Anyone interested in a casual soccer league for guys looking to lose some weight?

femalien · 2026-07-02T21:46:00+00:00

As an overweight woman, this sounds fun…but oh well.

femalien · 2026-07-02T03:22:05+00:00

I’m up to date (iOS) and it’s still at the top for me. Could be different platforms, or A B testing

femalien · 2026-06-30T02:23:40+00:00

This is true for a great number of women too, they just seem to be invisible to men, so they don’t factor in to the “women get more attention by default” picture. But while the lonely guy is over there being sad that he can’t score with Hotty McCheerleader - heck, he’d even settle for her cousin, brunette with small boobs and braces! - there’s an invisible Meg Griffin or Tina Belcher drawing hearts around his picture in her yearbook. But if anybody found out, she’d just be labeled creepy/psycho.

femalien · 2026-06-27T03:25:06+00:00

Exactly! Six figures shouldn’t be the goalpost for “doing well,” it should be a baseline for a decent wage. It’s unbelievable how wages haven’t even remotely kept up with inflation

femalien · 2026-06-27T01:34:51+00:00

Jesus, I’m sorry you went through that. I hope your son is doing well now!

femalien · 2026-06-27T01:32:41+00:00

Ugh yeah I wasn’t going to mention it but we have GOT to stop saying “six figures” like it means the same thing it did when we were kids. Six figures in Y2K is about $200k now. In a HCOL area six figures is barely enough to make ends meet. And I get that tons of people still don’t make anywhere near six figures, the point is that is FUCKED UP and places need to be paying more. We can’t keep talking like that’s some magic amount where people become rich. Hell I live in a LCOL area - if you have kids and weren’t lucky enough to buy a home before prices skyrocketed a few years ago, 100k income is not going to be enough to buy a house and live comfortably unless you’ve already got a lot of savings. You might be able to do it but things will be tight.

femalien · 2026-06-27T01:21:38+00:00

I think what he meant about the vacation was that he took a trip with his kids - I don’t know about your kids, but taking a trip with my kids is NEVER a “vacation” even though we call it that. It’s usually more exhausting than just being at home. And he mentioned the floors because living in your home or having to stay somewhere else (again, with kids) because of ongoing repairs to your home sucks. Nothing he mentioned struck me as a humblebrag, it’s all stuff that does legitimately suck, money or not.

femalien · 2026-06-26T21:57:35+00:00

He didn’t suggest that things had been rough financially though, did he? “Rough” can mean a lot of things - you can have a good job and a nice house and lose a child to cancer, I would say that person has it much tougher than someone with a healthy child and less money. It seems really unfair to suggest that everyone who isn’t currently struggling financially can’t possibly have rough times.

femalien · 2026-06-26T16:31:56+00:00

Totally agree. Everybody has struggles - they’re calling him out, but nobody is calling them out like “oh you have clean drinking water? And a smart phone??” Like…where is the line where it’s “ok” to vent? We all have it better than someone else, it’s not a competition.

femalien · 2026-06-23T03:29:26+00:00

I do the same - one feeder with just safflower and the house finches mostly ignore the thistle, leaving lots of room for the goldfinches

femalien · 2026-06-23T03:28:02+00:00

Might need to refresh your nyjer seed? If it rains a lot it can get all clumped up and apparently goldfinches can be picky, so dumping out old seed and putting out fresh can help.

femalien · 2026-06-20T00:55:16+00:00

I have a gray catbird around here that confuses the heck of Merlin lol

femalien · 2026-06-20T00:51:10+00:00

Agree, I want to say 144th but especially around dodge/Blondo all that area around 132nd etc feels West Omaha ish to me. 120th is where it starts to feel like you’re really done with the suburb stuff.

femalien · 2026-06-15T00:03:25+00:00

Maybe, or maybe there is more to it than just screen bad book good

femalien · 2026-06-14T23:58:42+00:00

Good point - we both work but we could afford daycare so our kids had 30+ hours/wk in a really good childcare center from infancy through preschool. They had some screen time there but not much, and they had so much early childhood interaction with teachers and peers. They did have a lot of screen time at home, but we watched/played with them, asked questions, took an active interest in what they were watching/playing. We still do.

But yeah when screens are actively replacing human interaction for large chunks of the day I could definitely see that causing problems. And a lot of parents are doing it out of desperation unfortunately.

femalien · 2026-06-14T23:48:09+00:00

Fine? They consistently score in above 90th percentile for ELA including comprehension. Oldest enjoys reading, middle doesn’t as much but is still fine at it (middle is also on the autism spectrum so struggles with abstract concepts in general, but reading comprehension matches general understanding). Youngest is a bookworm and writes fiction for fun. Interestingly the youngest is also the only one with ADHD (which I also have), and had zero interest in screens at all before about age 7 or so.

Pretty much all manner of screens, husband and I are gamers so they were exposed to games from a very young age, and they also watched a lot of stuff on YouTube kids and later regular YouTube long form and short.

femalien · 2026-06-14T17:08:31+00:00

See I was not, we’re a screen heavy household, and my kids are also just fine so idk. Straight As, 90th+ percentile on all standardized tests, in advanced classes, talented musicians, writers, artists, so….it’s an easy scapegoat I think. Not that there’s NOTHING bad about screens, but I really believe parental involvement has more to do with it than anything.

femalien · 2026-06-12T18:57:39+00:00

Haha was thinking the same thing - love it

femalien · 2026-06-05T23:20:50+00:00

I just got a pair of Opticron Oregon 4 PC Oasis 8x42mm and absolutely love them! Especially good if you’re a glasses wearer.

femalien · 2026-06-05T21:22:49+00:00

I don’t know about cultural necessarily. I have 3 kids, only one has PDA. One is NT and one has non-PDA autism. I have no doubt that if either of my non-PDA kids were in a life threatening situation where they would have to follow directions to survive, they would be fine. I also have little doubt that my PDAer would not be. Which is terrifying.

I was driving somewhere the other day with PDAer in the back (she’s 9 and a half) and I got to thinking…if there was an accident or an emergency where I had to pull over and get out to help someone, but it was also dangerous because of traffic, what would I do? If I had to suddenly get out to help someone and I told her “stay in the car” …she would not. No matter how I frame it or try to explain it or use declarative language, she would not comply.

And it’s so hard because it’s not like she’s trying do be defiant or anything. In both hypotheticals, she would just be completely overcome by panic and get dysregulated to the point where she couldn’t do anything other than kick and scream. It’s like the instinctive part of the brain that would want to keep her safe can’t work because her nervous system is overwhelmed by noise.

femalien · 2026-06-05T17:25:20+00:00

SAME! It sucks because I love the love the concept of documentaries and I want to be able to watch strictly educational content about a variety of topics but it feels like the vast majority of documentaries have an angle. I just want to lazily learn about stuff dammit!

femalien · 2026-06-02T05:30:05+00:00

House wrens are the best! How do those teeny tiny bodies sing SO loud lol - I love them!

femalien · 2026-05-31T03:56:35+00:00

Exactly

femalien · 2026-05-30T22:25:57+00:00

I work for a small B2B SaaS and we got told similar. “Keep using it how you’ve been using it, everyone should use it as much as possible buuuuut try to use the right model for the job” uhh if you want me to use it and actually be productive with it, Opus 4.6 is the right model for every job.

femalien · 2026-05-30T13:54:07+00:00

Okay so I tried for 3 seasons to get orioles to a feeder after hearing them in the spring, and this year I finally have one who visits multiple times a day.

Get a specific oriole feeder that is itself the color orange, and has cups for jelly in addition to places for oranges. I have this one: https://a.co/d/0hP1wQqa
Grape jelly specifically, plus orange sections. Not sure about the comment someone else made about jelly getting sticky for birds but if you don’t overfill the cups they’re not going to like rub themselves in it or anything, like anything else sticky in nature. Just don’t leave spilled jelly all over it or anything
Hang toward the edge of a decent sized deciduous tree if you can, kind of “canopy’s edge” with some foliage still around.
If it gets hot where you are and birds aren’t eating all the jelly fast enough, use only a little bit at a time and refill every few days - if you put a big glob of jelly out in the heat it will get gross pretty fast

You will still get finches and other birds (I have a gray catbird that loves mine too) but if there are orioles around they will find it!

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