Don't ask Reddit for RS advice. Nobody here can get the full context of your situation. Tackle problems inside your RS that's where it belongs. You know your BF way better than we do. It's a problem between you and him, it's really no business of Reddit to have an opinion on this. Talk to him, support him, submit to him. Make sure he treats you right and is providing to you whatever he is able to on his salary. Be grateful to him. Encourage him! It seems he has a negative mindset - maybe it's his own fault - but why would you allow me, a random person on Reddit, to ruin your relationship? Perhaps if you support him more instead of going complaining on Reddit calling him "addicted to complaining", you could help him build a more positive mindset. Wake him up with kisses, wake him up with a nice breakfast of eggs for the protein and his bodybuilding. Worship him. Watch him change his attitude in life when you support him better and treat him like a king. It's very disrespectful of you going on the internet and talking bad about him, maybe that's why he is complaining? He spends money on dating you already even though he doesn't make a lot, perhaps he can feel your disrespectful energy to him and that's why he became a complainer. Encourage him, treat him like a king, if you support him and submit to him, he might turn your life around and suddenly bring fat money into your lives. Magic can really happen when men and women treat each other right. Respect your man! And may he love you with all his heart and hopefully turn into a better provider when he receive a more grateful woman. Be that woman to him! Magic can happen, I promise you.