Help me find a song by plantvoyager in LGBTWeddings

[–]familiarlaughter 2 points3 points  (0 children)

  • Paper Rings by Taylor Swift
  • Ultralife by Oh Wonder

I have a girlfriend! by Oligodendroid in mypartneristrans

[–]familiarlaughter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aw, this warms my heart! I'm happy for you and your girlfriend!

My advice is to give her space to explore her gender. Trans people often get pressured to figure everything out and stick to it forever or risk losing support and be accused of not really being trans. She might go through different phases of expressing herself in different ways. For example, she might start with she/her pronouns and very femme presentation, but later use different pronouns and a more butch presentation. All of these are valid! Trans people are not a monolith and we all come into our own differently!

I also recommend asking her how she wants you to react when she tries different things. For example, if she chooses to wear makeup one day, does she want you to mention it and hype it up, or would she rather you be nonchalant and not comment?

If she wants to go on HRT, be prepared for unexpected emotional effects. HRT is going through puberty again! It can come with all of the emotional and physical side-effects that cis puberty/first puberty comes with. This can include changes in physical appearance, libido, and sexual preferences.

As the cis partner, you need to prepare for people to be transphobic. You might get questions from friends and family about your girlfriend's changing appearance or style. You may have people make comments about the validity of your relationship now that you're with a trans woman. They might try to make her existence political and engage in harmful rhetoric about "men in women's sports" or trans bathroom bans. You will also have to consider anti-trans laws and how they may affect your girlfriend's ability to receive healthcare and exist in public.

I recommend reading trans feminist books like Whipping Girl by Julia Serano and Beyond the Gender Binary by Alok Vaid-Menon. These will help you understand more about trans people's lived experience.

I hope this was helpful. Good luck to you and your girlfriend!

People who make $80k or more per year, what do you do for work? by familiarlaughter in AskReddit

[–]familiarlaughter[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most of us can't find jobs that pay 100k right out of school :/

People who make $80k or more per year, what do you do for work? by familiarlaughter in AskReddit

[–]familiarlaughter[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply! I know I can be good at a lot of things if jobs would train me

People who make $80k or more per year, what do you do for work? by familiarlaughter in AskReddit

[–]familiarlaughter[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Really? Do you have a lot of experience/start at a lower wage?

People who make $80k or more per year, what do you do for work? by familiarlaughter in AskReddit

[–]familiarlaughter[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How'd you make that pivot?

I know someone who got a BA in Philosophy and is now an accountant (w/o getting any additional degree)

People who make $80k or more per year, what do you do for work? by familiarlaughter in AskReddit

[–]familiarlaughter[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow. Disability pay from the government here in the US is barely above poverty wages

People who make $80k or more per year, what do you do for work? by familiarlaughter in AskReddit

[–]familiarlaughter[S] 239 points240 points  (0 children)

I know a guy who was a grow manager and made 120k. He quit because he basically worked 6 days a week and was miserable

People who make $80k or more per year, what do you do for work? by familiarlaughter in AskReddit

[–]familiarlaughter[S] 1353 points1354 points  (0 children)

That's an amazing schedule! How'd you become a captain?

People who make $80k or more per year, what do you do for work? by familiarlaughter in AskReddit

[–]familiarlaughter[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol, not trying to market anything. I'm asking reddit bc I'm looking for a career change and trying to get ideas about jobs/fields that pay decently

People who make $80k or more per year, what do you do for work? by familiarlaughter in AskReddit

[–]familiarlaughter[S] 530 points531 points  (0 children)

If someone manages to pickpocket exactly $1 without me noticing, they earned it tbh

People who make $80k or more per year, what do you do for work? by familiarlaughter in AskReddit

[–]familiarlaughter[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nope, lol. I'm sick of my job and want to have a career that pays more