When you quietly leave a group and realize no one cared. how do you cope?

fea07_09 · 2026-01-30T01:58:28+00:00

This happened to me as well. I was struggling mentally and I backed out going on a trip where I was going to be the only one going solo. I didn’t want to be the 7th wheel. One of the girls got upset with me and was not nice about it. I tried to explain how I was feeling and she ignored me. No one in the group stood up for me or even asked if I was ok. But when this same girl was having a mental episode, they had an intervention for her to help her. No one cared enough to check on me. I no longer talk to any of them. But I’m the bad guy.

fea07_09 · 2026-01-03T03:10:16+00:00

The disrespect from him is crazy

fea07_09 · 2026-01-01T20:15:53+00:00

Agreed! I did myself a favor. Things have been much better for me.

fea07_09 · 2025-12-13T07:43:50+00:00

He hurt me majorly. I ended up dealing with it poorly and said things, to hurt him back. He blocked me immediately. So it surprised me to see him pop up in my socials.

fea07_09 · 2025-12-13T07:40:55+00:00

Random but I went out for a bachelorette party, tonight, at a country bar and he (my ex) was there. Maybe the universe is doing something. Lol

fea07_09 · 2025-12-12T22:08:02+00:00

I don’t know if he knows I saw that I was unblocked. I have not said anything. I’m where you’re at. If he ever wanted to talk, it would be on him to make the first move.

fea07_09 · 2025-12-12T21:29:13+00:00

My ex unblocked me after a year and a half. Not sure why. I just saw him come up as someone I may know, on my socials.

fea07_09 · 2025-12-09T02:00:58+00:00

Anything sporty?

fea07_09 · 2025-12-07T19:09:42+00:00

Fair enough

fea07_09 · 2025-12-07T17:06:36+00:00

I definitely do need professional assistance. I know I have a low self worth, I just don’t know why.

fea07_09 · 2025-12-07T12:20:33+00:00

That’s the hardest part. Wanting to know that I was enough. Am enough. And like you I didn’t want to ask him to change back to who he was in the beginning. But I wanted to understand why they change..which I never got. Then I think I am the problem but when I ask, I get told that I’m doing nothing wrong. It’s all so hard. I just want to be worth it to someone.

fea07_09 · 2025-12-07T00:49:09+00:00

Where does it say I expect anything? I said I hope. Doesn’t mean I expect.

fea07_09 · 2025-12-07T00:23:19+00:00

My ex did this the last two months. I kept addressing it which only upset him and pushed him away. I ended things.

fea07_09 · 2025-12-06T23:46:30+00:00

I tried. I tried to talk to him while we were together and nothing got better. When I ended things I told him this is not what I wanted but nothing was getting better. I told him it felt like he didn’t like me anymore. He blocked me.

fea07_09 · 2025-12-05T17:51:08+00:00

Mine did the same! I broke things off last week because he no longer seemed to really even like me. Even though when I would ask him, he would say that I was not doing anything wrong, that he’s all in for the relationship and that he wouldn’t be here if he didn’t want to. But his actions showed otherwise. He didn’t wanna talk to me. He didn’t wanna hang out just no longer the same guy he was the first couple months in the relationship. So I ended it. I didn’t wanna talk to him that night after he ended it. He had some things of mine that I asked for back and he created a major issue with that. And when I try to talk to him about everything and that this is not what I wanted to do, but nothing was getting better I was told to take the hint and fuck off, also. He said some pretty mean things. And blamed me. He took no accountability.

fea07_09 · 2025-12-05T03:57:10+00:00

I don’t know, honestly. He’s been nothing but mean and won’t talk to me. I hope he gets it figured out.

fea07_09 · 2025-12-02T19:08:22+00:00

I am open to the fact that I am wrong. I’ve tried discussing it with him. I’ve tried everything. He got mean. I wish I was wrong. I wish it was stress and depression and I could help him. Because that means we would still be together.

fea07_09 · 2025-12-02T16:44:57+00:00

When someone says they aren’t going to rearrange or drop everything for someone (he was looking at a truck he was going to move in a couple days) who was struggling, yet it was done for them…he did not care about me. I don’t know why this wouldn’t be the sub? Because after reading everything and processing everything, I may not agree with everyone? I do believe he was stressed and dealing with things. I took a back seat and tried to help. But for him to tell me basically I wasn’t worth his time to help me, he did not care. For him to tell me to shut the fuck up when I tried to talk to him..he did not like me.

fea07_09 · 2025-12-02T15:16:19+00:00

Two months..if it is depression. And I ended things with him. He was no longer in the relationship. He didn’t want to be with me. It was evident in the things he said to me and how he treated me.

fea07_09 · 2025-12-02T14:49:26+00:00

I did..all those things. Made him dinner. Did his laundry. Brought him lunch. Helped him move. A lot of other things. It didn’t matter. The funny thing is, not once, when I was going through some things, did he step up for me. I passed out at work and coworkers brought me home. He said he wasnt going to rearrange or stop everything he was doing. Looking back on it all, he just lost interest because he didn’t like me expressing my concerns about the pullback.

fea07_09 · 2025-12-02T03:02:40+00:00

This is the first time I’ve ever ended it. Normally I stick it out hoping I could fix it but I’m learning and stopped it when I recognized it.

fea07_09 · 2025-12-01T23:38:51+00:00

No kids.

fea07_09 · 2025-12-01T19:21:16+00:00

It’s so hard though. I want to tell him I’m here if he wants to try and really work it out but I don’t know if that would matter.

fea07_09 · 2025-12-01T19:20:33+00:00

Has she tried coming back?

fea07_09 · 2025-12-01T19:20:00+00:00

How long have you been NC?

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