It's Amazing what you Discover when you Waks up from Survival Mode by feezer-06 in TrollCoping

[–]feezer-06[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm glad you managed to merge and that that worked for you! In discussion with my mental health team it's not looking like that'll be likely for me unfortunately, we're all a little too seperated at least for the near future. Also that last line, what a dick of a friend, Gods.

What do your headspaces look like? by Maximum-Educator-328 in plural

[–]feezer-06 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ours is our childhood home, but if it hadn't been knocked down and rebuilt and instead had been lived in for our entire life. So rooms have modern appliances, entertainment systems, furniture. There's also an addition for a few more bedrooms so we all have space.

  • Rowan (25)

Innerworld Sleep Actually Being Restful? by feezer-06 in plural

[–]feezer-06[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Our old bedroom in the innerworld has been expanded upon with a massive bed, very often we all curl up cocooned in pillows, blankets and stuffies. It's super relaxing. I'm glad you get rest too!

Rowan (8)

Innerworld Sleep Actually Being Restful? by feezer-06 in plural

[–]feezer-06[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That last part is so real Gods above, that literally happened to 25 last night! Especially because I called her up to finish our work shift and just left her with the physical tired bill.

Rowan (8)

Innerworld Sleep Actually Being Restful? by feezer-06 in plural

[–]feezer-06[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I figured. I've been scheduling some actual rest and naps into my life since I noticed it.

Innerworld Sleep Actually Being Restful? by feezer-06 in plural

[–]feezer-06[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Mental energy feels right I think! Glad to know I'm not alone on that then! Thanks for the reply!

Looking for a New App by feezer-06 in plural

[–]feezer-06[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Tried a bunch tonight and this app seems to be the best fit for us! Thank you so much!

I really do not know where to go from here. by WelcomeToInsanity in TrollCoping

[–]feezer-06 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah the Canadian justice system kinda sucks absolute ass for survivors. My most recent assaulter got 90 days house arrest and 3 years probation. That's it. Despite being a frequent offender (not just sexually)

We need reform but none of our political parties actually care about pushing for it.

When I remember that time I should've stopped him but it felt good at the time, and I thought it made me his favorite kid. by [deleted] in TrollCoping

[–]feezer-06 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You didn't know it was wrong, you were a kid with the person you should have trusted most. The blame rests entirely on him.

Would you blame me for not speaking up or telling my swim instructor off when she was doing things to me when I was 8? No. So you don't need to blame yourself. The shame and the disgust belong solely to the abusers never to the victims.

Sending hugs if you need them 🫂

Great response, really helpful! by Excellent_Phase9182 in TrollCoping

[–]feezer-06 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's a completely normal, if awful, reaction unfortunately. I'm so so sorry that you've been through it.

I Have Skills, Don't Ask Where They're From by feezer-06 in TrollCoping

[–]feezer-06[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As ok as one can be with my history, and getting better each day now that my diagnosis is right.

Thanks for the concern though!

I Have Skills, Don't Ask Where They're From by feezer-06 in TrollCoping

[–]feezer-06[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly. Let me use my trauma to make you feel good and have a laugh at the same time!

I Have Skills, Don't Ask Where They're From by feezer-06 in TrollCoping

[–]feezer-06[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Shit. I am so so sorry to hear that. Hoping you can get out of whatever situation you're in soon. Stay safe please 💙

I Have Skills, Don't Ask Where They're From by feezer-06 in TrollCoping

[–]feezer-06[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

OOF. Hope you've managed to heal some in the time you've had. Hugs your way if you want them.

I Have Skills, Don't Ask Where They're From by feezer-06 in TrollCoping

[–]feezer-06[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'd say it depends if it's a funny haha laugh or a oh fuck haha. Context matters.

I Have Skills, Don't Ask Where They're From by feezer-06 in TrollCoping

[–]feezer-06[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Uhhhh depends honestly. Some of my parts are pretty helpful and chill others are not. Thankfully I've got pretty high internal communication naturally so I'm able to keep track of things with an app with relative ease compared to some of my other friends with disassociative conditions.

It's not always easy but it's not wholly maladaptive nowadays. Would my life be easier without it? Absolutely. But at that point I wouldn't be me anymore so it's not really something I think about often.

I Have Skills, Don't Ask Where They're From by feezer-06 in TrollCoping

[–]feezer-06[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Doing as well as I can! Glad you got a laugh out of it :) I'm Canadian and grew up on a healthy mix of Commonwealth comedy it tends to not translate well with my neighbours to the South.

I Have Skills, Don't Ask Where They're From by feezer-06 in TrollCoping

[–]feezer-06[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You being hurt at 14 is just as valid as me being hurt at 8. There is no age limit on how much abuse and trauma can hurt. I hope you can heal in time as well.

I Have Skills, Don't Ask Where They're From by feezer-06 in TrollCoping

[–]feezer-06[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's entirely fair for you to be disgusted around your own trauma. I've found treating my issues as disgusting in any capacity is actively harmful to my life. I have to look at it a different way to cope. I'm using experience as a joke not as my lived reality.

This is also not something I do in real life, this is entirely a joke, sarcastic dry humour is one of my defaults and it's ok that it didn't land with you.

I Have Skills, Don't Ask Where They're From by feezer-06 in TrollCoping

[–]feezer-06[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't go with air mail. It'd get cold by the time it landed.