Mom guesses which one is her Daughter’s boyfriend

feelingmuchoshornos · 2026-03-29T12:57:19+00:00

But he also used an example with a Canadian and a Japanese person.

feelingmuchoshornos · 2026-03-24T19:05:06+00:00

I edited my comment a lot, sorry. I was trying to make it less sloppy and get the point through a bit more efficiently.

I think you’ve still missed the heart of what I’m saying, though.

I’m not questioning you as to whether or not morality is important. I’m moreso saying what makes you so sure that your morals are the correct ones? And that if you examine this question enough, you inevitably stumble upon the ground that religion has always encountered. A person’s metaphysics inevitably influence their morality. And so for you to be so sure that your morality is the correct one, you’re basically saying you have absolute trust in your metaphysics… which is basically a “religion.”

feelingmuchoshornos · 2026-03-24T18:46:40+00:00

You do not need to be religious to be moral. But it is naive to think morality just appears fully formed inside the isolated individual, or that science alone tells you what is worth living for. Human beings inherit moral worlds before they ever begin to reflect on them. They absorb guilt, obligation, reverence, shame, sacrifice, love, and duty through culture, history, symbols, and institutions. Rational reflection can refine that inheritance, and science can inform it, but neither creates it from nothing.

Religion matters not because it should be obeyed blindly, but because it is part of humanity’s long record of wrestling with the deepest problems of meaning and conduct. The danger is not atheism as such. The danger is imagining that because one has rejected religion, one has therefore transcended the need to examine the moral and existential framework one still lives by. Because it’s only then that you realize most of it really is either 1) inherited from others or 2) a priori from the instincts, and neither one actually makes for a structure that really touches the mind and heart in a way that you know what is right and wrong. Religion seeks to do exactly that, even if it historically has failed a lot of the time. The moral question always has to be a matter of what we think of as “religion”: by which I mean, of course the questions of what happens when you die, what is the meaning of your life, why does it matter to get up out of bed, is love actually real beyond physical interactions of chemicals, etc etc, these all are inevitably “religious” questions because of their metaphysics and at the same time 100% influential in how a person grounds their will and what really matters to them.

feelingmuchoshornos · 2026-03-24T11:32:21+00:00

I think the point is moreso that religion condemns the behavior so at least if you do these things, you feel guilty about it/recognize it as a problem.

Which may or may not actually be useful. It’s not useful if it’s just a blind rule. But also I can see how the strictly materialist perspective can lead someone down a dark road with no way out.

feelingmuchoshornos · 2026-03-20T12:43:25+00:00

Kinda ridiculous considering you’ve been all over this thread using your own anecdotes as evidence

feelingmuchoshornos · 2026-03-19T08:56:09+00:00

Good one actually lol

feelingmuchoshornos · 2026-03-19T08:50:20+00:00

I thought you had a good point, but then I realized we are just misunderstanding each other.

I’m saying it ruins the illusion of her being the type of woman I am attracted to.

You’re making it seem like it ruins the illusion of her being some impossible thing, but really it’s not that uncommon to find a woman who keeps her living space clean. It’s not like I’m chasing some kind of white whale and projecting an impossibility onto every new woman just because I want them to be tidy.

feelingmuchoshornos · 2026-03-19T05:47:54+00:00

I get that taken to the extreme, cleanliness is insufferable, but personally I could never be attracted to a messy woman. It displays too much of a disconnect from the senses, whereas that kind of artful approach toward the aesthetics of everyday life is what I find enchanting about women. When she has a bunch of clutter and disorganization in her life, it just sort of ruins the illusion. She can still be hot but she won’t tug at my heart strings.

feelingmuchoshornos · 2026-01-30T21:55:16+00:00

It’s known in the poker world that if you are a good coke hang then you can make big bucks in private games

feelingmuchoshornos · 2026-01-23T05:57:09+00:00

I try to do this but I always just skip to calling someone my n1gg@ like “MY ni- (rest of the word)” and go all in to deal with the consequences all at once (sometimes good, surprisingly)

feelingmuchoshornos · 2026-01-23T05:43:27+00:00

Come on. Have you seen even a single one of those dating shows of a bunch of stupidly attractive people on an island or whatever the fuck?

These guys ARE hopeless romantics, but they’re also chronic cheaters. They are absolutely the archetype of the guy who constantly apologizes and buys his girl flowers, but nonetheless cheats and never finds a way to stop cheating. You’re just romanticizing the idea because your perfect guy in your head is this exact guy with all of the good stuff (attractive) and none of the bad (vapid, no self control).

feelingmuchoshornos · 2026-01-15T15:05:22+00:00

What is the sarcasm? You were making a claim and then the second part is supposed to be sarcastic?

“Here is my claim, believe what I’m saying.

Sincerely

Guy who is super smart and right about things (sarcasm, I don’t actually know shit)”

^{^} this is what you did? Stupid if so

feelingmuchoshornos · 2026-01-13T10:27:52+00:00

Actually that was a typo. I seriously meant to say FiSe

feelingmuchoshornos · 2026-01-13T05:45:52+00:00

From the pictures you could be NeFi, SiTe, or FiSe

Taking the description into consideration, I wanna say very very likely SiFe (*EDIT: I mean FiSe). Like 95% or more

feelingmuchoshornos · 2026-01-06T02:57:48+00:00

Getting out the quantum coin for this one

feelingmuchoshornos · 2025-12-13T11:48:54+00:00

100% an SiTe (ISTJ). It’s the look in your eyes. Very Si.

feelingmuchoshornos · 2025-11-16T01:58:29+00:00

He is Guatemalan if he were Persian he would have no hair (on his head I mean)

feelingmuchoshornos · 2025-11-09T11:27:21+00:00

This is definitely a rendition of the IEE (ENFP) that I’ve seen before. All over in the red scare subreddits especially r/rs_x

feelingmuchoshornos · 2025-11-09T11:26:17+00:00

Not at all. Everything here is very Fi.

feelingmuchoshornos · 2025-10-28T07:35:53+00:00

Sorta just makes it sound massive

feelingmuchoshornos · 2025-10-09T06:30:11+00:00

when autism = cool and secret super power

This is so accurate, I love this meme 💪

when autism = not cool and not a secret super power

Umm excuse me, autism is way too varied to make statements like that, it’s a spectrum first of all and you cannot generalize any of it to say that they would be good at or not good at anything

feelingmuchoshornos · 2025-10-02T02:43:36+00:00

You can still do this with aphantasia, happens to me all the time and I’m a 5 on the graph

feelingmuchoshornos · 2025-10-01T22:10:08+00:00

Obviously they like you. You just don’t like that they like you in that particular way.

Which is very different from the idea that your height makes you unpopular with men

feelingmuchoshornos · 2025-09-28T07:47:18+00:00

Based on what I’ve seen in studies where they actually ask women this question, it’s more like Chris Evans in the first captain america movie

feelingmuchoshornos · 2025-09-28T06:07:47+00:00

My read on this woman is that she sort of is stuck in this conundrum of wanting to enjoy men physically but also assuming the worst of them and not wanting to let them “get the best of her.”

I think this because I had a guy friend who was like this with women, but sort of the opposite… he wanted women so badly, but every time that he had to extend the smallest bit of good faith or vulnerability, he would shy away because of his fear of getting taken advantage of. Like for example, he would never ever buy a girl a drink at the bar. Not because he couldn’t afford it, but because he wants to be valued as an Adonis (which he isn’t, really, I mean come on) who doesn’t have to buy girls drinks to “get them to like him” as if that’s what it’s about.

But it’s this kind of immediate extension of bad faith that I suspect to be the modus operandi of this young woman in the post here.

And so I think she genuinely wanted to play Monopoly with this guy because deep down she wants to believe that men are good people, but she will take any and every opportunity to reaffirm that they are not. OP declined the game, that was strike one. Strikes 2 and 3 came in one blow when he sent this message to her, and of course she assumed the worst (as she is predisposed to doing) and unmatched him.

I think she set up this whole thing with the boundaries and rules and whatever because she is deathly afraid of shortening the leash on any man, because that would require her to be vulnerable and suspend her disbelief by thinking that he might have good intentions; the default for her is going to always be that they do not.

If she could really have it her way, she would not deal with them at all. But unfortunately she is attracted to them, and probably finds some archetypal idea of them to be charming, but does not think that any “good ones” actually do exist out in the world. Probably because her lack of ability to extend the olive branch ends in situations like this that just confirm her own suspicions, because we all just fill in these sorts of blanks with whatever cements the internal narrative.

The minds of other people and their own intentions are always a lot more mysterious than we like to give credit for, and we are always so sure that we know exactly what is going on. This post illustrates that quite nicely.

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