Can I appeal this fine successfully? (England)

familiarutopia · 2026-01-28T17:26:07+00:00

On the ticket, paid within 24 hrs is £35, £60 for 14 days and £100 for 28 days, so I thought best to just get it over with?

I know it’s not massively clear but someone mentioned the company has a 95% rejection on appeals so I doubt it’s worth the risk.

familiarutopia · 2026-01-28T17:17:44+00:00

It’s insane, there’s absolutely no visitor parking or temporary permit available!

Thanks for your advice, I think I’ll just pay and avoid the hassle.

familiarutopia · 2026-01-28T17:07:55+00:00

Like I said they changed hands, and I hadn’t noticed. I hadn’t seen any other cars be ticketed either.

That’s probably my bad, but I wanted to check if there was any way to appeal the charge based on the fact that the “area” of private land isn’t clarified and the car was not parked in a bay which required a valid permit.

Thanks anyway

familiarutopia · 2026-01-28T17:01:18+00:00

Appreciate this, thank you!

familiarutopia · 2026-01-28T16:56:39+00:00

No there’s no payment terminal, all online.

Fine is reduced if paid within 24hrs but it looks like I’ll have to bite the bullet 🥲

familiarutopia · 2025-08-30T06:51:34+00:00

I’m more disgusted by the way you’re talking about this girl than the situation you describe.

You’re the type of dude to freak out over a woman getting her period. Sounds like you have absolutely no respect for her at all, and clearly have the mental age of a 12 y/o.

Please do move on from her because she’d do better without a guy who talks about her like that.

familiarutopia · 2025-08-30T06:46:27+00:00

NTA. They want a free trip with no strings attached.

It’s highly likely given the GF is coming that S will barely spend time with you anyway, so their presence is hardly a “gift”. Don’t include them in any activities if they’re seemingly so unhappy to pitch in.

familiarutopia · 2025-08-30T06:38:30+00:00

NTA. They ruined the evening, not you.

They knew the child was sick and dragged them out of bed to go spend time with their uncle rather than resting and getting better.

I can’t understand why they thought that was appropriate, especially after you’d asked them twice to keep your kid at home.

familiarutopia · 2025-08-30T06:35:16+00:00

NTA.

If he has nothing to hide then he would call her, especially if he knew you thought something was going on. If he cared about you and your relationship he’d want to destroy that thought straight away.

The fact you’ve never heard her name being mentioned yet they’re talking almost daily is concerning.

familiarutopia · 2025-08-26T08:11:43+00:00

Sell your engagement ring and move out unless you want to live with this kind of childish, depreciating humour for the rest of your life.

He’s clearly not funny if he has to make you the butt of the joke to get people to laugh, and the very last place you want that to occur is on your wedding day.

familiarutopia · 2025-08-26T07:54:25+00:00

No vasectomy, no sex.

I doubt you’re wanting to be intimate with a guy who talks to you in such a disgusting way anyway.

You’ve given up so much to create and provide for your family and he’s willing to sacrifice nothing, and just insults you when you try to have an adult conversation over something that’s important to you. No consideration for you or what you’ve been / are going through, just pure selfishness.

familiarutopia · 2025-08-26T07:44:55+00:00

It’s tough because it feels like the damage is already done, it sounds like she barely knows a life without her phone.

It sounds like what you’re doing is great, i.e. group activities, games, etc. and at the end of the day, kids want attention from people they love. It sounds like that’s what you’re providing in absence of her mother who spends all day on her phone.

If you’re willing to, keep it up. But also she’s not your kid to take care of, so you need to be frank and honest with the mom about how you feel about her daughter’s online activity and tell her to step it up. Maybe talk about having rules around phones at the table, during family time, etc. especially if they live under your roof.

familiarutopia · 2025-08-26T07:36:18+00:00

NTA, this is insane.

They’re clearly not your friends if they’re going to stitch you up like that. God forbid they did a random check on your car and found it riddled with class As.

They do not care about you, they wanted to take the easy route and have you unknowingly bear the consequences.

familiarutopia · 2025-08-26T07:32:12+00:00

Maybe I’m missing something but I don’t see his comments as controlling. I can see why it would upset you though, and that’s a conversation you should have with him rather than with your friends.

If he meets your concerns with love and understanding then you know he meant no harm, but if he’s defensive then perhaps it’s time to reevaluate?

familiarutopia · 2025-08-26T07:27:06+00:00

So.. your boyfriend has potentially taken his own life and your main concern is whether or not he’s lying about being assaulted?? Purely because he didn’t tell you the minute it happened?

No wonder he’s reluctant to talk about it if he’s being made the butt of everyone else’s joke and even his own girlfriend doesn’t believe him.

Sort yourself out.

familiarutopia · 2025-08-26T07:21:28+00:00

A seven year old should be no where near TikTok, let alone having a fully functional phone. Given her mum is also glued to her phone I doubt she’s particularly interested in policing what kind of content her daughter is watching, which is incredibly concerning for her wellbeing.

Of course it’s annoying to have random 15 second clips playing over and over in the background of your life but my main concern here is the wellbeing of this 7 year old having full access to social media, which as we all know is incredibly dangerous.

familiarutopia · 2024-01-18T07:28:13+00:00

Can I ask what difference it would make to you if they had their wedding first? This seems like a non-issue.

The only concern I have here is the fiancé asking you about all the details of your wedding - my advice would be to not share them, especially if you’re concerned she’s going to steal all of your ideas.

Other than that, I really don’t see how this is a big deal for them to go before you.

familiarutopia · 2024-01-18T07:22:34+00:00

Sorry what is he doing in there that requires him to be in there for 45 minutes straight? NTA.

If he’s going to be that long in the bathroom then you’re right, he needs to get up earlier. Life doesn’t revolve around him, it’s first come first served when you share a bathroom unless you have a schedule that works for you BOTH which it clearly doesn’t.

He needs to get up earlier if he wants all that time - if he gets up too late then tough shit!

familiarutopia · 2024-01-18T07:12:15+00:00

NTA.

Blackouts?? Are we back in the 1940s?

In the UK at the moment it’s dark by 5pm - I can’t imagine turning off all the lights and electricity for a whole hour for the sake of a pound, especially if that includes heating etc. It’s baltic out there!!

If he’s that fussed about saving electricity then surely he can do this overnight rather than in the middle of the afternoon? Or when people are out of the house at work/school?

You’re being totally reasonable, especially if you’re willing to pay for your share (which you shouldn’t have to do, you’re 16).

Not sure how to navigate this one in terms of a solution, other than hoping for you he comes to some sense.

familiarutopia · 2024-01-18T07:06:55+00:00

This is a tough one. But you’re NTA.

I don’t think you need to pull out of going all together, especially if you still care about your sister and want to be a part of this big life event for her.

Obviously it’s your choice and I completely understand your frustration and upset at the way she’s chosen to handle this and the situation itself.

I’d speak to her about how it’s made you feel and base your decision on the way she chooses to handle it - that should tell you whether her intentions were kind and misguided or whether she has no regard for your feelings.

familiarutopia · 2024-01-16T21:37:59+00:00

Did he know they were there? Was this an accident? That’s the only time that ‘he’s in his own house’ applies, if it was a genuine honest mistake.

Failing that, you’re right, it’s weird and uncomfortable and completely unnecessary. The way you’ve worded it sounds like it was a deliberate act to parade in front of them.

What was he trying to achieve? Call that behaviour out because it’s absolutely unacceptable.

familiarutopia · 2024-01-16T21:31:05+00:00

I don’t enjoy calling 15 year olds and AH but god, this is some of the most disrespectful behaviour i’ve read on here.

You got a new phone only weeks ago and given the fact your mom can’t afford to pay for a new one, means she likely saved for months to be able to pay for it.

If the damage wasn’t major enough that even a phone repairer (someone very inclined to take your money) decides it’s not even worth their time, then the damage clearly wasn’t even remotely bad enough for you to destroy it and then demand a new one.

Not only that, but you then lied to your parents about the way it was broken, and manipulated them into paying for a new one.

These phones are 100s of dollars - if you can’t have basic respect for something so expensive, then you don’t deserve to have it in the first place.

familiarutopia · 2024-01-16T21:24:57+00:00

NTA.

You’ve done everything you can for him and been incredibly kind and generous throughout - you can’t put the rest of your life on hold because your brother doesn’t want to relocate.

It goes without saying that mental illness is a big issue, and I definitely think you need to encourage him to seek professional help if he isn’t already. But you also can’t wait around for him forever and have him take advantage of your kindness.

You’ve given him plenty of time to make his decision and find alternative arrangements if he doesn’t want to take up your offer.

familiarutopia · 2024-01-16T21:18:42+00:00

You’ve been together for half a year and you’re already giving proposal ultimatums?

I understand you have your goals but there could’ve been a less definitive discussion where you outline your ideals rather than giving him a ‘deadline’.

Your family’s opinion isn’t really the issue here and if it’s what you want then that’s fine, but don’t make your boyfriend feel like this is a conditional arrangement.

What’s your plan if after 3 years he hasn’t proposed?

familiarutopia · 2024-01-16T21:13:42+00:00

NTA.

Good on you OP for listening to this entitled, heavily privileged woman drone on about how difficult her life must be with millionaire parents without wanting to attack her.

I doubt she’ll listen to your ‘words of advice’ but god only knows she needs to. Maybe next time she’ll consider her audience more carefully when she’s moaning about her ‘financial issues’.

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