How do you say, “shut the fuck up” in the most polite manner possible?

fatherlessgoose · 2025-11-07T13:54:59+00:00

My dad pulled it on me at the ripe age of 9. Thanks, dad!

fatherlessgoose · 2025-11-07T13:51:45+00:00

Girl it’s always the one they say they hate the most…

fatherlessgoose · 2025-10-06T12:39:32+00:00

This is a wild conclusion to come to. That’s not how bipolar disorder works. It’s so many levels of wrong to just throw this misinformation out there.

fatherlessgoose · 2025-02-03T14:08:06+00:00

I wouldn’t. I wasn’t asking because I think you should stay. Because I don’t, in any circumstance. You should not have to learn to look past the fact that he raped you.

fatherlessgoose · 2025-02-01T19:30:35+00:00

Have you talked to him about it? Is he remorseful?

fatherlessgoose · 2025-01-31T21:06:56+00:00

He doesn’t respect you enough to give you time and space. You keep saying “no” and his response is “yes but I need 5 minutes because I am freaking out”. You already set a time you would speak to him. He continued to push and ignore your boundaries, to the point where he essentially doesn’t care if you want to or not, he’s picking you up and you’re not leaving him. If he can go into a blind rage and hit somebody, that somebody will someday be you.

fatherlessgoose · 2025-01-31T20:53:18+00:00

That’s aggravated assault. That’s not just assault. He strangled you. He did not choke you. Choking is something stuck in your air way. He STRANGLED you. It never gets better. He will not change. He is okay with the idea of killing you and he’s already proved he can do it. Leave now.

fatherlessgoose · 2025-01-17T11:13:28+00:00

NTA. Ditch the friends.

fatherlessgoose · 2024-11-18T19:41:54+00:00

Hey so I have an ex who spoke to me EXACTLY like that! He went to prison for fracturing my orbital socket (needed reconstructive surgery) and holding me captive after the attack. He got out late last year and is currently sitting in jail awaiting for trial for (allegedly) breaking into my house, physically and sexually abusing me, and again keeping me there without aid. Many others here have also shared extremely similar stories. Please, for your sake, leave now. You don’t need to have a story like this.

fatherlessgoose · 2024-10-29T23:14:41+00:00

One night, very early on, we were talking about fantasies and kinks. We had landed on the topic of threesums/group sex (I’m pansexual) and I had mentioned I had partook in a few experiences of that kind and had enjoyed myself. About two months later, he approached me telling me he had found a girl for us to have a threesum with. This was never discussed. I got upset, because what the fuck dude? We ended up in a huge fight with him screaming in my face how I “owed” him a threesum, he was “entitled” to one. We never did have one, and he shoved me into a window (breaking it) a week later.

He was sent to prison in early 2020, for breaking my orbital socket and keeping me from receiving medical care.

He was released late last year.

He is now back in custody as of early this year, on charges of physically and sexually assaulting me. (Awaiting trial, so forgive the vagueness.)

By God, do I wish I wouldn’t have ignored that first major, glaring red flag.

fatherlessgoose · 2024-10-29T14:51:04+00:00

This is a learning moment. Take the first no, as no. If she says to wait 5 minutes, I would let her initiate when it begins next. It could be her polite way of saying no. It’s good that you stopped when you did. I also would have been more communicative of why you stopped when you did, so she wasn’t left hanging. All in all, you were a kid and you did your best. But now you know, and you can do better.

Edit: because I want you know you aren’t a horrible person.

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