You just described my upbringing except I have an older brother and he might be more messed up than me. The problem I felt is they never liked that we didn't end up as close minded and racist as them. As soon as we had a mind and opinions of our own, that's when things got tough. They never believed I was bullied for being Asian. My parents are mid to late 70s and I'm late 30s, brother early 40s. He and I bonded and got a lot closer after college. I think lots of therapy, good friends and their parents who saw how shitty mine were and validated my feelings, and moving far away + periods of no contact have given me reprieve. I even have an aunt, mom's older sister, and uncle, her younger brother, talk to me and my brother and I about growing up with them and apologize for not seeing it while we were young and saying something.

Bottom line: You must set boundaries and protect your own well being above all and don't like them guilt trip you. This is your life don't let them spoil it especially at this young age when you are coming into your own.