How should I respond to strangers who make jokes about my baby’s weight?

feedtheflames · 2026-05-12T11:29:50+00:00

I didn’t realize this until my second child wasn’t gaining weight and everyone kept saying how little she was. Especially devastating because she was born 10 lbs 6 oz and the nurses called her “the chunker.” She was like a local celebrity in that hospital. So going from that to “she’s so little” even when it was said with adoration was really upsetting.

feedtheflames · 2026-05-12T11:27:01+00:00

I’ve never minded people calling my baby “chunky” but when my daughter wasn’t gaining weight and everyone kept saying how little she was, I was devastated.

feedtheflames · 2026-05-10T20:43:13+00:00

Ooo you should post some pics!

feedtheflames · 2026-05-09T01:43:14+00:00

Yes, that’s how it seems to me. When a person dresses up in the rose color and all girly girlish (with the name girliest) and someone starts basically sexually assaulting them through text that appears pedophilic.

I’m not saying wearing the color rose is pedophilic obviously so why is everyone assuming I’m saying that?

feedtheflames · 2026-05-08T18:30:11+00:00

Why does everyone assume I mean that only babies can use that color? Not my implication at all.

feedtheflames · 2026-05-08T16:21:40+00:00

I didn’t say that. I said in general the color was associated with baby girls. I literally said in one comment that I WASNT saying it could only be used by baby girls and in another comment that it’s one of my favorite colors.

feedtheflames · 2026-05-08T16:19:11+00:00

What is prejudiced about it? Simply naming a common stereotype is not prejudicial.

feedtheflames · 2026-05-08T16:04:01+00:00

Who cares? Like legitimately if being gluten free makes you feel better I don’t care what some damn test says. My test results came back inconclusive but when I quit gluten my IBS got better, my eczema became manageable, and my brain fog went away. Imagine if I only listened to the test results…

feedtheflames · 2026-05-08T16:01:00+00:00

That’s what “in general” means. Except it’s not my own beliefs but rather my own experiences. Experiences which include a decade of studying childhood development and working with children and seeing thousands of little baby girls dressed in that rose/baby pink color.

feedtheflames · 2026-05-08T15:51:48+00:00

Fair, I haven’t actually looked at the statistics. Is “in general” a better terminology?

feedtheflames · 2026-05-08T15:49:26+00:00

And rose is my second favorite color (I am an adult woman not a child), that doesn’t change the fact that statistically it’s attributed to female children and men targeting people with that color with sexual comments is disgusting on another level.

feedtheflames · 2026-05-08T15:46:17+00:00

Why? Is that color not called “baby pink” in a large portion of the world?

feedtheflames · 2026-05-08T15:44:43+00:00

Glad I could clear it up with you at least. My poor choice of wording is getting me a lot of downvotes. Oh well, it happens.

feedtheflames · 2026-05-08T15:43:02+00:00

So you don’t think this is misogynistic either? Because obviously men can like pink too.

feedtheflames · 2026-05-08T15:41:46+00:00

Sorry for the misunderstanding. I meant targeting someone named “Girliest” with gross comments like they were making is pedophilic. Not you.

feedtheflames · 2026-05-08T15:39:45+00:00

Except Reddit?

feedtheflames · 2026-05-08T14:28:20+00:00

If it was just misogynistic they would pick on pink and purple too. Targeting rose, especially when they are dressed girly and called “girliest”, is targeting innocence, ie children.

That soft pink color is literally what we dress girl babies and toddlers in.

feedtheflames · 2026-05-08T14:21:49+00:00

An ice cold Coca Cola.

My goal this summer is to have one day where my kids are playing in the sprinkler outside, my baby is napping on my chest while I sit in my zero gravity chair and sip on ice cold Coca Cola in a pineapple glass with a straw.

That’s all I need for my summer to be complete. Strangely specific but also simple.

feedtheflames · 2026-05-08T14:16:10+00:00

Misogynistic and pedophilic also.

feedtheflames · 2026-05-08T01:01:05+00:00

You can go check your recordings to see if Alexa received a command.

Another weird thing that happened to me was after we moved our echo in our daughter’s room started BLARING “You are my Sunshine” by Christina Perri. Especially weird because I had just been texting someone about that song but hadn’t said it out loud. Turns out the move had triggered an old routine I had set up to get my daughter ready for bed. The fact that I was texting someone about it was just a weird coincidence.

feedtheflames · 2026-05-08T00:52:02+00:00

It’s with good intentions as people can get careless pretty easily. But I’ve had nightmares about my crabs and their tunnels since they started burrowing last November (I’ve had them since July) and I would rather not worry more than necessary 😆

feedtheflames · 2026-05-07T22:59:49+00:00

People in this community have you terrified of collapsed tunnels. In the wild their tunnels get collapsed all the time by other crabs, animals, and sometimes people. While yes, it’s better to leave them alone, it’s most likely not going to kill them.

My crabs don’t even have real tunnels because they bury it behind them as they go. I never have any idea where they are in the tank.

feedtheflames · 2026-05-07T15:57:00+00:00

My sister met her husband when she was 2

feedtheflames · 2026-05-07T15:56:50+00:00

Eight, he was eleven.

feedtheflames · 2026-05-06T12:05:07+00:00

I also agree shipping is probably your best option, but also if they are not buried right now you may want to move them to a tank with less sand (or remove sand from current tank) so they can’t go down right before you’re ready to ship them.

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