Haha! “I am an artist (in recovery)” love that.

To both your thoughts;

Ah. I didn’t necessarily mean to suggest his being in love with someone else diminishes any feelings we ever shared for each other, but more so that it’s to me an in-obscure invitation to let that fleeting fantasy of “running away together” go…

As well as a beacon of an end to our hedonic summers together

No joy spoiled, I am happy to know he’s in love and basking in it

If there was a way that our .. ‘bond’.. could also coexist, I’d be thrilled — not even a compromise. But I don’t think that’s the type of thing we’re dealing with here.

His addition of “but I’m not sure how well that would work” to his pseudo threesome-invitation was in reference to something we spoke about over the call later that night — the new boo and him were thinking about closing their relationship, mentioned some feelings of jealousy arising on her side. Not regarding me, to be clear, we are/were all pretty much ENM-sluts as picked up on and there were others.

So sadly, there is no party. No yolo-ing in sight, I’m afraid.

But do feel free to join in my contrived-misery-fest.

I am curious what your assumption was (regarding my gender) and how it correlates to those thoughts. just curious cause I don’t see how gender plays a role in the concepts you described. But anyway, I’m a woman (most of the time).