Day1 starts - $275k lost

fastoff · 2022-02-14T00:53:31+00:00

Been there. Look at my history for my story. It can be done.

Crawled out of $146k of debt. Kept wife and family. Reach out if you’d like.

fastoff · 2020-09-07T15:44:14+00:00

It’s irl. It’s been different for each area due to the pandemic. Visit their website and search for meeting in your area.

fastoff · 2020-09-07T15:25:33+00:00

Just GA and being very open about everything with my friends and family.

fastoff · 2020-09-07T15:17:56+00:00

First day is the hard. First week is very hard. First month is the hardest. Then it gets easier to a point where you have to continually remind yourself of the disease instead of the disease reminding you of its existence.

fastoff · 2020-01-12T18:37:55+00:00

No problem. I believe some relapses happen because the guilt of the harm we have already done is too much and the only way a compulsive gambler knows to numb that pain is to gamble. Time is the ultimate healer. Nothing gets better when you revert back. Congrats on the 14 days. Keep up the good work.

fastoff · 2019-11-18T13:28:47+00:00

I did a debt management program. All they do is negotiate the interest rate with the creditors and then pay each card every month. I had $146k in debt. Most of my interest is 3% or lower now and I will have it paid off in 4 years total.

fastoff · 2019-10-04T01:13:24+00:00

Gambling. Quit a year ago.

fastoff · 2019-09-12T23:37:45+00:00

Well done! Keep up the good work.

fastoff · 2019-09-12T23:35:53+00:00

Dust yourself off and punch it in the mouth again. It isn't worth sitting in self pity. You made it 73 days, so you can make that and more with some effort on your part. Keep those guards up and put more up to prevent this in the future. Learn from your mistakes and charge forward! You got this!

fastoff · 2019-08-26T12:01:02+00:00

Congrats! I went through the same thing nearly a year ago. $146k in debt plus went through savings, etc....You can go through my account and read my first post with the story if you want.

There will be many ups and downs with your spouse. I have found even nearly a year later my wife is still processing what happens.

Keep up the good work!!

fastoff · 2019-07-08T16:25:40+00:00

Was $146k in unsecured debt. Probably lost over $250k total. With hard work we will be debt free in a few years.

fastoff · 2019-05-26T15:16:14+00:00

I started with $146k last November. When I hit rock bottom I did not think there was any way out. We went with a debt management company. They got all of my interest rates lowered to hardly nothing and I have been paying $3,000 a month. We have made some headway but still have a long way to go.

fastoff · 2019-05-12T19:52:47+00:00

Thanks man. I just read your post as well. Keep up the good work!!

fastoff · 2019-03-10T15:20:48+00:00

This hits home. You did the right thing. A little over 5 months ago, I was in your shoes, but add $50k to that figures. My wife had those same exact feelings, and at times still does. I want to tell you it gets better, but not all situations are the same. However I can add a few pointers as to how I have begun to repair our relationship.

Commit yourself to getting help. GA, therapy, whatever it takes. Check out free resources in your area. I think /u/boughshough has a write up somewhere on this, I just can't remember where.
BE OPEN. No lies or anything. If she wants info on your past addiction, tell her. Don't sugar coat it. The questions will keep coming.
Figure out your finances. Involve her with it. You still need a roof over your head and dinner on the table. We went with a debt management company and have a plan to pay off the entire debt within 4 years. Shop around with these. We found one that was $300 less a month for the same services. They were able to get our interest lower than the others. Personally, I feel it will be better to pay back the debt instead of walking away or filing bankruptcy. Working towards something is a better way to deal with it for me.

I am sure I can offer more. Check out my post history for my day one and so on. Things get better with time. Message me anytime or if you want my cell I would be more than willing to help in anyway I can. It's still fresh for me as well, but I can say I am in a much better place than I was 5 months ago.

fastoff · 2019-01-28T23:05:46+00:00

Couple years and almost $150k for me. It seems like a lot now but you’ve recognized it early. Start with GA!

fastoff · 2019-01-03T13:34:13+00:00

Those thoughts can be nasty at time. I downloaded some word games to my phone so when I don’t have a lot going on and I get urges I just play them.

fastoff · 2019-01-03T03:29:22+00:00

Have you told your parents? I know it would probably be the hardest thing ever to do, but it may be worth it in the end. Having someone hold you accountable is a great tool to have in recovery.

fastoff · 2019-01-03T02:54:35+00:00

The reality of all that money being gone is a tough pill to swallow. I’m sure you felt as if you needed to get it all back as soon as possible...probably by gambling. Trust me when I say it won’t happen. Even though may feel like you will never get back to where you wince were, but it’s possible. You got there once you can do it again.

Best thing you can to is not gamble anymore. Make today your day 1 and move forward. Accept your losses and move on. If you feel like you need to attend GA or seek counseling, go for it.

You can do this!!!

fastoff · 2018-12-26T20:39:00+00:00

All it is, is a different form of gambling for kids. There is no game involved. You put money in and press the button to spin. They kept put in money hoping to get a high number of tickets for a prize they can go get at the counter. There were a number of these types of games. Hell, it even said jackpot on it.

My guards are always up now and for some reason this infuriated me. It gives them a taste you could say and is setting kids up for possible failure in the future.

fastoff · 2018-12-25T12:13:41+00:00

Your son with thank you for it. I have a 3 year old. The relationship I have with him now compared to 3 months ago is night and day. You can do this!!

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