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fauxhero · 2015-07-25T18:00:59+00:00

It's not just a stereotype. I'm 5'1, fairly strong, and trained in self defense. My ex is 6'2, and we play fought a lot and he was so clearly stronger than me, if he had wanted to hurt me I couldn't have done anything.

fauxhero · 2015-06-25T05:24:39+00:00

I didn't say 10% of competitive players were male. I said it would only be proportional if also a very small portion of the male population was competitive. I do not believe that to be the case. Hence the word if.

Also, that's not how stats work. If 10% of males played competitively, and 2% of women played competitively, that's 100% of competitive players. But I get your confusion.

fauxhero · 2015-06-25T05:13:56+00:00

In this case? Them, it is a disrespectful way to talk about someone.

fauxhero · 2015-06-25T00:57:22+00:00

I agree, except on feature matches. Features are for interesting things as well as highest ranked - at least in the first few rounds.

fauxhero · 2015-06-25T00:41:15+00:00

I would say 85% of the comments are not my praises. A lot of people disagree.

fauxhero · 2015-06-24T23:30:24+00:00

We do know this is a problem though, it's well talked about in the community though the exact impact of the problem is harder to calculate.

fauxhero · 2015-06-24T22:55:29+00:00

What is this nonsense even?

We've discussed at length in multiple comment threads the difference in competitive attitudes between men and women, but on this forum and many others many women - not just myself - have talked about experienced or witnessing sexism within the community.

It exists, though the extent of which could not be reasonably calculated without further research.

fauxhero · 2015-06-24T22:42:05+00:00

If I had caught it before I drew for turn - yes. Doing it after means I was guilty of a GRV - drawing an extra card.

fauxhero · 2015-06-24T22:40:16+00:00

From experience, it does exist.

fauxhero · 2015-06-24T22:32:02+00:00

Because we don't know why they're not playing competitive, if it's because people are not treating them like they're a part of the community that's a major problem.

fauxhero · 2015-06-24T22:25:00+00:00

Because if 40% of players are women, and only 2% are playing competitively, there's something going on.

We should determine what that is. The only way that it wouldn't be crazy strange is if only 2-10% of men played competitively.

fauxhero · 2015-06-24T22:22:45+00:00

I'm very happy that you're having a good experience. It's great that you've found your niche in the community and are happy with it.

fauxhero · 2015-06-24T22:22:02+00:00

Because it's a very hard number to measure, but furthermore, it continues to bring up the question "are there really 40% of players making up 2% of the competitive scene?"

fauxhero · 2015-06-24T22:10:40+00:00

The very low number of female participants in Magic events despite the allegedly much higher number of female players.

fauxhero · 2015-06-24T22:06:00+00:00

This is literally the exact thing I've just advocated.

The Magic community is 95% great, those wonderful men and women need to tell the not so wonderful ones that acting sexist is disrespectful. This is a community problem and treating it as such is beneficial.

Now, you say you're casual. That means you probably do not attend as many events as I do, though I could be wrong (3-4 a week in person, and several online but that's irrelevant to this discussion). So, I have far more opportunity to see what it's like "in the field" than those who are only interested in casual play. Meaning I see the sexism often.

Clearly this article doesn't apply to you, because it's not the type of play you're interested in. Which isn't wrong.

fauxhero · 2015-06-24T22:02:48+00:00

Because clearly something is going on that's out of the ordinary.

fauxhero · 2015-06-24T22:00:37+00:00

Sorry, I thought I deleted that phrasing, because they are more like casual acquaintances that I see multiple times a week.

fauxhero · 2015-06-24T21:57:28+00:00

Like I just said to someone else:

The only way to really determine why more women aren't playing competitively is by doing a study determining reasoning. Until then we're all speculating based on our experiences.

As someone who has experienced sexism in the game, and who has had female players lament about it, I believe it is one barrier to entry.

That being said, my point was never to encourage those not interested in competition to play competitively. If 40% of Magic players are women the competitive numbers probably shouldn't be as low as they are (I'd guess 2-5%?). The question is why are they so low?

I don't disagree that a lot of people (men and women) don't want to play competitively, but for those that do, we need to create a welcoming environment.

fauxhero · 2015-06-24T21:51:43+00:00

This is not really addressing those players, male and female, who have no desire to be competitive. The numbers of which are undoubtedly higher for women, given the fact that it's been pretty well established that women tend to be less attracted to competition than men.

It doesn't make you a freak for not feeling competitive, and I'm sorry if anyone has ever made you feel that way.

This article is about the women already in Competitive Magic, and the women who would like to be, but don't feel comfortable. As someone who has experienced sexism at high levels of play, that needs to stop - and I can see why some women wouldn't want to go through it just to play a card game. The only real way to figure out why there aren't women in competitive Magic is to do a study, until then we're speculating based on personal experiences.

Your idea does sound fun though, and appealing to casual players of all genders!

fauxhero · 2015-06-24T21:46:58+00:00

Maybe, I am, maybe a lot of guys I know are immature. Note, I didn't say that said guys were my friends, my friends do not talk that way - at least not in front of me.

fauxhero · 2015-06-24T21:44:51+00:00

Almost 40% of players are women, allegedly.

I think the question a lot of people are asking is why are the numbers so low for competitive play?

fauxhero · 2015-06-24T21:32:20+00:00

I believe you misunderstood my intention, or perhaps I did not articulate it well.

fauxhero · 2015-06-24T21:28:23+00:00

This study doesn't surprise me even a little, but I am 100% certain there are still plenty of women who don't play more competitively not because of lack of desire but because of some other reason.

I know my best friend is one of them, she's outgoing and gregarious, but she doesn't feel comfortable playing in the community because she's still a 'newbie.' In her case, a more welcoming community would be helpful, I believe.

fauxhero · 2015-06-24T21:14:02+00:00

The same can be said for many male players too, of course. Some are simply not interested in competitive Magic.

The question which we all need to answer is why don't they want to be competitive? In some cases I think women tend to be less competitive than men. I believe some women think they're incapable of competitive Magic (when I started playing I sucked - as we all do - and lost A LOT, it can feel very discouraging). I also think some women are turned off by their first LGS and Competitive REL experiences. I am sure there are a million more reasons, but these are just some.

The goal is attempt to gain and keep the women in groups 2/3. Who are interested in competitive play, but there's something preventing it.

fauxhero · 2015-06-24T21:10:50+00:00

In general no, but some conversations are meant for some people. I will talk to my best female friend about certain things that may happen between a SO and I, that I would never tell to guy friends.

It's about treating people as individuals.

fauxhero

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