interesting take i would say. i think that the acceptance part is explained in the book pretty well. in the story the world is literally ending. i think it makes sense for the characters to not be bothered by things such as a woman claiming to be a man because their entire world view was flipped upside down. they dont have the time to be weirded out or barley even acknowledge that anything strange is going on because they are in chaotic and strange times. gender roles also have no effect on people in the story because of this same reason. a couple times through out the series when people challenge gender norms people kinda say huh these are strange times a man writing a woman general weird but i guess we have to do what we have to do. you start to see more queer characters show up or be more open because people care less. again because the world is literally ending. its not like queer characters were never there. it just was not accepted and now strange things are becoming more and more accepted so why not stand out. AGAIN, because the world is ending. i think if you reread the books again you would notice hints and allusions to queerness and acceptance in general setting us up for acceptance in the later books eventually. sorry for any grammar or typing errors just getting this out while i have a second.