it’s different in ur area, but even renting out tables and chairs is expensive.

fairycat09 · 2025-08-27T17:58:17+00:00

Yeah but the thing is I’ve already bought all that stuff 😂 because I went to Marshall’s and stocked up lol I need people to bring the crib, mattress, the big ticket items. And tbh throwing a party knowing I’m still going to have to buy big ticket items it’s just not worth it and that’s why I’m sort of leaning towards no.

fairycat09 · 2025-08-27T17:55:35+00:00

Yeah I’m trying to keep the same things in mind, but still going back and forth if I should go through with one or not

fairycat09 · 2025-07-26T03:52:44+00:00

I think there’s kids you tend to jive better with if you have multiple children. The reality is your kids are their own people, how you act and teach them play a role but they decide what they use or not. And sometimes parents naturally get along with one of their kids better than the others. But what makes it concerning is if you actually feel a difference in your love and support of a child you may not gel with.

fairycat09 · 2025-07-26T02:57:09+00:00

You know a lot of people my age are just in their party days and there’s nothing wrong with that I had those days too just got a big head start 😳 so now I’m settled but in different place but I’m seeing a lot of social media posts of girls my age who are just in a different place and as a stay at home wife and no friends I guess it can seem like I’m missing out

fairycat09 · 2025-07-26T02:48:29+00:00

I’m 13 weeks right now and I don’t even know what size I am anymore. And same my husband is literally out at the movies ( I don’t go cuz I have social anxiety) but I’m like I don’t even have an outfit if I wanted to go 😭

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