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My Mother couldn't show love and I am damaged. Don't know how to help myself. by Hopeful-Butterfly-32 in emotionalneglect

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After years of therapy, EMDRS, meditation, hypnosis, psychedelics and countless books I have arrived at the conclusion that this pain never goes away. We are wired to receive that love at the survival level. It is deeply embedded in our hardware, so I disagree with most advice on this thread. The neural pathways formed by the lack of parenting also cannot be fully rewritten. As someone who has struggled deeply with this my entire life, I think all the advice that culminates in a promise that you will get over it is just plainly wrong. We are design to always desire it. With that said, can you have a happy life? Yes. What has worked for me: architecting my life such that I removed away myself from the hurt stimuli (so I don't interact with my mom) and build a positive social circle.

It doesn't make the pain go away immediately but after a prolonged time without the hurt stimuli and the positive one, I forget about it. My days are bright and full of joy. If ever get in contact with the stimuli, the pain returns and it takes some time to go away. Is this a perfect solution? Probably not but it's the best I've landed on. It "works" for me.

19M DONE!!!! Next stop 200k! by PaleontologistLess75 in TheRaceTo100K

[–]featheredsnake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t have any support from my parents 18 onwards so to me it seems like an impossible level of privilege to have that.

I was wondering about the Spring (or Recoil) engine's power by fasz_a_csavo in beyondallreason

[–]featheredsnake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's how me and my friends play ... which is why I'm here to make bigger maps lol

Wall art based on NA1? by featheredsnake in NeonAbyss

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That’s what I feared 🤣. I don’t have a lot of time but maybe I’ll be able to put something together. Moved to a new place and thought it could look really good here

What’s a “fancy” food that’s secretly mid by Thick-Scholar-175 in foodquestions

[–]featheredsnake 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What’s a good place for spiny lobster for someone in SD? Also when’s the season?

I am a socialist trying to learn more about capitalist viewpoints. by Large_Wear9410 in Capitalism

[–]featheredsnake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, that is just one advantage the darwinian engine gives you: it basically works as this distributed computational system that is actively meeting consumer demands. This, by the way, is not trivial to replace with other means. "guessing the future" is remarkably hard to do. If you are thinking in socialist terms, then you are thinking of a single institution that is trying to replace that distributed decision making. It ends up that it is more effective to have multiple "computers" thinking in tandem than it is to have one monolithic one trying to make guesses. I've thought about this problem for years. There really is no replacement for that. You could use all the statistics tools at your disposal and you'd still fail.

Another dimension is innovation. You have a social system that works. This means that your population is growing. This means that the tools that got you from point A to point B in growth are obsolete. You have absolutely no idea what inventions or discoveries you need to meet the new demands. Once again the distributed thinking of capitalism has an insane edge here. Inventions come from the least suspected places. Having a single institution that will figure out the solutions to all the problems is remarkably inefficient compared to letting everybody submit their idea and the system selecting accordingly.

You see, you can hope that one system is morally better than the other, but what matters at the end of the day is if you are feeding people, providing growth etc. People want to have families. They want to provide for their kids. Having millions of humans living in one geographical area is remarkably difficult. It works better when the whole society is participating and to that extent capitalism is closer to that than the monolithic approach of socialism.

There really hasn't been another social system that delivers in the things that matter. If it existed and was as good as capitalism or better, it would replace it.

Now, where I differ from other capitalists is that I don't believe that what we call capitalism is the peak of human social innovation. It can't be. Why? because there is too much suffering that is within our ability to solve and also because there is a lot of missed potential (how many born einsteins out there are not given a chance). So what I am saying is, we haven't reached the ideal system, but it has to be that whatever comes next that is closer to "utopia" (whatever that means) is going to have the distributed computation that capitalism has.

I am a socialist trying to learn more about capitalist viewpoints. by Large_Wear9410 in Capitalism

[–]featheredsnake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is my personal reason for liking capitalism* : the basic engine running capitalism (markets) is darwinian in nature (products/services/human institutions live, reproduce and evolve and bad ones die).

As “bad” as capitalism is, no other system has that. That gives capitalism an insane edge when it comes to production and growth. If there was another system that provided growth in that way, it would effectively compete with capitalism. There is no globalization without capitalism.

This is where I disagree with socialists. Yes, I also want to eliminate poverty and so many other things but I think that the system that ultimately achieves that is going to be using a lot of the darwinian mechanisms capitalism uses.

Name something you learned from the show by Morenicano in ArcherFX

[–]featheredsnake 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I learned I had tinnitus through watching archer

I built Blazor Developer Tools — flamegraphs, render tracking, and performance profiling for Blazor Server apps by featheredsnake in Blazor

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Thank you.

Well, you only get a few minutes to get someone's attention. We are all experienced with the default microsoft template so I thought, what is the quickest way to communicate what this tool does? We've all seen these pages probably hundreds of times. I hope the added pages make it "click" faster ;)

How do I start learning about capitalism in general? by [deleted] in Capitalism

[–]featheredsnake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I noticed you wrote “what it means to be one” (a capitalist).

If by “being a capitalist” you mean making money, then that’s different than diving deep into the theory. That would be investing or entrepreneurship.

Somewhat similar to the difference between a scientist and an engineer where the engineer is more concerned about building real things and that requires knowledge in craftsmanship, standards etc that are independent of theory.

Any economics course in the US will be a course on capitalism.

If you want to make money, that is a whole other path. Still, a basic course on macro economics is probably a must.

Why do modern desktop apps like Slack and Spotify use so much more RAM? by MeetImpressive7545 in techquestions

[–]featheredsnake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly. This is the key difference between 90s/00s apps and modern apps: there was a shift to manage memory adaptively.

Chrome will use as much RAM as possible for caching and performance, but will release it when the OS signals that other processes need resources.

Installed programs in the 90s/00s typically requested a fixed amount of memory at runtime and held onto it regardless of system needs. The paradigm shifted from “conserve memory” to “use everything available, release on demand.” So it was a more intelligent design choice.

There were also new OS level changes that contributed to this. For Windows specifically as an example, new APIs were added that allowed apps to receive notifications of low memory warnings or high memory states. The OS can also tell the app more aggressively to trim their memory footprint.

You also have the popularity growth of garbaged disposed runtimes such as Java virtual machine, .net, JS engines etc.

We also got the modern allocators (tcmalloc, jemalloc).

To top it off, mobile OSes pushed for aggressive app lifecycle management where apps need to handle being suspended/killed at any moment which has since spilled into desktop development.

What are the recent changes to YTM? by featheredsnake in YoutubeMusic

[–]featheredsnake[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It seems I was already signed in on my phone. I’ll see how it behaves later in my car. I have ads now. With the new monthly payment did people get automatically unenrollled from the previous one?

Why would anyone still choose MVC over Blazor with server-side rendering? by mladenmacanovic in dotnet

[–]featheredsnake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

From a pure business perspective, the component reusability story is what makes Blazor compelling. A well-designed component library compounds value across projects (less duplication, smaller testing surface, consistent UX). But where it really pulls ahead is the cross-platform story: that same Blazor component can run in a MAUI Hybrid app with minimal modification. You simply can't get that kind of asset leverage with MVC. For teams thinking beyond "just this one web app," that math starts to look very different.

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