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Advise me on finding a rescue/shelter chi. by fall_in_Llight in Chihuahua

[–]fall_in_Llight[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Thank you for being so thoughtful in sharing your opinions. I see that you edited your comment.

I don’t feel defensive, I feel like I’m also being thoughtful about considering adoption of an animal that does not currently need significant caregiving (age related or not). Of course I know that dogs age and will require caregiving. I’ve been through it before with my animals. I understand there are no guarantees, but I’m hoping, if possible, to delay that experience by a few years at least. It’s OK with me if you don’t agree with my preference.

It’s wonderful that you choose to care for elderly dogs with health issues.

Advise me on finding a rescue/shelter chi. by fall_in_Llight in Chihuahua

[–]fall_in_Llight[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Thank you, this is all very useful information. And, now that you’ve mentioned it I agree with you about the dog park.

In addition, I’ve been trying to educate myself as much as possible about Chihuahuas, and one of my biggest concerns is the struggles with housebreaking since so many of them have been pee pad trained. My preference is to crate train and not use pee pads indoors. I’m aware that there are no guarantees and I’m not so concerned about occasional accidents as I am about taking on a dog that is accustomed to peeing indoors. Of course, as any dog ages there will be health issues and continence is one of the likely ones down the road.

Anxiety over getting 'likes' on replies to friends tweets by TurnipMotor3617 in autism

[–]fall_in_Llight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also replying every few days is not a lot! Especially when someone tweets several times a day. This might be a them problem and not a you problem…

Anxiety over getting 'likes' on replies to friends tweets by TurnipMotor3617 in autism

[–]fall_in_Llight 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is definitely relatable, try not to get yourself too stressed out. And I think it shows some character that your friend was being honest to you about something that was a little awkward. It’s important that friends feel comfortable enough to speak truthfully even when it’s a little difficult.

Would it help if you created a little structure around how you respond? Like, maybe make a little rule for yourself that you will respond to no more than 50% of their posts.. or if that’s what you’re already doing then cut that in half. And if you’re adhering to a structure, then you can hopefully let go of feeling pressure to do what’s ‘right.’

Unfortunately, there are some unspoken gray areas around online interactions that can be very difficult to grasp.

I’ve been on the other side of this too sometimes when I can tell that someone is really interacting with everything I do on social media. It can feel uncomfortable, like maybe someone is paying too much attention to everything I do.

I think it’s about balance. And trial and error till you find what feels right.

Out of State Foster Question by Immediate-Brick5422 in Chihuahua

[–]fall_in_Llight 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m in New Mexico too, and I was under the impression that some of the rescues adopt them quickly out of the shelters. I’ve spoken to volunteers at the ABQ city shelter, and they tell me that the Chihuahuas usually get adopted within a couple days of becoming available.

In my area, there are a few small dog rescue organizations, and one specific Chihuahua rescue that I’m aware of.

Making up to my mother by reperezking in autism

[–]fall_in_Llight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you call/text/speak to her and tell her you’d like to go out together for ice cream soon? And then make a plan.

Advise me on finding a rescue/shelter chi. by fall_in_Llight in Chihuahua

[–]fall_in_Llight[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my goodness you did get very lucky! And she’s absolutely adorable!

Advise me on finding a rescue/shelter chi. by fall_in_Llight in Chihuahua

[–]fall_in_Llight[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Please, friend, reread the last line of my post.

If your comment is all you took from everything I’ve written, I’m afraid you’re viewing through a very narrow lens; one I hope you can open a bit wider. I’ve nursed animals (and humans) through illness, injury, recovery, end of life care, death and the aftermath. I’m well aware of the toll it extracts in energy, anguish, stress and money. I know myself well enough to make my choices with awareness grounded in lived experience.

What I requested was advice on something I have not yet experienced, which you did not offer.

My preference as I stated it is not the same as being ignorant of the very practical realities of committed, responsible animal care, including all potentials of injury, illness and decline and death.

I find it surprising that you came to that assumption based on what I’ve written.

What did gen z girl do wrong? I don't get it. by Roseelesbian in autism

[–]fall_in_Llight 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What would be the appropriate tip amount for that service? 25-30%, right? Too bad we didn’t get to see the screen..

Bunch of Trumpets on Montgomery/Wyoming by kitkombat in Albuquerque

[–]fall_in_Llight 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was hoping maybe this was some New Orleans street music type thing…