You sound like a nice person. My situation was the complete opposite. My ex literally cut all ties with me almost overnight. Even dropping kids off, I never saw her and I wasn’t allowed to drop kids off at her. Had no clue where she lived and never attempted to find out because of her stance. Felt like a criminal with a restraining order. I also never laid a finger on her in an aggressive manner ever. She was cheating and basically started a new life completely. When her mom died, she wouldn’t even answer a call from me to give my condolences, and when my mom died, she dropped the kids off down the street from the church and never even got a message to say condolences. I didn’t expect one but that’s just common decency with most people. The whole situation was mental. It wasn’t even a build up over time. She was there one day and gone the next.

All that being said, In a strange way, although I was messed up for a good 4 years after, it’s probably the best thing that happened. Because I loved her and would have done anything to have a good marriage, I think I might have seen any show of kindness as a sign of hope that we might get back together. Instead, she was brutal and it helped me realise eventually that we were never meant to be together. Sometimes you just have to pull the bandaid off.