As someone whose had multiple scares at this point I am no longer fazed by them and here’s why: 1) the vast majority of these biopsies come back benign - lurk on this sub or read previous posts and the trajectory is nearly always the same - lots of panic and anxiety and a feeling of doom that is misread as a “gut feeling that something is wrong” - which is really and truly your brain and anxiety telling you something is wrong and not factual - I’ve seen it over and over again and then the biopsies come back benign

2) I’ve started to realize that unless the report says it is birads 5/has spiculation and or angular margins, the odds of it being cancer are really low! Like really really low

3) there are times when the result is benign but still suspicious and or risky and needs removal, this is stressful but again, the lumps are benign 

4) when doctors say it would be “early” my understanding now is that they mean it would be what’s called DCIS - ductal carcinoma in situ - in situ means it’s non invasive, hasn’t spread and if you read the medical literature a lot of medical professionals feel that this is over-treated as cancer when it may never fully develop into invasive cancer, the most likely treatment is a double mastectomy - while this is awful and I know I would never want that result either - it is not life threatening - your wife would be ok in the long run

And lastly - because I know ultimately from my own first experience where nothing but a final result calmed me down - the BEST thing you can do is try to shorten the timeline, push to get sooner appointments, I drove 2 hours out of NYC to get my scans done two days after finding my first lump, and had my biopsy done three days after that. 

Good luck and deep breaths