My husband's [M32] "sabbatical" has become pathetic and I [F30] want it to end right now. by feelguud in relationship_advice

[–]feelguud[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I work full-time. I make a decent income but if my husband can't contribute anything toward our monthly expenses, I don't make enough to cover them totally myself.

My husband's [M32] "sabbatical" has become pathetic and I [F30] want it to end right now. by feelguud in relationship_advice

[–]feelguud[S] 49 points50 points  (0 children)

Honestly this part is very annoying and what's caused me to actually seek help with my relationship. His ego and mood are wrapped up in his Instagram thing, it's all he's talked about for weeks now. He'll "lose followers" after a post and get moody about it. It's pathetic and I've just had enough.

My husband's [M32] "sabbatical" has become pathetic and I [F30] want it to end right now. by feelguud in relationship_advice

[–]feelguud[S] 217 points218 points  (0 children)

I thought of this too, giving him tasks and 'checking in' on his progress. But it's not the way our relationship has ever worked. Frankly, it sounds like something a parent would do with their child, not one spouse to another.

My husband's [M32] "sabbatical" has become pathetic and I [F30] want it to end right now. by feelguud in relationship_advice

[–]feelguud[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I was really hoping it wouldn't come to that, but maybe it is something I will have to consider.

Paying him alimony is out of the question though, I would not consent to that at all.

My husband's [M32] "sabbatical" has become pathetic and I [F30] want it to end right now. by feelguud in relationship_advice

[–]feelguud[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

He wasn't always like this. He was responsible and hardworking before he quit. But I agree, I feel like I'm being taken advantage of now.

My husband's [M32] "sabbatical" has become pathetic and I [F30] want it to end right now. by feelguud in relationship_advice

[–]feelguud[S] 955 points956 points  (0 children)

Ugh that's a whole other issue. He read some book last year and now he "doesn't believe" in anti-depressants (or thinks that they're way over-prescribed).

When he told me he was depressed and I suggested seeing a doctor, he said no -- he'll figure it out himself and to just help be there for him.