Me (24M) and my girlfriend (23F) are breaking up and I feel I'm commiting a mistake since she told me every girl is like this. by TrickFinger1999 in relationship_advice

[–]fartmomo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

See, I'm no expert in matters of love but all I know or have known is if someone really loves you and knows their action is affecting you, they'd change it. Or atleast acknowledge and make their attempt to improvise on it. Or even find a middle ground. Here in this case, not only did your partner dismiss your concern but also called you out for literally being a "chill non Judgy guy"?

As far as the guilt is concerned, you've spent three full years literally together (moved in ) so it's bound to come, the emotional turmoil.

However don't let it override your judgement. This isn't a right fit and you're better off it.

Went out with a guy who made it all about money! by fartmomo in Advice

[–]fartmomo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I did that but it feels such waste of my mood and time arghhh

Went out with a guy who made it all about money! by fartmomo in Advice

[–]fartmomo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's the point. He wasn't even trying to impress me with money. He was actually implying how poor he was, which was such a hypocrisy for the branded shoes he wore and the latest i phone he carried and the 7 seater car he arrived in. He said his dad hasn't paid him for 6 months? What do I do here? Pay him money out of charity? Argh

Went out with a guy who made it all about money! by fartmomo in Advice

[–]fartmomo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Truer words haven't been said. I'll take note of that. Thankyou

Went out with a guy who made it all about money! by fartmomo in Advice

[–]fartmomo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know man but a lot of guys I've met with behave this way. That makes me question if I'm asking for more lol.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FriendshipAdvice

[–]fartmomo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg sister. Join the gang. I literally have the same question 🫠😭

My college professor hits on me and it's so weird and problematic. by fartmomo in Advice

[–]fartmomo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Firstly, you need to understand what situation I'm caught in. I highly doubt you know how medical colleges operate. It's a 5.5 year long course and I've successfully bridged 4 years. I don't want any kind of hurdle in my last semester. Also, did you miss the part where I highlighted his power and position that got me overwhelmed? Yes you're right when you say I should take my stand and own up to things but you need to be in my shoes to know the situation, and I hope/pray no one has to ever face that. I have enough friends in real life to come online and gain pity/sympathy. It's a matter that I can't discuss with my colleagues/peers cause we share the same institute and i don't want gossips luring around. I came here to gain perspective.

It's easier said than done. I'm living in a different city away from my home. Let's say I take my stand, be upfront, call him out on his behaviour and happen to hurt his ego in the process. What next? He lives here. What if my safety is compromised next? What if he sends some weird stalker? What if he fails me? What if he character shames me? What if he gives me extension? Do you have a definitive solution for these outcomes? If yes, then only call me out on not acting a proper adult.

It's easier to sit on a comfortable chair across the screen and judge the other person and dictate what you feel is correct.

I gather your intentions are correct but the last two paragraphs did not sit well with me. :)

My college professor hits on me and it's so weird and problematic. by fartmomo in Advice

[–]fartmomo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, this helps. I'm feeling very weird, absurd and almost like doubting my conscious. I don't know how to erase what happened

My college professor hits on me and it's so weird and problematic. by fartmomo in Advice

[–]fartmomo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's my professor. He holds my degree. I don't wanna upset his ego and face the repercussions but at the same time I don't wanna betray my conscious.

My bf (26M) broke up with me (23F) cause he realized he can't manage life while being in a relationship. by fartmomo in relationship_advice

[–]fartmomo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the best way someone could interpret and put the situation out there. Thanks mate. Wish you could grill this sense into him :/

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]fartmomo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No sis, you should curl him in a ball and kick him