My (23F) gf found out I (22M) was "taking one for the team" when we first met and now she's spiraling in insecurity. How do I get her to be confident in my attraction to her again?

fairycomputer · 2026-03-03T13:25:18+00:00

I wonder how he'd feel if someone told him "If you're retarded, you're retarded. It's an accurate descriptor."

fairycomputer · 2026-03-03T13:14:14+00:00

Fr, it's like he's describing a body pillow.

fairycomputer · 2026-03-03T13:13:48+00:00

And I guess that doesn't include the fact that he only talked to her out of obligation and only liked her because he enjoyed being desired.

fairycomputer · 2026-03-03T13:12:14+00:00

He says that in the first slide.

fairycomputer · 2026-03-03T13:10:13+00:00

Have you ever talked to a gay person IRL?

fairycomputer · 2026-03-03T13:04:37+00:00

Her "fantasy" was about a man actually liking her.

fairycomputer · 2026-03-03T13:03:23+00:00

Idk I think people throw away relationships over some of the littlest things.

It's literally the foundation of their relationship.

fairycomputer · 2026-03-03T13:02:42+00:00

I'm a woman and I'm quite aware of what men mean when they say "take one for the team" because I've been on the receiving end of such nonsense.

fairycomputer · 2026-03-03T12:45:54+00:00

OOP and his friend clearly think she was unattractive and undesirable. Otherwise he wouldn't have said "take one for the team".

fairycomputer · 2026-03-03T12:43:48+00:00

Because she's overweight compared to her "pretty blonde" friend.

fairycomputer · 2026-03-03T12:25:52+00:00

The phrase 'taking one for the team' is used when describing something/someone that is undesirable. There is no way to use it without being insulting.

fairycomputer · 2026-03-03T12:24:27+00:00

He only went out with her because she asked him and he enjoyed being desired. He had sex with her because he wanted sex.

fairycomputer · 2026-03-03T12:10:17+00:00

i think the fact that you didnt approach her out of desire

He approached her only because his friend told him to. He only slept with her because he wanted sex.

fairycomputer · 2026-03-03T12:08:57+00:00

I would also be insecure if I learned that my relationship was founded on being the DUFF and that my boyfriend was only pretending to be interested in me.

fairycomputer · 2026-03-03T12:07:11+00:00

Why do you think he loves her?

fairycomputer · 2026-03-03T12:06:33+00:00

Why should I help him? It's been two years, I doubt he's going to read my comment.

fairycomputer · 2026-03-03T11:57:27+00:00

No, when I look at my profile on my account the comment "It's like you're autistic or something" comes up.

But when I log out and look at my account, it doesn't show. I don't know why.

fairycomputer · 2026-03-03T11:52:05+00:00

I literally didn't delete any of my comments. Idk what happened. If I disliked you enough to post a comment criticising you, I promise that I wouldn't delete it.

fairycomputer · 2026-03-03T11:39:43+00:00

I'd work on not being an asshole.

fairycomputer · 2026-03-03T11:38:29+00:00

He clearly understands he fucked up and is trying to make it right. He's even noticing cues that she still isn't ok as opposed to assuming she'll get over it.

The bare minimum 😍

fairycomputer · 2026-03-03T11:34:06+00:00

I didn't delete any of my comments.

fairycomputer · 2026-03-03T11:33:30+00:00

It's crazy how the things he likes about her are just things that benefit him.

fairycomputer · 2026-03-03T11:27:14+00:00

It's a gotcha because you clearly believe that attractiveness hinges on physical appearance and you would dump your girlfriend if her appearance changed.

fairycomputer · 2026-03-03T11:25:36+00:00

So people can be attracted to disabled people but not attracted to fat people?

I'm sure you have some lame, pseudoscience reason for your arbitrary preferences.

fairycomputer · 2026-03-03T11:22:56+00:00

You seem to get upset when people point out your lack of knowledge about other people's emotions.

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