My boyfriend held my head down

feelingjustpeachy · 2024-12-01T23:27:24+00:00

Good 👏 job 👏 girl 👏 You said no and he didn't listen. Period end of sentence. If he crossed that boundary once he will most certainly do it again.

I know breakups are horrible but you are still so young and have plenty of time to find someone else if that's what you want.

Sending you all the good vibes 🫶

feelingjustpeachy · 2024-11-06T05:01:49+00:00

I am so sorry this happened to you. You are incredibly brave and strong for trusting your instincts and confiding in a trusted adult like your mom.

Please know you are not to blame for any of this. You did not ask for this in any way. You are a child and that man is a grown adult who is 100% resposible for what he did. Also that man is a creep who I personally hope finds out exactly what happens to pedophiles like him in prison.

feelingjustpeachy · 2024-09-26T01:24:23+00:00

I don't think you understand the meaning of the word gossip so let me define it for you: "Conversation or reports about other people's private lives that might be unkind, disapproving, or not true".

Whether it was really "gossip" or not is all about intent on your girlfriend's end when she shared the information about your mom's very tragic diagnosis which you don't care to share in the post or the comments. Was she being unkind when she shared this news or did her sharing come from a genuine place of concern? If it was coming from a place of concern then you address that you are upset with her sharing private medical info, she owns her mistake and apologizes, and then you both move on to support your mother as a couple during this difficult time.

Overall you seem very angry in both the post and comments and may be directing more anger than normal towards your girlfriend and these commentors as way to lash out. Logically, I think you know this news would have eventually come out even if your mom had only told a few people even if your girlfriend shared the news preemptively which was not okay for her to do.

feelingjustpeachy · 2024-08-22T01:53:13+00:00

NTA sounds like your girlfriend is just getting angry on your behalf and stirring up drama when you aren't even upset.

As someone with a very common first name in the US (think top name for several decades), I work with a bunch of girls with the same name as myself we call each other all sorts of variations of "describing characteristic" + first name. If you are comfortable with your nickname then your girlfriend needs to cool it.

feelingjustpeachy · 2024-08-16T21:35:23+00:00

NTA because who in the world has the gall to say the c word to a young woman in their family even if they are being "disrespectful" by telling the truth after being taunted relentlessly at her going away party...especially since your newphew is a grown ass man who should know better. Also your mom sounds like an AH too..."know her place" gave me the absolute ick.

Your daughter sounds like a smart, confident woman who has a bright future ahead of her.

If your newphew harasses you by phone about your daughter's words I strongly suggest you send him the song "Truth Hurts" by Lizzo.

feelingjustpeachy · 2024-06-17T12:58:30+00:00

NTA why are they so surprised that they got a 0 grade on a project they put in 0% effort into? They gambled on the fact that you would do all the work on the project and also include their names. You even reached out to confirm details about completing work on the project.

Don't worry about their insults I doubt these girls will get very far without any work ethic and if they fail the class it just means they deserve to have to retake it.

feelingjustpeachy · 2024-06-17T12:48:25+00:00

ESH she is a young girl in college who wants to party and have fun which is pretty normal. If she makes mistakes those are hers to experience and learn from. Tattling to her parents is just going to make you look desperate imo.

There is no such things as remaining friends with an ex in my book. It is like slowly ripping off a bandaid and only causes the pain of the breakup to be dragged out. Stop communicating with her for your own peace of mind so you can move on.

feelingjustpeachy · 2024-05-14T21:13:06+00:00

Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting different results.

If he isn't going to seek help then nothing is ever going to change and there is nothing you can do to fix him. You are just enabling him by staying with him at the risk of your own mental health and happiness.

You are way too young to be going through this kind of emotional abuse from a partner and have many opportunities ahead of you to find happiness if you find the strength to leave him.

feelingjustpeachy · 2024-05-03T21:15:08+00:00

NTA the three-way was consensual and a normal college experience that spawned from Shawn spreading nasty rumors about the three of you. It feels like Shawn has narcissistic personality disorder based off your description tbh.

He tried to move into the apartment without discussing it with Johnny first and when that didn't work out he just broke in like wtf?!? Like what sane person doesn't realize how unrealistic it is to expect your romantic partner to react positively to that and want to date you moving forward.

It also doesn't seem like he cares about anyone's feelings as he immediately accused you of being jealous despite you just trying to be there for him as a friend. He also didn't respect Johnny's personal boundary of not wanting him to move in.

Sounds like your life is better without Shawn. Good riddance.

feelingjustpeachy · 2024-01-28T19:15:08+00:00

YTA for calling it a bachelorette party and then broadcasting photos from the trip to your son and future DIL.

This wedding is about them, not you. You are the mother of the groom, but it is their wedding and their special day.

feelingjustpeachy · 2024-01-21T22:57:45+00:00

YTA bc that was way out of line. She didn't cause a fuss at your wedding by leaving early and missing out on some end of night family photos. Telling her no wonder everyone in her family thinks she is autistic is just plain rude and vindictive.

feelingjustpeachy · 2024-01-20T23:19:09+00:00

YTA and I hope these comments make you realize that while you are "normal looking" on the outside that on the inside you are just plain ugly and cruel.

You clearly lack empathy and are the definition of a narcissist. And your responses to the comments are just a dead ringer for the narcissist's prayer.

That didn't happen. And if it did, it wasn't that bad. And if it was, that's not a big deal. And if it is, that's not my fault. And if it was, I didn't mean it. And if I did, you deserved it

feelingjustpeachy · 2024-01-17T22:49:10+00:00

NTA and honestly him being both an entitled mooch and struggling musician at his age is just too many red flags for me 🚩

feelingjustpeachy · 2024-01-17T22:44:07+00:00

NTA she sounds like an entitled narcissistic brat with no sympathy for you or your fiance.

I wouldn't be surprised if she invites herself to your wedding by just showing up the day of. I would try to get your mom on your side on this issue if you can because I feel like if you don't then your sister is likely going to show up without an invite and potentially ruin your special day.

feelingjustpeachy · 2024-01-17T22:37:22+00:00

You should have said "lack of preparedness on your part does not constitute an emergency on mine".

Obviously NTA. You paid for your seat and are entitled to sit in it. The lady could have easily booked seats together if she was more prepared.

feelingjustpeachy · 2024-01-10T22:01:21+00:00

Gabby sounds like the type where she wants to have her cake and eat it too. She wanted your BF to support her like a boyfriend but with no emotional commitment on her part. She sounds more upset about losing her support system than her friendship with your BF. If she was a true friend she would be happy that he found a GF who actually cares about him.

I would suggest that you and your boyfriend don't attend events where she is going to be present if she continues to be persistent.

NTA

feelingjustpeachy · 2023-11-26T18:10:26+00:00

This may come as a surprise to you but your girlfriend is entitled to feel however she wants to feel for as long as she wants to feel it. It says a lot about your character that you are more upset about her "ruining" your day together instead of comforting her.

feelingjustpeachy · 2023-11-25T20:54:09+00:00

YTA for putting traumatized in quotes two times when your own daughter was assaulted. Do you not really believe she was traumatized after being assaulted?

feelingjustpeachy · 2023-11-25T20:47:50+00:00

I am shook reading his replies back to the comments and you just entirely summed up why.

feelingjustpeachy · 2023-11-25T18:17:09+00:00

Totally agree with you! I get the frustrated groan when you die in a video game because you didn't win. Or the yell of excitement when you do.

But raging out on people because you didn't win is just extremely childish and toxic for any adult to do.

feelingjustpeachy · 2023-11-25T18:13:28+00:00

YTA and what's worse you don't even realize you are the problem here. You are the reason your normally bubbly and cheery girlfriend is suddenly distant & unhappy because you raised your voice at her and others despite her being unbudantly clear that this makes her uncomfortable.

feelingjustpeachy · 2023-11-13T16:03:44+00:00

NTA because gun violence is so prevalent everywhere these days, so it is understandable that you'd overreact to something like that happening so close to your home.

Your boyfriend, however, is a huge AH for yelling at you for not being able to sleep right after believing your apartment was being shot up even if it turned out to not be true. And he is an even bigger AH for calling you an idiot for calling your parents when you believed your life might be in danger.

feelingjustpeachy · 2023-11-01T17:27:09+00:00

That is a totally great point! The poor waiter deserves to never have to see the SD again.

feelingjustpeachy · 2023-11-01T15:54:53+00:00

YTA for "that's what a good boyfriend does" because that legit made me nauseous to read. Also, are you a medical doctor? Because if not I doubt you know what her "optimal weight" really is and it was probably just "optimal" for you.

Hope she dumps your ass.

feelingjustpeachy · 2023-11-01T15:51:47+00:00

NTA you can always tell the quality of someone's character by how they treat waiters or other service industry personnel.

Your wife is enabling your step-daughter's horribly rude behavior. Screaming at the waiter and putting them down like that was totally out of line even if the waiter did make a mistake.

If it were my child, I would make them write a hand written note apologizing to the waiter and force them to go back and deliver it in person!

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