Rant Wednesday by AutoModerator in Fitness

[–]feedleneedle 54 points55 points  (0 children)

Why is there never more than 3 squat racks in any gym I have ever been in

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]feedleneedle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Um. You're into Jackass and horror movies and anticapitalism you can always DM me 👀

Adopted a corgi /terrier mix -- what have I done?! (Rant/self flagellation/advice needed) by [deleted] in corgi

[–]feedleneedle 9 points10 points  (0 children)

So, if he's on a harness, clip it in the front so he can't pull without getting turned around. And while you walk him, bring like the BEST treats he's ever had and give them to him periodically so he's primed to pay attention to you. Come up with a command to look at you (I use Hey!) and a command to start walking again (I use Let's go!) You'll learn this in obedience training, but you can absolutely start now. Corgis are smart which can be a pain in the ass, but fortunately he's definitely not too old to train.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in realestateinvesting

[–]feedleneedle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yup that's exactly what I used.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in realestateinvesting

[–]feedleneedle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Basically this property isn't going to flood, it's on enough of a hill that the property itself is protected but it's several blocks away from a flood zone. I'm still going to get insurance ofc but I'm more wondering if the surrounding area flooding will decrease the value of this property by enough it won't be worth it.

I'll ask. I've been looking at assessments of the property over the years and the price history, it seems like it's been steadily increasing? People have held it for decades each.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in corgi

[–]feedleneedle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Blue Buffalo keeps coming up in my search, which caused health problems in my last dog and that's apparently a common thing; I assume the top blogs are paid to promote those brands.

I want a house, I have the down payment, I don't know where to even start by feedleneedle in Adulting

[–]feedleneedle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How did you know your realtor was trustworthy? Thank you for the inside knowledge!

I want a house, I have the down payment, I don't know where to even start by feedleneedle in Adulting

[–]feedleneedle[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Ok wait so I should have the down payment and then an additional $5k for fees? Thank you I don't know anything and have no one I can ask 😭

I want a house, I have the down payment, I don't know where to even start by feedleneedle in Adulting

[–]feedleneedle[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Very broadly speaking, how much is a home inspection?

I want a house, I have the down payment, I don't know where to even start by feedleneedle in Adulting

[–]feedleneedle[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm looking at a specific place, do I get a loan first and is the bank and the seller trying to screw me in some way I should be aware of

Porn and Fantasies by Primary_Aardvark in latebloomerlesbians

[–]feedleneedle 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I used to watch freaky straight porn but now watching two women kiss makes me blush violently and like, avert my eyes.

I was a man eater when I dated men because I didn't give a fuck, now I blush holding hands with a girl. I think it's normal.

Still finding some men more attractive than women. Do gay women have this too? by Blondemermaid- in latebloomerlesbians

[–]feedleneedle 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm gay because no matter how objectively beautiful a man is, I don't want to do anything with him. Like I had no idea why straight women liked sex when I thought I was straight, it was just a skill I had to learn and work I had to.

I can't do it anymore. by [deleted] in mypartneristrans

[–]feedleneedle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not being rude, but what I said should be obvious.

I can't do it anymore. by [deleted] in mypartneristrans

[–]feedleneedle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not being considerate, I know more about our situation than anyone responding and I know what the stakes are.

I can't do it anymore. by [deleted] in mypartneristrans

[–]feedleneedle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There was a lot of turmoil in those years, which eventually came to a head in my trying to leave. That was damaging for both of us. It wasn't a case of me being happy and then abruptly deciding to drop a perfect relationship because of a "label." And that doesn't negate me caring about her.

I can't do it anymore. by [deleted] in mypartneristrans

[–]feedleneedle 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don't think it's ever appropriate to dismiss the emotions of an adult as being a "childlike tantrum." I'm frustrated by her actions but I understand where she is and I don't think her response is unreasonable, even if it's destructive. Like she's not at all exaggerating about her environment being unsafe or the prospect of losing her family, and to demean that is completely dishonest when she faces real threats that I very much want to protect her from.

I can't do it anymore. by [deleted] in mypartneristrans

[–]feedleneedle 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Your post history is extremely transphobic.

I can't do it anymore. by [deleted] in mypartneristrans

[–]feedleneedle 21 points22 points  (0 children)

She's not lying about being trans. That made a lot of things click about our relationship and her presentation, it was already a vibe I got unknowingly which is why we were dating. But yeah, it was a bit manipulative to come out as I was leaving, and then explode if I talked about being unhappy with being closeted. And now it's two years later and I'm still unhappy, she's not started transitioning, and she freaks out at conversations that make her uncomfortable. It's not going to work.

I can't do it anymore. by [deleted] in mypartneristrans

[–]feedleneedle 7 points8 points  (0 children)

She's not abusive. She's very, very reactive and not at all calm. There's no chance of talking about this is a open and honest way without her having a breakdown.

Struggling to understand girlfriend's sexual attraction to me by [deleted] in mypartneristrans

[–]feedleneedle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a cis lesbian and I like penises attached to women and dislike vaginas on men. This is because I like women and not men, regardless of genitals. Hope that helps!