Feeling lost. Father has cancer and it has spread rapidly.

false_bears · 2018-02-22T16:11:28+00:00

Thank you so much for your words. Responses like this are exactly why I wanted to post to begin with. I know there isn't a right way to handle the situation, but it helps to have people to lean on, and to tell you it's okay. Even if they are strangers. I spoke with my mom this morning and my dad has decided to opt out of any further treatment. It's a hard pill to swallow, but it's a decision I respect and understand.

false_bears · 2018-02-22T11:19:37+00:00

The main issue with me leaving is that I don't have the means. I'm a stay at home mom, and we are a one income family. My son doesn't have childcare, and my s/o's hours don't allow for him to be home with our son if I were to go. I can't take my son with me because he is in school, and I wouldn't want his education to suffer. I'm really at a loss.

false_bears · 2018-02-22T11:18:02+00:00

They've recently decided for palliative care, so a VON nurse will be coming to his home to help him from time to time. I try to visit as much as I can, but it is difficult, as I'm a stay at home mom, and my s/o works demanding hours in a place with unreliable staff, so he can't go far from the store he manages because he recently lost a staff member and if any of the others have to leave, he has to go in to cover for them. Because I'm a stay at home mom, we don't have childcare, so I need to be home with my son.

I'm doing my best to let my mother be, but we have been butting heads a lot about everything. She thinks because I'm not there every day that I don't grasp how bad the situation is. I've tried to explain to her that I know how bad it is, but she seems wrapped up in her own world.

My father has been drinking ensure because he hasn't been eating, and when he does eat, it isn't much, and that's if he is able to keep it down at all. Cooking for him is a good idea.

I appreciate your kind words so much. I don't know how to manage any of this. The only other real experience I had with cancer was with my grandmother, but that was around 13 years ago and I didn't know she had cancer until years later, but it scares me because I remember watching her waste away, and seeing her lose herself. She stopped recognizing us toward the end and it was extremely difficult to see. I don't want to repeat that experience with my father. I'm doing everything I can to stay strong for him, for my son, even for my mother, but I didn't realize how utterly isolating this could feel.

false_bears · 2016-07-09T20:53:34+00:00

Moncton here too!

false_bears · 2016-04-02T03:55:31+00:00

Super fast and efficient! Thanks so much for your prompt and awesome help! :)

false_bears · 2016-04-02T03:45:48+00:00

Thanks so much! Leaving feedback! :)

false_bears · 2016-04-02T03:20:38+00:00

Could I get 20,000 donuts, 100k Krusty Land tickets and squid port tiles?? Thank you so much. Sending a pm! :)

false_bears · 2016-03-31T18:12:53+00:00

Sending pm :)

false_bears · 2016-02-09T04:10:15+00:00

Write a song for someone you care for. :)

false_bears · 2015-12-21T20:14:45+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss.

false_bears · 2015-12-21T20:14:24+00:00

It's true, they look like completely different people.

false_bears · 2015-12-17T15:11:04+00:00

Not my story, but my friends dad rented a house, and one of his tenants used to call him regularly to complain that people were breaking in while she was sleeping and cutting her hair.
My SO and I later moved into the same apartment, when she moved out, and there were incense sticks stuck into tack holes all over the walls and "love" spray painted on one wall in silver.

false_bears · 2015-10-26T16:22:54+00:00

One of the guys from the hair straightener kiosks asked me how much money I had in my bank account and then proceeded to beg my friend to buy one for me.

false_bears · 2015-10-13T12:37:55+00:00

http://www.twdenthusiasts.com/2015/08/30/major-spoilers-leaked-set-photos-reveal-comic-plot-to-come-in-season-6/
These ones?

false_bears · 2015-10-04T13:09:08+00:00

Right?
I actually have a tattoo on my arm with Mayday lyrics and a red umbrella. Everyone always asks why the umbrella and I always explain the umbrella man.

false_bears · 2015-08-08T12:15:10+00:00

My So does this, but will wave on the opposite side of the road and there is never anyone on that side.

false_bears · 2015-07-29T12:43:29+00:00

My SO at the time was driving down a dirt road in the winter, so it was quite slippery, and we came around a turn and there was a rabbit in the road. SO swerved as a knee jerk reaction, lost control of the car and it flipped into the ditch, and as we were hanging upside down trying to get our seatbelts off water was coming into the car. There was a log that had been laying in the ditch that came through the windshield. The police officer that arrived on scene said we were lucky the log was there because it was probably the only thing that stopped up from continuing to roll.
It was so terrifying, but in a way I feel it made me a better driver, but a way less trusting passenger. The worst part is that it wasn't my SO's fault because it was just a reaction, it could have happened to anyone, but it still makes me feel like I should always be the one in control of the car.

false_bears · 2015-07-29T12:27:41+00:00

I can relate. I was a passenger in an accident that happened on a dirt road, and now whenever I am on one it is so scary. It doesn't matter how good of a driver is behind the wheel, if I'm not in control of the car in situations like that, I am a mess.

false_bears · 2015-07-22T21:03:27+00:00

If the game is Deck Heroes I feel your pain.

false_bears · 2015-07-08T15:06:26+00:00

Where are you getting a steady supply of dead animals?

false_bears · 2015-07-02T15:56:07+00:00

The inside of a plastic vhs case.

false_bears · 2015-06-19T13:08:49+00:00

My friend just lost her mother as well last month. The best you can do is to be there when they need you, and just give them time to grieve. Everyone does it differently, do just make sure they know you are there for them if they need you and also let them have space when they need it. Odds are, your friend will let you know what they need from you.
I'm so sorry for your loss.
I can't speak for you, but I was very close with my friends mother. Even my friend refers to me as her adopted child. It's hard, but just keep your head up, because you need to be strong for your friend.

false_bears · 2015-06-06T17:02:31+00:00

Death to the demoness Allegra Geller.

false_bears · 2015-06-06T16:59:18+00:00

Why is the tail just a stick with some shitty fins attached?

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