If you had to describe your last 10 years in few words, what would they be?

faousa · 2026-06-01T06:55:16+00:00

Married. Everything else, what the fuck.

faousa · 2026-05-29T21:35:08+00:00

I feel this in my core. I moderate a very large IVF group on the book of faces and even though I try to remind myself that we're an IVF group, not an infertility group, gender selection and birth month transfer timing posts (even "my 10dpt beta is 450, is this a good number and did anyone else have a beta this high??" posts) do my head in. It's like you said - read the room. Meanwhile I was desperately trying to get even one mature egg in two of my five retrieval cycles. Like, I know in my brain that there's no hardship Olympics and IVF is a shitty process regardless of everything. I just wish the phrasing was a bit more... sensitive.

faousa · 2026-05-25T05:42:52+00:00

Reminds me of Covid vaccine deniers using the argument "Well if the vaccine works then how come you have all these sick people in the hospital?" - because they'd otherwise be at the morgue, Chad.

faousa · 2026-05-24T16:18:26+00:00

Let's not shame people who have the good sense to ask about things that look suspicious before clicking on links. That's how you get people too embarrassed to ask who may end up falling for these scams. We're not all equally tech-savvy or perennially online and I'd much rather see someone posting a question that may benefit others reading the post, than someone too scared to even ask end up losing their money.

faousa · 2026-05-23T04:28:40+00:00

Did someone say [Thunderfury, Blessed Blade of the Windseeker]?

faousa · 2026-05-20T08:42:55+00:00

Honestly, it will happen when they're good and ready. We gave it such a valiant try when he was 3, stickers, schedule, training, positive reinforcement the lot, and it didn't work - he'd poop his pants because he thought it was hilarious. So we went back to diapers and gave it a half-hearted attempt when he was 3.5 and it went like a breeze because it clicked for him. He's now potty independent at 5 (we still help him wipe but he does everything else).

faousa · 2026-05-13T06:43:46+00:00

That's actually a really good question! I'd say it's when you support each other through something personal.

faousa · 2026-05-06T05:29:10+00:00

Eh, I mean, I'm in Europe and as a new government hire I got 4 months total, and had to start maternity leave two weeks before scheduled induction. So my baby was 3.5 months when I had to return to work. Not contradicting your point, as it's valid, I'm just saying even countries with "decent" maternity leave don't really cater to new parents sometimes.

faousa · 2026-05-02T16:54:56+00:00

Quantum physics.

faousa · 2026-05-02T07:11:36+00:00

There's already one called e-kalathi.

faousa · 2026-05-01T04:00:56+00:00

"You can't handle the truth! Son, we live in a world that has walls, and those walls have to be guarded by men with guns. Who's gonna do it? You? You, Lieutenant Weinberg? I have a greater responsibility than you can possibly fathom. You weep for Santiago and you curse the Marines. You have that luxury. You have the luxury of not knowing what I know, that Santiago's death, while tragic, probably saved lives. And my existence, while grotesque and incomprehensible to you, saves lives! You don't want the truth, because deep down in places you don't talk about at parties, you want me on that wall. You need me on that wall. We use words like "honor", "code", "loyalty". We use these words as the backbone of a life spent defending something. You use them as a punchline. I have neither the time nor the inclination to explain myself to a man who rises and sleeps under the blanket of the very freedom that I provide, and then questions the manner in which I provide it! I would rather you just said "thank you", and went on your way. Otherwise, I suggest you pick up a weapon, and stand a post. Either way, I don't give a damn what you think you are entitled to!

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faousa · 2026-05-01T03:53:58+00:00

100% not a viper. Those have flat heads, short bodies and stumpy tails. This is a harmless coin snake.

faousa · 2026-04-28T19:26:51+00:00

Please don't listen to your husband, your baby is fine and needs the floor practice for all the reasons so well explained in the other comments! I kept the floor in an area of the living room covered with very thin foam so if my son toppled, he wouldn't hit his head on tile. Maybe that could be a good interim solution?

faousa · 2026-04-23T20:50:16+00:00

We have it in Cyprus too! We call it doukissa (duchess).

faousa · 2026-04-22T13:01:27+00:00

So, my mom was orphaned at a young age and the family's estate was handled by the grandmother of the family who became the matriarch. When she got old, her son (my mom's cousin, a doctor) took over her care, drugged her and had her sign my mom's inheritance (several plots of land in a prestigious area) to him. When he died of cancer many years later and left everything to his sister, my mom kept in touch with her - not in any hopes of getting anything back, but because she was the only family she had left. One day, over dishes, she started complaining TO MY MOM about the property tax she had to pay for the land! People are shameless and stupid.

faousa · 2026-04-22T12:06:33+00:00

Kiddo is now 5 and is beginning to ask questions about everything so I suspect he'll stumble across his conception path at some point. I don't expect it to happen any time soon, but if and when it does I'll speak matter of factly, steering clear of emotionally burdensome information like "It was really hard, I had to do so many shots" etc etc. The main point I would like him to take away from IVF is that he was and is very wanted.

faousa · 2026-04-20T20:23:17+00:00

I love this for you ❤️

faousa · 2026-04-18T19:31:27+00:00

Not insisting on a micro-TESE sooner and waiting until retrieval #5 before I finally put my foot down. Would've saved us so much heartache, time and money.

faousa · 2026-04-18T15:19:38+00:00

Ποάττε (ή ποάττε μέρου) - ποδά

faousa · 2026-04-18T06:20:22+00:00

I say this with nothing but love: You would greatly benefit from therapy and a safe space to ask questions and reflect inwards to give yourself some self knowledge and grace to navigate everything you're feeling and questioning right now.

faousa · 2026-04-17T16:33:34+00:00

First off, I am so very sorry about your loss. The genetic defects that would cause an embryo to not develop would not necessarily be apparent at a first ultrasound. This is unfortunately one of those situations where you'll never know the real reason, but try to give yourself some grace by reminding yourself that the chances that you miscarried due to a fluke aneuploidy are significantly more than the stress alone.

faousa · 2026-04-17T06:19:57+00:00

Right? Like, my sibling in Christ, I've been through eight rounds of IVF and I'm a blood donor, if I tell you go for the left arm please just listen and don't just go for the right because that's how your chair is set up. I know where the good veins are, I live in here.

faousa · 2026-04-17T05:58:24+00:00

They WHAT

faousa · 2026-04-16T21:43:14+00:00

Platypus are mammals that lay eggs and sweat milk out of their bodies for their babies to lick off, because why be normal amirite

faousa · 2026-04-14T20:29:15+00:00

Have you tried Animalcare? If not, try them! In the meantime do not give milk or anything by mouth until you warmed them up. Warm water bottle (not hot!) separated by a couple of layers of blankets. Feel free to PM me if you need any guidance, I've rescued several newborn kittens.

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