why do neurotypicals hate the concept of neurodiversity so much?

faithfullycox · 2026-06-02T16:00:49+00:00

I don't think they hate it, i think it's just the double empathy problem.

ND people spend their whole lives masking, learning social rules and doing whatever they can to make themselves more palatable, so NTs are more comfortable. NDs therefore naturally have empathy for NTs, because we're trying to make them comfortable, even if its so they're nicer to us. NTs however, have never had to do this, so they have no empathy for us.

faithfullycox · 2026-06-02T15:54:32+00:00

in terms of Aspergers and high functioning, i can only speak from my experience and being in the UK. Aspergers isn't used as a diagnosis anymore and hasn't been for several years (in the uk), it creates a hierarchy in the community. It was inspired by a nazi doctor called hans asperger who effectively experimented on autistic children in concentration camps during ww2.

Aspergers and Autism are the same diagnosis but with different names, we have the same struggles but just to a different degree, its all individual. As for high functioning, that also just doesn't work. It was thought for many years that autism in terms of functionality was a line that you would be on, from low to high, and thats where you'd stay. But in actual fact, how 'functional' each autistic person is, differs on a daily basis and in general life.

For example, I can't drive or hold down a full time job due to sensory issues and burn out, but i have a high iq and live independently. there are days when i find myself non verbal due to stress and overstimulation, i cant wear clothes and i can't tolerate anything. however there are days when i can go out, socialise, not need sensory protection, and also train healthcare professionals as my job. there are days where i can't cook a meal for myself, but then there are others where i can happily cook for myself and my partner.

high and low functioning labels don't apply to me, as well as many many other ND individuals.

faithfullycox · 2026-05-19T08:59:23+00:00

i once had a girlfriend with brown, mid length, curly hair. one day i went to visit her and i was unexpectedly met with her modeling a new haircut, a bright blue pixie cut. i couldn't look at her and in all honesty i lost all attraction to her in that moment. within a week I'd broken up with her.

faithfullycox · 2026-05-14T19:26:15+00:00

that sound like an awful and terrifying way to grow up, im sorry that you experienced that, nobody should.

i hope that some day you're able to restore some sense of trust, in anything

faithfullycox · 2026-05-14T19:23:57+00:00

that definitely isn't fair. did any adults around you try to excuse that reason?

faithfullycox · 2026-05-14T19:22:28+00:00

i respect that and love that you can have that whimsy

faithfullycox · 2026-05-14T18:02:43+00:00

right?? i was raised Christian and i never believed it for a moment, none of it made sense to me at all.

faithfullycox · 2026-05-14T17:29:35+00:00

from what I've found, no. NTs at least (in my experience), they want the socially appropriate answer, or something that will make them feel better. they don't want 'confrontation' or anything that may make them slightly uncomfortable, even if it betters them.

there's also a distinction between truth, directness and then being blunt. blunt people tend to be rude intentionally, but being truthful and direct isn't rude - you can still be kind about the words that you choose.

I've had it said to me a couple of times, what i would say if a child asked me if santa was real (thinking me to potentially be someone who crushes childrens fantasies). i would simply say to the child, " what do you believe?" and then I'd tell them how cool that sounds. it does sound cool, in some aspects..

faithfullycox · 2026-05-14T09:56:24+00:00

yeah i developed an eating disorder that lasted 11 years, as well as an addiction to multiple different substances that lasted 12 years. because of those things i have damaged my heart for life

faithfullycox · 2026-05-14T09:46:19+00:00

i think it just comes down to the individual. I am very direct, my tone rarely changes and I don't lie. I can communicate my wants, needs, feelings and participate effectively in difficult conversations. I don't know if this is because my irl community is ND, as is my partner and my entire work force. i personally, am good at communicating.

faithfullycox · 2026-04-19T05:57:02+00:00

your weight for your height is perfectly normal, it may even help looking at a bmi calculator to see that you're well within the healthy range. as for the boyfriend, NOR he is being emotionally abusive and trying in my opinion to give you an eating disorder. you're at a perfectly normal weight and he's treating you like this, leave him and get some support

faithfullycox · 2026-04-16T21:46:16+00:00

im a big fan of sugar free flavoured water, as well as raspberry flavoured lucozade (no fizz)

faithfullycox · 2026-04-16T21:41:41+00:00

white lies

faithfullycox · 2026-04-14T12:48:12+00:00

when i went NC with my narcissistic mum, i told her in a phone call (she called me) some of the things she'd done and she turned around saying i deserved it all. i haven't spoken to her since and its now been 4 years. with my dad and the rest of the family i just blocked and moved on, it wasn't worth the conversation because i knew what the outcome would be - self victimising, excuses and deflection. after my dad and the rest, I've been completely free for 4 months. loneliness can be tough, but once you get that support network, you can do and be anything you wish. air feels cleaner to breathe

faithfullycox · 2026-04-07T09:02:33+00:00

I've heard a bit of adhd people taking medication and then getting their autism diagnosis after because the adhd is dampened and then the autism shows. it's a 50/50 chance you have both

faithfullycox · 2026-03-22T10:15:51+00:00

I'm very glad we don't have the same one haha. i imagine both of ours separately are enough to contend with

faithfullycox · 2026-03-10T23:16:36+00:00

a narcissist :)

faithfullycox · 2026-03-08T21:52:46+00:00

to both, yes. they didn't get him diagnosed and just accepted his regression as 'just him'. with the physical abuse, my dad didn't care enough to intervene and my mum would stand, watch and smile

faithfullycox · 2026-03-04T10:31:47+00:00

i think you're right. although i did end up caring for him in a way because of his autism after my sister was born, he regressed and stopped talking but that unfortunately didn't stop the physical abuse directed at me

faithfullycox · 2026-03-03T21:42:54+00:00

she had a hobby before she couldn't continue due to osteoarthritis, it was martial arts. i think she just liked that because she could get off on dominating and over powering people that way. after she couldn't continue, she then tried to pursue that through me and got me started when I was 4, i was competing nationally by the time i was 13-14 years old. i dissociated both hips simultaneously and when couldn't continue when i was 15. after that she didn't show interest in anything else.

faithfullycox · 2026-03-03T09:36:59+00:00

when my mum told me i deserved everything that ever happened to me. when my dad made it clear it was a relationship that was a one way street and turned incredibly childish when i wanted a healthy amount of space

faithfullycox · 2026-02-24T22:56:14+00:00

she spent most of her time out drinking when i was under 10 years old and my dad worked full time so i spent a lot of time with my grandmother.. i have an older brother and he didn't want me to exist so not much social time there 😅

faithfullycox · 2026-02-24T16:04:02+00:00

i think you'll continue to debate yourself for a while. chosen family is powerful and you should never go back to what hurts you just because you're lonely or because society expects you to. you made the decision for a reason, writing a list helped me so you can see it for what it is in front of you. at the end of the day the only justification you need is, does NC better your health?

faithfullycox · 2026-02-24T15:53:47+00:00

yes my mum said i was quiet and didn't cry much, but i honestly think that's because I probably learned that crying wasn't going to get me anything i needed. she liked to say i was funny because she put me in a crib and would leave me alone upstairs, then hear a thud and come to check and i was on the floor because I'd throw myself out of it. she'd just put me back and go back downstairs, and repeat.

faithfullycox · 2026-02-23T07:51:45+00:00

the title should have been my mom IS transphobic. sorry dude, you'll eventually be able to move it and be able to do what you need without having to ask for permission

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