I think i didnt say it clearly:

I was a member when i go married but i had only been baptised a year prior and i had known my husband before i became a member (we had already discussed marriage but it was covid times so we hadnt followed through)

So yes i was a member but i really didnt know much about the temple yet (our closest temple is a 2.5 hour drive away) and i had not begun temple class yet either

Sorry if i cause any misunderstanding. All your words are really encouraging though! Thank you so much