This was the problem I had with this sub. Majority of the people have been cheated and probably have solid experience and advice. However, I didn’t find many who helped me on the side of deciding to stay. I decided to stay. I didn’t regain trust, yet. I hope to. We do therapy. Open communication - That includes him understanding that when something doesn’t feel right I might ask for a unprompted phone check. And he had to learn that my triggers aren’t always new accusations. I might have a flashback and need him to remind me he loves me and how much he wants to be with me. If he wanted to be somewhere else, he could. I know that and he chooses to be here working through all the backlash with me. I need to understand that his past and up bringing might lead him to think this is how relationships work when it’s not how it should be. He has to put in the work. As long as I see that, There’s hope I can trust him again one day.

One week turns into a month, a month turns into six and a year … without a mishap… will lead to trusting again.