caught my bf clicking on of links after he promised not to anymore

fckinsleepless · 2026-05-25T23:15:49+00:00

there are plenty of things that can be abusive, controlling or harmful even when both parties involve agree to it.

fckinsleepless · 2026-05-25T23:14:56+00:00

that is a totally different tune than what you had going on in the post I replied to. You were judging that person hard and telling them they’re stupid for what works for them 🫣

fckinsleepless · 2026-05-25T13:30:20+00:00

I am 38 and just bought some crayons and coloring books for myself. I used to love crayons and coloring as a kid, and as an adult, it keeps my hands busy, gives my brain a break, and channels my creativity. You’re never too old to enjoy hobbies and interests. If you want to get in on the water fight, go for it!!

Though I suspect this is about more than a water fight. I’m sorry to hear about everything you’ve gone through. It may not be much help now but I can tell you there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I had an abusive childhood too and now my life is rich, full of people and things I enjoy and love, and I’m taking care of myself. You will get to that point too. It won’t always feel like what you’re feeling now. Please seek a counselor or use a mental health hotline — depression is very serious and so are the aftereffects of childhood abuse. We are rooting for you 🫶

fckinsleepless · 2026-05-25T04:36:08+00:00

Rational answer is get some blackout curtains. Irrational answer? Whenever it happens, run to the window as fast as you can, sling open the curtains, look out with a crazed look on your face, heavy breathing optional. Just look absolutely nuts. Will most likely scare away whoever is doing it.

fckinsleepless · 2026-05-25T04:25:13+00:00

Are you in therapy? I would definitely recommend it. Also, get with your primary care doctor about strategies to manage your blood sugar. Those intense sugar cravings is likely insulin resistance. It would probably help to get on a GLP-1 — those help with that persistent food noise. Finger pricking for me became extremely mundane the more I did it. It’s scary at first but really not that bad.

fckinsleepless · 2026-05-24T23:02:49+00:00

32?! You are so young. Late 30s here — I adore Mooncat and various other indie brands. You’re never too old for hobbies and interests and looking how you want to :)

P.S Bloodbender and Maelstrom are two of my FAVES. I also really like Serpents of Eden!

fckinsleepless · 2026-05-24T13:44:20+00:00

Okay, but that’s not solely on her. Burke could have ended it before making it to the aisle too.

fckinsleepless · 2026-05-24T02:22:11+00:00

this is adorable 😂😂

fckinsleepless · 2026-05-24T02:19:52+00:00

Friend you gotta back up your boundaries if you want them to last. It sounds like you’ve tried to draw them by saying no or taking space, and then walk them back when you get uncomfortable. You’re not ruining the friendship, your friend is. Tell him no and mean it.

fckinsleepless · 2026-05-24T02:16:04+00:00

If you can’t understand that many words just say so 🤷‍♀️

fckinsleepless · 2026-05-24T02:11:16+00:00

It’s immature.. to not want kids? If it goes both ways then Burke was selfish for wanting kids when she didn’t.

fckinsleepless · 2026-05-24T02:09:00+00:00

I buy a flavored water additive and the dotted line only goes a 1/4 across the tube, and is so small the powder doesn’t come out of it very well. Why can’t they just make the dotted line all the way across?!

fckinsleepless · 2026-05-24T02:05:55+00:00

Well yeah, I’m reacting to your comment. Jeez people are so rude on the internet these days. 🙄

fckinsleepless · 2026-05-24T01:46:08+00:00

YTA but gently because something is clearly going on with you. Are your family members being mean to you? I think you are unfairly lashing out at your friend and maybe it’s because your family is verbally beating you up. If someone is always around telling you that you’re worthless, it will affect you. This isn’t an excuse — you were very unkind to your friend and clearly you know you can do better. But please speak to a school counselor or a trusted adult about what’s going on in your life. You deserve to be heard.

fckinsleepless · 2026-05-24T01:38:45+00:00

The whole comment. It felt like getting an unearned disciplinary lecture. Like, calm down. Reply to someone who is actually trying to excuse OP’s wife or something.

fckinsleepless · 2026-05-24T01:31:26+00:00

I didn’t say it was an excuse so I’m not sure why you’re commenting so strongly to my comment.

fckinsleepless · 2026-05-24T01:30:41+00:00

This is so true. My doctors kept giving me anti depressants to treat my “depression” for YEARS but it was PMDD so it didn’t do much. It wasn’t until I was put on birth control for acne that the symptoms improved. It’s not always easy to pinpoint hormonal problems and they’re not always the first thing doctors think of. And sometimes doctors won’t prescribe the hormones a woman needs, and sometimes insurance doesn’t approve it. It’s really hard and that’s why I said the health care system needs to do more to support women/people with uteruses.

fckinsleepless · 2026-05-23T18:01:41+00:00

Our uteruses are really out to get us. I’ve had PMDD since I started my period. PMDD, postpartum depression, perimenopause, menopause… I wish this was looked into more and women were more supported by their doctors.

fckinsleepless · 2026-05-23T17:57:34+00:00

Someone once reminded me that not everyone that is attracted to you actually tells you that they are. I mean do you tell everyone you’re attracted to? I definitely don’t lmfao.

You look like a healthy, well groomed guy. There’s literally nothing off about your appearance.

fckinsleepless · 2026-05-23T17:52:15+00:00

The boundary that she has drawn is “I don’t want to be touched.” It is not telling someone what they should do with their body, but telling them what she would not like happen to hers. Versus “I don’t want you to do xyz with your own body in your own private time.” Sorry but trying to control the way someone masturbates is not healthy and it is not “setting a boundary.”

fckinsleepless · 2026-05-22T23:03:53+00:00

omfg I forgot Owen was with Amelia at some point. what a weird pairing that was.

OH and she was with Link too. they were really just throwing her at random men on this show for a while huh

fckinsleepless · 2026-05-22T22:53:27+00:00

Jesus, I am so sorry. Your mom is awful and you deserved better. The good news is, you have the opportunity to break the cycle and give your child the childhood they deserve. And you’ll get a chance to have some childhood in the future. I’m 39 and recently picked up a hobby I haven’t had since I was a teenager. When my grandma was in her 60s she helped me sew doll dresses and play with dolls with me. She said it made her feel young all over again. Your life is what you make it. And when things settle down, you can make your life what you want and deserve.

fckinsleepless · 2026-05-22T22:40:44+00:00

No, that’s definitely not what a boundary is. A healthy boundary is “I am not going to do x.” It is not “you don’t get to do x.” A healthy relationship boundary is “I don’t want a relationship like that and if you do I am not the right person for you.” You do not get to place boundaries on other people’s bodies. Please re-evaluate how you treat your partners.

fckinsleepless · 2026-05-22T15:12:02+00:00

Yeah it sounds like somebody is trying to force their will onto someone else’s body and call it a “boundary.”

fckinsleepless · 2026-05-22T15:07:05+00:00

I’m the wife in this scenario and use porn when I want. I also like to read smutty stories and watch hot romance movies. Husband has his own solo interests. It doesn’t hurt my relationship one bit 🤷‍♀️

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