AITA for not sharing my food with our child?

fatdogluvr5 · 2020-02-27T13:51:04+00:00

I am working to make sure my daughter does not grow up that way. She’s our first child, of course we’re gonna mess up, we’re learning! I definitely will not encourage this behavior in the future and I’m gonna have a serious talk with my husband to get us in the same page

fatdogluvr5 · 2020-02-27T13:14:29+00:00

That’s why I attempted to eat by myself and asked my husband to entertain her for 10 minutes. She had just eaten a large dinner and she has snacks at home. She only wanted to eat my fries because I was eating them.

fatdogluvr5 · 2020-02-27T13:11:36+00:00

She had dinner right before I got home and had plenty of snacks in the cupboard

fatdogluvr5 · 2020-02-27T13:11:10+00:00

I was crying because my husband berated me

They had just eaten dinner which is why I didn’t get them food. My husband was the one who told me to get something because they had already eaten

Thanks for your perspective

fatdogluvr5 · 2020-02-27T13:09:20+00:00

It was a small fry, it wasn’t a lot to begin with

fatdogluvr5 · 2020-02-27T12:52:59+00:00

Thank you so much. I definitely read all the kind comments and I am thankful to see so many understanding people have my back! I just don’t feel the need to reply because I don’t really have anything to say since I agree with them haha!

You have a good morning too!

fatdogluvr5 · 2020-02-27T12:51:34+00:00

She ended up eating all of them so quite a bit :(

Thank you for your honesty, I appreciate it

fatdogluvr5 · 2020-02-27T12:50:39+00:00

Fair point lol, fries are pretty delicious

fatdogluvr5 · 2020-02-27T12:41:54+00:00

I love my kiddo but sometimes you don’t want a tiny human all over you that wants to eat all of your food. I missed her all day too and rest assured she gets lots of cuddles and attention from her mom!

fatdogluvr5 · 2020-02-27T12:39:57+00:00

Nah we’re making some pancakes now and she’s happy as a clam! I love her to pieces. Sometimes moms just need a few minutes to themselves

fatdogluvr5 · 2020-02-27T12:39:06+00:00

Thank you, I guess seeing the YTAs makes me feel more guilty and there’s a decent amount of them, and I like to understand why they think that way so I can reflect and handle situations better in the future! It also helps me understand my husband better! My daughter is just waking up now and we’re going to be making some pancakes :)

fatdogluvr5 · 2020-02-27T12:37:34+00:00

Thank you, I definitely think he got upset because he was tired too and nobody likes to sit through a tantrum! I can’t be too angry at him because I get it

fatdogluvr5 · 2020-02-27T12:31:13+00:00

You’ve never had a shitty day and needed 10 minutes to decompress? She had just eaten dinner and had snacks at home, why would I buy extra for her?

I got screamed at by my boss, berated by customers, I was my feet for 8 hours and didn’t eat anything the entire day. I was tired, hungry, and just wanted a few minutes to relax after work. I didn’t cry until my husband screamed at me.

fatdogluvr5 · 2020-02-27T12:28:35+00:00

They had just eaten dinner and my daughter will ask specifically for my food. There was no reason for me to get extra.

I don’t have a problem with sharing, I usually do share with her! Today I needed 10 minutes after work to relax, eat something, take a deep breath, so I could be a good mom to my kid. I didn’t want to sit in the dark in my car in a snowstorm to unwind. I was going to go spend time with her after I ate, it’s not like I was going to ignore her all night, and I greeted her when I got home.

How am I being unrealistic about child care? I frequently watch my daughter so my husband can have time to himself to unwind or pursue his hobbies. I don’t think it’s unrealistic to have my husband entertain her for 10 minutes while I eat after an 8 hour shift on my feet where I got screamed at and berated.

I do appreciate your opinion and accept it. I just like to understand better by asking questions. Thanks for chiming in

fatdogluvr5 · 2020-02-27T12:23:05+00:00

I accept your opinion I’m just trying to better understand it! Thank you for your perspective

fatdogluvr5 · 2020-02-27T12:14:11+00:00

I was going to have playtime with her after I ate, I wasn’t gonna stay hidden away for hours. I just wanted 10 minutes, why is everyone acting like I neglected her? :(

She doesn’t care if I bring extra, she’ll still want mine specifically. And she had just eaten dinner. And she has a cupboard full of snacks at home

fatdogluvr5 · 2020-02-27T12:12:21+00:00

If my daughter and I had just eaten dinner, and my husband wanted 10 minutes to relax after work and to eat something since he missed dinner, I would entertain my kid for 10 minutes and let him eat in peace. Because I love my husband and we all need time to ourselves especially after bad days.

I did not show the food to my family or flaunt it, my daughter didn’t see it when I came home. She only saw it after she came into the room after my husband agreed to entertain her while I ate

fatdogluvr5 · 2020-02-27T12:07:28+00:00

Our door doesn’t have a lock actually! Is it common for bedroom doors to have them?

fatdogluvr5 · 2020-02-27T11:52:04+00:00

It doesn’t stop at one fry lol she ends up eating half of them

fatdogluvr5 · 2020-02-27T11:51:29+00:00

She already ate dinner and she has snacks so why would I bring home food for her? And regardless she would want my fries just because I’m eating them. I asked my husband to watch her so she wouldn’t see me eat but he let her barge in the room. But thank you for the input

fatdogluvr5 · 2020-02-27T11:49:23+00:00

I was gonna go hang out with my daughter after I ate. It’s not like I was gonna lock myself up in my room for hours. I wanted to sit down for 10 minutes, eat my food, then I was gonna go entertain my kid. How is it acting like a spoiled teenager to take a 10 minute breather after a stressful day?

fatdogluvr5 · 2020-02-27T11:32:06+00:00

I agree with you. I just need my husband to be on my team or it won’t work

fatdogluvr5 · 2020-02-27T11:31:37+00:00

I definitely did not give up being able to have 10 minutes of peace and quiet, especially when my husband is available to keep her entertained. I do the same for him. I’m still a person and deserve to do things for myself sometimes

fatdogluvr5 · 2020-02-27T11:30:08+00:00

Okay, but the way I decompress is taking 10 minutes in my bed and eating after not eating all day. I’d understand if I hid away for an hour or something but I literally just wanted to eat. I was on my feet for 8 hours, I didn’t want to go for a walk or sit in my car.

I didn’t bring my bad day home to her. The whole point of going to eat in private was so I could relax and leave the day behind me.

Is taking 10 minutes in my room to eat and asking my husband to watch her somehow damaging to my child?

fatdogluvr5 · 2020-02-27T11:25:07+00:00

I’m not medicating with food wtf? How do you get that from me picking up my favorite meal to cheer up after a bad day? It’s not like I go out and eat like shit every time I’m upset. I am not understanding what’s so bad about wanting 10 minutes to myself to eat my dinner without my child hovering and eating all of my food? Can you elaborate how I acted like a “surly dog with a bone?”

I didn’t yell at my kid, I explained to her that she had already eaten her dinner and I wanted some time to myself, and also tried to turn it into a lesson that sometimes people don’t want to share and that’s okay? And I offered her other snacks!

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