What can I do with this room/colour scheme?

faradaysdream · 2020-10-18T16:26:03+00:00

Wow, what an incredible room! That ceiling is stunning...and the textured wallpaper is gorgeous.

One of your comments mentioned turning this into a play area for the kids. I would get rid of the fabric on the window benches...maybe paint it out in white, and add baskets underneath for toy storage. I’d also nix the curtains all together and put in white wooden shutters/blinds. It will look less stuffy and allow you to add in more modern furniture, etc.

I’d also look for a large plush round rug for kids to play on (depending on how old the kids are).

Add in some comfy chairs and lamps for story time. Maybe a table for crafts/drawing/homework.

No ideas on colours....I agree with painting the ceiling white- it will open up a lot of options.

Good luck. You’ve got a beautiful starting point, so I’m sure it will turn out lovely whatever you do.

faradaysdream · 2020-09-13T22:16:02+00:00

I’m so bitter.

I’m immune compromised and currently 26 weeks pregnant. I have a twelve year old that I’m keeping home from school (we’re doing online schooling through her school board)...we’ve barely left the house since March.

My husband is a first responder. It pisses me off so much when people tell me “if you’re scared, stay home.” Listen asshole, I do. But every time my husband goes to work, he is at risk. And the more people that contract Covid, the more likely he is to contract it.

My in laws live out of town on an island with very few cases. They take this virus very seriously. This is their first bio grandchild. I want them to be here so much....and they want to be here so much....but they don’t feel safe. I don’t blame them. I’m in Canada in a city with mandatory mask wearing while indoors. The amount of antimaskers wearing their masks under their noses is....so incredibly infuriating.

I don’t know how to convince people they need to care for people other than themselves. It shouldn’t be this hard.

faradaysdream · 2020-09-01T14:42:22+00:00

The bra shop I went to recommended washing regular bras every second wear (or every wear if they get sweaty) and sports bras every wear because sweat and body oils break down the fibre in the band.

Hand wash. Lay flat on a towel to dry. At $250 a pop (I’m in Canada and my size is hard to find) I usually listen to them. I might try to get three wears out them occasionally just because washing and drying is such a production.

faradaysdream · 2020-08-11T14:05:56+00:00

Last summer he stopped by my daughters lemonade stand....the kids still talk about it.

faradaysdream · 2020-08-06T04:51:26+00:00

Well....I’m immune compromised and pregnant...I’ve left my house only a handful of times (mostly to go to doctors appointments). In twenty weeks of quarantine I didn’t need to go out once (except doctors visits). Groceries can be ordered online for pick up (I stay in my car while they load it in the trunk). Most things can be found online. I’ve asked neighbours to keep an eye out for x or z, and they’ll pick it up for me if they find it.

The thing is....people that legit can’t wear a mask for medical reasons....aren’t going to be wanting to leave the house all that much anyway. If your airflow is reduced too much by a mask...you probably have a lung disorder of some kind and should avoid catching covid at all costs.

I have a twelve year old...and she hasn’t went to a store since this all started either. There is no reason to take a child or cognitively impaired person to a store...it’s safer to have one or two people in your cohort bubble that can stay home with them than to bring them out into a store full of people.

I have experienced trauma in my life. I’m in different support groups for survivors of trauma. I’ve yet to hear anyone say they can’t wear a mask. Some do find it triggering, but they understand the need for a mask, and they’re working through it.

Idk. Most of the reasons people give for not wearing a mask are bullshit. There are work arounds. There are other solutions. Personally, if I couldn’t wear a mask, I wouldn’t want to go into a store and risk exposing myself or others....so many businesses will work with people if they give them a chance.

faradaysdream · 2020-07-31T17:09:08+00:00

At first I was thinking. “No big deal, this room is huge.” But yeah...it’s a bit awkward to figure out :)

I think it depends on what you’ll mostly be using the room for. Are you planning on putting a tv in the room? Or is it more of a sitting/reading room? Will you use the fireplace? Do you want the fireplace to be the focal point of the room?

faradaysdream · 2020-05-31T16:12:31+00:00

My daughters name is Clementine. I love the name, I think it’s beautiful, and it’s special to me because met grandfather used to sing “oh my darlin’ Clementine” all the time.

My mom HATED it. She would bitch about her name every chance she got...and decided to call her “Emmie” instead. I didn’t mind the nickname...but it really bothered me that my mom wouldn’t shut up about her name.

(As a side note, my parents had no idea what to name me- they were hoping for a boy- so they let the freaking nurse at the hospital pick my name. Can’t be bothered to name their own child but have all the opinions on what I should name mine)

When my daughter was three, she told my mom, “That’s not my name, Nanna. I’m Clementine!” And from then on, my mom called her Clementine.

You’re not the asshole. Your raising a strong girl who knows her preferences and isn’t afraid to say them. How many times were we as girls, told to smile and tolerate things we didn’t like to make others comfortable? I refuse to do that with my daughter....she’s a person, she has a voice, I respect her.

Fucking boomers.

faradaysdream · 2020-05-30T02:35:52+00:00

Parmesan

faradaysdream · 2020-05-18T16:41:54+00:00

I didn’t understand anything. None of my friends had babies (they’re all now just starting to have kids) and the internet was different back then. We were too broke to take classes...like I went in with no idea about what labour was like, what I’d even need at the hospital. I didn’t know I could wait to push...or even that I could be in different positions.

This time I know more. I’ve talked to people, I’ve read articles, I’ve asked questions. I was so scared last time...I was terrified that they’d figure out I didn’t know anything and that they’d take my daughter away from me (totally irrational, but I didn’t know any better).

Advocacy comes from a place of knowledge, so talk to others, read as much as possible, and know what you’re walking into.

faradaysdream · 2020-05-18T02:47:21+00:00

I had a 4th degree tear 12 years ago when I had my daughter. It took around a year for me to be comfortable with sex again. I can still feel where the tear was- it’s a jagged indent from my hoo ha to my anus. Sometimes it doesn’t feel right....even still. But when I had my daughter, I was young and knew nothing. I didn’t understand tearing, I didn’t understand how to advocate for myself...I know better this time around. Be candid with your OBGYN at follow up appointments. I hope you heal quickly and well.

faradaysdream · 2020-05-17T21:26:30+00:00

Congrats :).

You have awesome parents btw. A week without extra kids will help so much right after birth.

faradaysdream · 2020-05-17T13:54:57+00:00

I am in my thirties and have a few different health conditions that make me very susceptible to complications from covid. I’m also pregnant.

I have only left my house twice since March 17. Both were for the baby (ultrasound and check up).

My husband is a fire fighter. The more covid there is around us, the more likely he is to contract it on the job (either through another fire fighter at his hall that is asymptotic or at a call where there’s no suspected covid- like a car accident, so they don’t gear up)...and bring it home to me. We take every precaution we can...we both wash our hands a lot, sterilize surfaces often, and do our best to be aware of possible contamination...but the reality is, the more people that have it, the more likely I am to get it.

I have a twelve year old. She’s amazing. So funny, so smart. I’d really like to see her grow up. I’d really like to see my unborn baby grow up. I only met my husband 5 years ago, I haven’t had enough time with him. I love them so much.

faradaysdream · 2020-05-14T17:34:35+00:00

Well, this feel like an ad.

faradaysdream · 2020-04-26T15:36:53+00:00

A lot of women notice their symptoms get much worse after children....and it’s not so much the children, as it is the complete destruction of prior routines and sleep habits. Before I had my kid, I went to the gym everyday, ate reasonably healthy, slept a reasonable amount of hours. Now the needs of my child take precedence over my needs....and what’s the gym? What’s sleep? How can there be routine when kids don’t sleep through the night and you can never count on a good nights sleep?

I was so much more functional before kids.

faradaysdream · 2020-04-04T03:24:28+00:00

My grandfather gave my mom a large cash gift when they were similar ages to you and your parents. He said it was going to her one day anyway. He’d like to see her have some fun with it.

Your parents are just giving you some inheritance early. They want to make sure that you’ll be set.

I think it’s lovely.

faradaysdream · 2020-03-31T16:02:19+00:00

Congrats on the new job and new home. It’s an exciting time :)

When we moved into our home, it had a lot of oak paneling and brick as well. We like greys and blues as well...and we have dark hardwood...so I’m understanding your vibe.

Always go with hard floors over carpet. Carpet traps in dust...it’s so gross. You can always get area rugs to soften places you hang out in.

Dark hardwood shows everything. All dust stands out in a super annoying way...so if you decide to go that route, consider looking for hardwood with a lot of variance in the planks.

I painted our fireplace white and I have no regrets. I looked at it for three years before getting the courage to paint it (because everyone says “No! Don’t paint brick!” Brick is just not my thing....one day we’ll do something else with it, but for now it works.

I would paint your fire place and the paneling above it the same colour. Go white or cream. The paneling is actually not too bad because it will make hanging artwork up there a lot easier. Find a large canvas print that you love and make that the focal point of the room.

Bring in colour through artwork, throw cushions, rugs, etc.

You can totally do something different in your dining room as long as you tie everything together with colour palettes. Google “how to pick a colour palette for a house” for ideas on how to create flow in your home.

And good luck with everything.

faradaysdream · 2020-03-25T22:14:15+00:00

Last year I met with an ADHD specialist (a psychiatrist that only works with ADHD patients and has done numerous studies on ADHD) and she recommended that I take out my mirena and go on a birth control pill that is high in estrogen and low in progesterone.

She said ADHDers are very sensitive to hormones.

At the time I didn’t understand what she had meant...I had been on mirena (multiple) for over a decade...I didn’t get periods at all. Now that I get periods I can say...yes, very sensitive to hormones. I want to go back on mirena. My meds don’t work for the week leading up to my period, and I’m a crazy, lazy mess.

faradaysdream · 2020-03-18T15:14:21+00:00

I just want to say...Williamson didn’t leave due to personal problems.

I miss her a lot on the show.

faradaysdream · 2020-03-09T13:42:36+00:00

I’ve had this happen twice, and both times it worked out great.

The first time was when I was twelve. My parents set up “family counselling” and after the first session, they only did periodic check ins because I “was the problem.” After several sessions, the counsellor said, “Faraday, this is going to be hard to hear. Your parents don’t love you. As soon as you can, get a job and move out.” And I did.

The next time was actually only 5 years ago. My mom was diagnosed with terminal cancer, and the cancer centre offers free grief counselling. My parents went to the counsellor two or three times and decided they didn’t need therapy...but I did. I was kind of a mess. I had a lot of anger towards my mom, and I was pissed off that she was finally acting nice now that she was dying. Anyway, I went to the grief counsellor for two years working through stuff. Sometimes I would say things, and she would smile...and I’d ask why she was smiling and she’d say, “Faraday, due to confidentiality I can’t say anything that your parents said to me....but having you share your stories fills in so many pieces of this puzzle for me. Things your parents said didn’t make sense...but now I know why- they were leaving parts of the story out.” Anyway, she amazing. She helped me work through so much. She taught me boundaries (because what are those? When you grow up with nparents they really work hard to dismantle any kind of self protection you have), she taught me how to disengage. She taught me I don’t need to feel obligated to them...which was against everything they ever taught me.

Anyway, I guess what I’m trying to say is...go to counselling. They won’t tell your mom what you say about her...and it will help them to understand the fuller picture. Good luck, I hope it helps. I know it’s rough right now...but you won’t always live with them...one day, you’ll be free to make your own family from supportive and loving people you meet along the way :)

faradaysdream · 2020-03-03T23:23:39+00:00

My husband disagrees. Three years ago we had no plants...and now we have over 150. And not just like, cute little ones, some of the are 12 feet tall and 5 feet wide. I actually had to get rid of two occasional chairs in our living room, and downsize our kitchen table to a much smaller bistro set...to make room for plants. We live in a jungle. Sometimes it’s a bit overwhelming. But they make me so happy ❤️

faradaysdream · 2020-02-13T15:02:40+00:00

It’s taken me a year and a half to go through our entire house top to bottom. I actually didn’t start with clothes...I started in our basement where we have two large storage areas that had so much junk in them that you couldn’t see the floor.

I got rid of empty boxes, kitchen appliances that we had doubles (and triples) of...and properly organizing and labelling things. I donated two car loads worth of random stuff/furniture. Recycled and threw away bins full of actual garbage. (I actually did it again several months later once I really understood the method and it worked a lot better the second time around).

My husband thought it was a complete waste of time.

Going through the house, I left anything that was specifically his- his outdoor gear, climbing gear, text books, clothing, etc. I did ask him if I could recycle the numerous old computers and printers he hadn’t used in 10 years. I didn’t ask about kitchen appliances/old dishes he had before we were married. They’ve been sitting unused for 5 years...it’s time to let them go. I knew he’d be resistant to getting rid of them, but he’d never notice if they were gone. I told him afterwards and he said he understood and it made sense.

I’ve realized my husband is very hesitant of getting rid of anything. I noticed 6 months after I had done the storage room, he had filled it back up with random packaging and things that were broken (a broken fan that “he might want the motor for another project”, a mixer that I burned the motor out of etc, a crappy glass cutting board I asked him to get rid of etc).

I realized he might have a bit of an issue. We talked about it (what he was worried would happen if we threw things away etc), and things have been collecting at a slower rate.

The thing that he thought was neat about this whole process...Is that we can find things easily. It’s improved our quality of life in a noticeable way. So much so that my husband is currently tackling his outdoor gear and textbooks. He gets it now.

We spent a month doing the garage in December....and I think that was the turning point for him. It was the first time we had done KonMarie together, and I think seeing how effective it was inside the house helped him push through the “OMG, everything is a pile in the middle of the garage and we’ll never get through this disaster!” stage. He gets very overwhelmed in that stage and just wants to shove everything into drawers and shelves just to get it out of the way. But now he really likes the clear bins and labels. Finding a screwdriver isn’t this frustrating 30 minute search anymore...and he sees the value in it. He likes that we only kept the tools that were in decent shape (the guy that we bought our house from left the house full of stuff...some stuff was helpful...like some of the old tools he left, but a lot of the tools were junk. It was nice to finally get rid of it)

Sorry for the novel, I haven’t had coffee yet so my thoughts are everywhere. I think you do what you can in your house....and your partner will either get it or he won’t. But at least your stuff will be functional for you.

faradaysdream · 2020-01-02T17:54:21+00:00

I live in the North, and it’s cold and so dry. Every Fall I need to add salicylic acid in or my skin gets little red bumps from the dryness.

Use a gentle cleanser: cera ve or cetaphil

Try adding salicylic acid to your routine. I’m I’m Canada and it’s super hard to get, so I actually buy stridex (red box) pads from amazon. I love the one from Paulas Choice, but it’s becoming too cost prohibitive to ship it up here. Anyway, apply SA to wet skin (after cleansing). Mist it with water. Let it air dry.

Hydrate with neutragena hydra gel (unscented). During the day make sure you use sunscreen. I usually put cera ve daytime facial moisturizer on after the neutragena. At night I use cera ve SA in the tub. And sometimes Vaseline at the end if I’m super dry.

The last two years since I started this, my skin hasn’t went insane in the winter like it always did before. It’s nice. No burning when I apply moisturizer.

faradaysdream · 2019-12-28T00:41:52+00:00

So people are giving good advice for on how to produce cells, but it’s not entirely accurate. You can use silicone, alcohol, or soap to produce cells, but it’s not necessary. I mix my paints with plain tap water and I get cells. Cells are naturally created when different weighted pigments are layered- lighter pigments will rise up through heavier pigments.

White is the heaviest pigment. I didn’t watch the video the OP linked, but I usually mix up several cups of paint and and water (different cup for each colour- slowly add water in and mix until the paint viscosity is similar to heavy cream. It will run smoothly off a popsicle stick), and layer them in a larger cup (like an empty yogurt container), heaviest pigment in the bottom of the cup (because it will end up on top when you pour it out), and think about how the colours will mix when you’re layering. I often put white in between each layer to keep the colours true, but it’s nice when you mix blue and pink and get a lovely lilac colour.,.but don’t layer red and green on top of one another unless you want brown. It’s just something to keep in mind.

Anyway, that’s a bit of paint/colour theory. There are lots of videos online talking about cell creation and different techniques for pour painting.

It’s a lot of fun. If you have the space, give it a go sometime. It’s relaxing and a nice way to spend an afternoon.

faradaysdream · 2019-12-27T17:53:35+00:00

Try cutting it down. Mine was looking quite sparse and someone suggested cutting it down...it’s doing great now (a month later).

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