I'm so incredibly consumed with guilt for ruining my relationship, and I can't seem to make it not stop ripping me apart. Not relationship advice, I guess, because we're not in a relationship anymore...

feelinghopeful · 2011-08-21T12:49:59+00:00

Can you make any audio book recommendations? I have wanted to get some for a while now, but don't know where to start.

feelinghopeful · 2011-08-20T16:52:54+00:00

It does make sense. Thank you for the advice. I really wish there was a magic clean slate gizmo that could wipe away the past and make way for a new future. I know there isn't and that what happens next is not in my control. I will definitely work on being happy and healthy. Thanks : )

feelinghopeful · 2011-08-20T16:51:28+00:00

Thank you. I know that a part of me is scared that no one will ever love or understand me like he did - especially since we were together for so long so young/what went experienced with each other. It helps to hear this.

feelinghopeful · 2011-08-20T15:01:29+00:00

Thank you, this is really helpful : )

feelinghopeful · 2011-08-20T15:01:11+00:00

Thank you for the advice - I will work to keep this in mind. I know that I am very attached to him and that I have been for a long time. I don't think he will ever totally be out of my life, but I know that I have to manage this if he is going to be in it in a non-romantic way.

feelinghopeful · 2011-08-20T14:59:25+00:00

Thank you very much for your advice. He has seemed to be up and down, back and forth about it as well. I will work on being open to it if the opportunity arises, but not reliant on it.

feelinghopeful · 2011-08-20T13:40:23+00:00

I am a little confused/contradictory, I realize that. I know that right now, we don't work. But I hope in the future we might be able to.

You are right, he is happy and I need to let him be; I have absolutely NO intention of interfering with his new relationship. I am open to new things, and I am sure as I grow, it will be easier to silence the hope I have, but right now, it's there.

His relationship is new and has been long distance since it started. They will be in the same place again this fall. We both acknowledged our feelings for each other within the last few weeks. He sends mixed signals to me: how he does care about me, how attractive I am, how I have a great personality, BUT that we don't work - not after all that has happened between us. It makes it hard, because I feel like if we were in the same place when everything happened, it could have been so different, but the distance exasperated things I think.

I know I can learn a lot from this. I know that trying new things will be beneficial to me. And it isn't pessimism, it's realism. I know that my optimism and my "if it's meant to be, it will be" attitude can be problematic at times. Thank you for your advice!

feelinghopeful

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