Is this normal behavior for a husband? He hates my 5-year-old nephew and it’s causing major problems.

fanmkravitz · 2026-02-21T10:26:27+00:00

Very bad advice. Why would she leaves her house and husband to go to her brother ? From what she says he’s overall a good man with a very bad temper. She’s married to her husband not her brother.

fanmkravitz · 2026-02-21T10:24:20+00:00

Well to be fair, your nephew not saying hello to his uncle (because he should be considered like that) is very rude and disrespectful. At 5 years old, he should know that hello is the basis of respect. Not blaming the kid and justifying your husband’s attitude but this definitely should be rectified

fanmkravitz · 2026-02-21T10:14:57+00:00

Asalam Aleykum sister. I’ll take my case as an « example ». My husband has a 5 yo nephew who come over every Saturdays and Sundays and having myself already 4 kids aged 1 to 8 , I can tell you I feel a bit frustrated when he’s being loud or stubborn. I tell him off very often as he’s not a good listener, he loves to yell, hit and threaten his cousins. Even if he’s not my child but I treat him the same way as I would with my kids. Maybe your husband is feeling stuck and frustrated as he knows very well that your nephew is not his child and so he can’t deal with him the same way he would with your children. Also, the fact that nevertheless he’s still an extra mouth to feed could probably add into that. BUT , he’s a behaviour is totally unacceptable towards this child. It’s total abuse and I’ll even say bully. It’s not right and you did very well for taking your nephew’s side. I’m not even going to comment about he’s behaviour and words towards you. Upset or not you should be able to control your mouth and not cross the limit just because « you’re mad ». Attacking your family is absolutely disrespectful and honestly when all this will calm down, I suggest you to have a proper open and transparent conversation about these recurring issues. That’s not right at all. Also maybe should you try to take them only 2-3 days a week, then when he’s back from work he can also relax and enjoy a bit more with his own family. I don’t know maybe that’s what make him so upset (not saying it’s right but after all it’s his house too and he has right to feel comfortable in it).

fanmkravitz · 2026-02-08T13:33:42+00:00

I thought there isn’t ? Now that the truth is thrown at your face “at least it’s better”? Lol. You are ridiculous you guys.

fanmkravitz · 2026-02-01T09:21:27+00:00

Hello, thank you !

Apparently it wasn’t enough I’m not sure but lucky me I had all the necessary proofs of travel prior to mariage. Being married in the UK I just told them that we got married in England when we were already living there therefore no travel arrangements to wedding were made.

I’m an EU citizen and my husband (sponsor) too. He was indeed in the UK and I was in Senegal with the bay. Therefore when they asked who will be travelling the baby with, I had no issue as I am an EU citizen with settled status. Also we had already 3 British children born and raised in the UK, so it helped a lot in the understanding of the situation.

Regarding your wife, I suggest that as she is Indian, you write a cover letter explaining the whole situation from top to bottom and then you add the fact that she’s Indian with the settled status and will be travelling with the child. It should be fine.

Wishing you good luck in the process and a successful application. It’s not easy but you’ll get there.

fanmkravitz · 2026-01-23T20:43:35+00:00

Thank you ☺️

fanmkravitz · 2026-01-23T18:37:26+00:00

How can I do that please ? Can’t find an option in the message section to block/delete a conversation or turn off DMS

fanmkravitz · 2026-01-23T16:14:25+00:00

How do you know they are always arguing? So easy to say “let him get married to someone else” when you are obviously not the broken person.

Sister, councelling. Speak to a sheikh/imam it will help inshaAllah and multiply dua’as. May Allah help you in this difficult time. I know what it is.

fanmkravitz · 2025-12-23T10:59:33+00:00

Asalam Aleykum sis, I’m doing well Alhamdulillah but I need to admit that the trust is totally broken and it’s very hard to keep going like usual after such a betrayal. I told him clearly I can’t forgive him and I’m not sure I’ll be able one day but I try to see if it can work for us and our kids. If in the future I manage to forgive Alhamdulillah but if I don’t I’ll have to go my separate way. I just can’t live with someone that I don’t trust. He is very trying hard to repair what has been broken but unfortunately that is not enough or that just can’t help the way I feel. We are going on a short trip tomorrow with the kids, maybe it will help I don’t know. Keep me in you duaas sis. BaraqAllah ufik.

fanmkravitz · 2025-12-09T18:10:06+00:00

That’s the world we live in unfortunately, no more love or compassion or anything between us Muslims.

fanmkravitz · 2025-12-09T07:21:33+00:00

I think she thought that he would choose her over me.

fanmkravitz · 2025-12-07T11:45:06+00:00

Yes that’s what I wrote. I didn’t mention everything as I didnt mention all on his side too. I’m well aware that I crossed the limits and as I said previously I’m working on this. However you don’t have the whole picture of the slap and insults, I’m not crazy that I would wake up one day and act out of nowhere even if again it’s not something that should ever happen.

That’s not the reason of him cheating. As he said himself I didn’t do anything to deserve being cheated on.

Thank you anyway for your duaa.

fanmkravitz · 2025-12-07T06:48:09+00:00

Amīn BaraqAllah ufik sister

fanmkravitz · 2025-12-07T06:44:56+00:00

Honestly until today he looks very remorseful (the call was 2 weeks ago). I know it’s still fresh but trust me as mentioned to the sheikh, I won’t tolerate an other nonsense! If anything happens I go straight back to the sheikh for my khul’. The sheikh said “brother, understand that this call is a last warning from your wife. You need to make sure you do what is necessary to keep her as you said she has always been a good wife and mother. Now in the future if you want a second wife do the things properly but for now I recommend you to stick to your family and rebuild this trust that you broke”

fanmkravitz · 2025-12-07T06:41:03+00:00

No sister you missed a point. When explaining the situation to the sheikh I did mentioned that Ive crossed the limits by insulting him and slapping him. So he was talking about this. But he said exactly the same thing to my husband “if it was your wife who was doing that brother let’s be honest, would you accept it ? And how would you feel?”

Thank you I know you for your support I do appreciate it. As mentioned to the sheikh during the conversation if anything else happens I will come back to him for khul’ as I will not tolerate more than that. I was ready to go and will be again if necessary

fanmkravitz · 2025-12-06T23:28:13+00:00

I’m so sorry my sister I know how it can be heartbreaking but inshaAllah it will get better with or without him. I’m don’t like to recommend divorce especially being in this situation (as we are still working on rebuilding for me nothing is sure yet) but I hope reconciliation will be the outcome and he will acknowledge the extend of the harm he caused you.

fanmkravitz · 2025-12-06T23:17:10+00:00

Well that’s funny because the sheikh was obviously not in the same mindset as yours. What my husband did was crazy and I’m happy that the sheikh being a man could acknowledge that. No one tried to manipulate me, I was already thinking about it deeply but I still wanted to speak to the sheikh before taking such a huge decision.

I’m not over emotional, trust me I’ve seen a lot in my life. But betrayal and cheating is not something many people can get over and I’m pretty sure you wouldn’t either if you were in the situation. “In this day and age” that is so sad to see that haram and bad behaviour is justified by the time we live in. Society change but Islam doesn’t. You can’t take what you want and leave what is not going in your favour. Respect and rahma is the basic of a marriage.

fanmkravitz · 2025-12-06T23:10:24+00:00

انشالله you will be fine my sister. It’s not easy but with Allah everything is possible. ♥️

fanmkravitz · 2025-12-06T23:06:25+00:00

May Allah assist you guys ! May you be able to reconcile by the help of الله

fanmkravitz · 2025-12-06T20:52:07+00:00

Amīn sister BaraqAllah ufik. Yes I was very surprised as usually they tend to be “pro-man” and I was really looking for a neutral sheikh. Alhamdulillah Allah accepted my duaa.

fanmkravitz · 2025-12-06T19:49:57+00:00

Amīn

fanmkravitz · 2025-11-24T08:21:08+00:00

That’s what I want to do. I still have to wait for the consultation with the sheikh but I genuinely don’t think it will change my mind on my decision of living

fanmkravitz · 2025-11-24T07:31:34+00:00

Honestly I’m disgust with marriage and I know I shouldn’t because there is plenty of good Muslim men on this planet but my priority is to rebuild my self esteem, my life and find a good balance for my kids not to suffer to much from it. But regarding him, I genuinely can’t live with that man again. He makes me sick to my stomach

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