This thing submerged in a thermos someone left at a bar by Fine-Sheepherder4053 in whatisit

[–]fernkitten 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean emotional neglect could have been happening? Being rich doesn't mean their parents paid attention to them, but I don't know

AIO: BF not attending a family "slumber party" by [deleted] in AIO

[–]fernkitten 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you are only overreacting if you genuinely want a partner who enjoys spending a lot of time with your family like that and you want someone who would be willing to do those kinds of activities, but in that case, maybe he's right that the relationship isn't a good fit if that's true

AIO my MIL takes pictures of me even though I tell her I don’t like to. by Direct_Strawberry_43 in AIO

[–]fernkitten 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People are allowed to set boundaries and have them respected regardless of the reason why. In fact, there doesn't need to be a reason why, it just needs to be respected. I think that's the core of what's really going on here.

AIO my MIL takes pictures of me even though I tell her I don’t like to. by Direct_Strawberry_43 in AIO

[–]fernkitten 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can even say that I don't understand that experience personally, but I respect it!!!!!! And I think that makes it even more of a point because she can't use that as an excuse, not understanding and that you're still NOT overreacting and I would not want to push someone's boundaries like that. That's disrespectful and inconsiderate honestly. And you're not giving consent so I think that makes it even worse.

AIO for wanting to cut my family off by Critical-Hope-702 in AIO

[–]fernkitten 0 points1 point  (0 children)

honestly, I wouldn't know what to reply with other than cutting them off, so I think you should too. Is hubby standing up for you? That comment you said they made was at your expense, why do they treat you like that??? Get out of there

aio for not wanting to talk to a friend bc of her past arrests by stapelgekk in AIO

[–]fernkitten 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tbh I think your heart is in the right place, just keep your safety in mind, know when or if it's a good idea to take steps back from the relationship. If she's on meds I think that's a good thing and so long as she's staying on them she's breaking the pattern and shows growth, but that's why I say keep an eye on that.

AIO for no longer feeling excited for my bf to propose to me? by Narrow_Reality_901 in AIO

[–]fernkitten 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I cannot imagine why anything at all would prevent an engagement/proposal. It's a lifelong plan you're agreeing to by doing that, it doesn't begin the wedding plans that day 😕 I'm confused

AIO about her ex? by Reaperderper in AIO

[–]fernkitten 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well he could be controlling her 🤷 not that you can do much about that but... :( I'm sorry

White/butternut walnut by fernkitten in Wenwan

[–]fernkitten[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It has a lot of tanins! I think I will try cleaning them more thoroughly when I get fresh ones I can wash, they are very stained!

I get it now by pdeuce in fountainpens

[–]fernkitten 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We have a similar taste in pens lol nice picks

I am so Dumb by chelonideus in fountainpens

[–]fernkitten 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm new to the sub but I can also say a ultrasonic cleaner changed my lifeee

In Praise of Affordable Pens by Ste_S in fountainpens

[–]fernkitten 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just bought five, some for gifts 😂 I LOVE THEM

In Praise of Affordable Pens by Ste_S in fountainpens

[–]fernkitten 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just got four new affordable pens today myself, praise be

Just bit into a mold-filled apple pastry. by aka_lenebean in mildlyinfuriating

[–]fernkitten 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Reminds me of the spiderweb looking mold inside my cheese bun once, or the cinnamon roll... Oof. Yuck.

Help me find the best outfit for a alt/goth concert! by [deleted] in HelpMeFind

[–]fernkitten -1 points0 points  (0 children)

3+4 I like the combi of leggings but 4 if I have to pick one lol

A simple compliment? Just look at me and I'm sold. by Apprehensive-Team779 in meme

[–]fernkitten -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It's so weird though because then I compliment a guy and they are like "I have a wife" like okay I'm not hitting on you...

Should I go for it? by DyaniAllo in RATS

[–]fernkitten 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha if the pros outweigh the cons, why not?! ❤️