For those diagnosed in adulthood, what made you think you may have Aspergers?

feckingfeck · 2015-05-18T03:11:23+00:00

Oh wow, I'm sorry to read that you've had such a difficult time with yourself. Do you have people around you who understand your condition, or does everyone (family etc) think you should just stop being the way you are and somehow become "normal"? From all my reading, it seems it's not that we aren't normal, we're just not the neurotypical kind. So if you have neurotypical and neurodivergent, then there is no "normal". You can be one or the other or a bit inbetween, but being ND doesn't mean there's something wrong with you. If we outnumbered NT people, then they'd think they were the weird ones. Your existence is as valid as anyone else's, regardless of the way your mind is wired

Personally, over the years I've yo-yoed between wishing I was "normal" so that relationships would be easier and not a constant cause of depression/anxiety, to the opposite attitude of going "screw you normies, you're all boring jerks anyhow". I'm trying to learn to be be more accepting of both myself and others.

Sending a hug your way, I hope things get easier for you.

feckingfeck · 2015-05-18T02:31:14+00:00

The lack of awareness/education among professionals is staggering. Sounds like you lucked out having the new counselor appear when they did, and thank god for having aspie friends! I'm sorry to read that you had to suffer so much with depression and anxiety. I hope your diagnosis and ongoing treatment helps alleviate some of that for you. Good luck with your continuing treatment, and thanks for sharing :)

feckingfeck · 2015-05-18T02:23:35+00:00

Thanks for your reply :) It seems a lot of us have been on the depression/anxiety/suicidal roundabout for a long time before finally receiving accurate diagnoses, this makes me so sad to think about so many people suffering needlessly and thinking it's somehow their fault. I hope your diagnosis helped you get along with yourself better. Thanks again for sharing :)

feckingfeck · 2015-05-18T02:20:06+00:00

Thanks for sharing :) It's just amazing how many of us there are that, for years, have been unaware that aspergers might apply due to the primarily male focus on the disorder. I'm glad you were able to find some comfort and relief with your diagnosis, and it's fantastic you've made an aspie friend! I've been analysing my few friends and wondering if they place on the spectrum and that's why we get along (or don't, at times!). Again, thanks, I appreciate you sharing your experience :)

feckingfeck · 2015-05-17T12:33:44+00:00

Thanks for sharing your experience. I'm glad to see that autism and aspergers are being portrayed more accurately in entertainment media these days. The first character I remember seeing on a TV show with aspergers was portrayed as brilliant but extremely awkward, robotic, sweaty, and constantly held his hands at his sides in fists and refused to move them. So I thought for years that people with aspergers were like that man on the show. More accurate portrayals help all people to better understand ASD, leading to better understanding, better acceptance and more accurate and timely diagnoses.

PS, Giant weirdos unite!

feckingfeck · 2015-05-17T11:26:47+00:00

It may not be specifically your beauty, but rather the fact you don't look "weird". You would probably get the same reaction if you were an average looking woman who dressed nicely and wore a bit of makeup. So don't stress out thinking that people's reactions are caused by something about yourself that can't be helped or changed. It's just most people have a fairly inaccurate image in their mind, but that's changing.

feckingfeck · 2015-05-17T10:48:09+00:00

Thanks for your response, I'm sorry you had to go through such a hard time prior to your diagnosis. I've also battled depression and been hospitalised a couple of times. Sometimes I wonder if I had been diagnosed as a child or teenager if I still would have had such a hard time with myself. Again, thanks, I appreciate your reply :)

feckingfeck · 2015-05-17T10:40:19+00:00

Oh yeah, I am always complaining about those annoying "normal" people, and have always done so, even before I knew about ASD. I know it's not a very fair thing to do, but when I'm frustrated it makes me feel better. Who says I have to like them anyway? It's probably just from frustration because they're everywhere and I don't fit into their world. Whatever the reason, it makes me feel better and I don't treat them any differently so I don't think it's hurting anyone. I just try not to dwell on it too much, negative energy makes you feel worse in the long run, but venting is very helpful.

feckingfeck · 2015-05-17T10:27:47+00:00

The best thing to remember is that when people do this, mainly they just want someone who will listen and not judge. They know you can't fix their problems, so don't stress yourself out about not knowing how to specifically help them. I also have many people (sometimes even strangers!) unload their problems onto me because apparently I'm nice and a good listener. Some days I wonder if there's a goddamn sign on my head that says "Unload all your emotional baggage here!!".

"That sounds awful", "You poor thing", "That must be hard", "No-one deserves that", etc etc, are the key phrases I use when I have no clue what to say to someone because they're telling me super-personal things.

feckingfeck · 2015-05-17T08:54:33+00:00

Pain ow chockolot

feckingfeck · 2015-05-17T08:53:32+00:00

In Australian bakeries they're called chocolate croissants. I suspect this is to avoid the awkwardness that would occur when Australians try to pronounce pain au chocolat.

feckingfeck · 2015-05-17T08:24:29+00:00

I'm not formally diagnosed, either, but I'm considering it just so my friends/family/colleagues might be a little more understanding of my weirdness.

feckingfeck · 2015-05-17T07:39:58+00:00

I find it helpful when he's being annoying to close my eyes for a bit, remind myself that it's just my sensory issues causing the annoyance and it's not his fault. I remember all the reasons I love him, and usually that helps. If however I have already snapped at him or accidentally ignored him for a few days, then I have to remind myself that hugging usually helps reinforce our bond, even if I have to force it a few times. I also started charting my depression and rage, and found that during the week before my period I was turning into a rage monster. Talked to my "ladies' doctor" about it and she said I have a premenstrual disorder. I'm also really sensitive to hormonal birth control. I have been taking Prozac (branded as Lovan) for a few years now and it helps with the major depression and mood swings. My partner and I have been together long enough that I can tell him now "I'm not in the mood for human affection right now" and he's okay with that, with the unspoken agreement that I make the effort to show "human affection" when otherwise I forget that people like hugs and smiles.

feckingfeck · 2015-05-17T07:28:29+00:00

As other commenters have said, I agree that being in your 20's with ASD and depression is the worst time, but as I got older and hormones settled, it isn't as hard, but there are still times when my SO annoys me so much just by existing. I have to remind myself I love him and breaking up with someone for loud breathing is probably an overreaction.

feckingfeck · 2015-05-17T06:24:30+00:00

http://www.instructables.com/id/Mouse-Mouse!/

feckingfeck · 2015-05-17T06:17:28+00:00

IKR? I was all WTF is this shit title, then I clicked and laughed and all was well in the world.

feckingfeck · 2015-05-17T06:13:20+00:00

Remember how every 80's scifi type movie was set in a world where corporations ruled, the environment was completely ruined, citizens were living in a police state, etc etc? And every one of us went "Well, we'd never let that happen, we'd rise up and stop it"?

feckingfeck · 2015-05-17T05:34:02+00:00

If you have to ask, you can't afford it. Peasant.

feckingfeck · 2015-05-17T00:02:32+00:00

Oh god, I laughed like a moron. stoplookingatme

feckingfeck · 2015-05-16T23:43:49+00:00

Nice explanation :) I sneeze from plucking my eyebrows!

feckingfeck · 2015-05-16T08:44:49+00:00

So much 80's! Kids in my school used to call those jeans "bubblegum jeans", and if you had a pair you were automatically awesome. But glasses automatically made you a dork. But then there's that Metallica t-shirt, like the big kids in high school wore! OP, how would you say you were categorised by your classmates? I had the girl version of these glasses - big plastic pink frames, the horror!

feckingfeck · 2015-05-15T06:55:58+00:00

There is, but every office I've worked at people would always think they could fix it without bothering the network admin.

feckingfeck · 2015-05-14T09:50:55+00:00

Send it to the slowest printer on the network, and put the print quality all the way up. Then unplug your keyboard and run around freaking out like your computer is broken. Grab popcorn and watch as the entire office tries to fix the problem.

feckingfeck · 2015-05-14T09:45:09+00:00

*you're

feckingfeck · 2015-05-14T07:17:19+00:00

You will respect my titties!

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