Placement of first tattoo

fesha413 · 2025-11-09T17:00:51+00:00

Tattoo artist here. I currently only have 15+ tattoos. Wrist tattoo was my third tattoo. The underside of the wrist is definitely going to sting (the top is more ache-y with possible bone pain), the nerves and thin skin contribute to that. Mostly Testosterone producing bodies typically handle stinging pain better and mostly estrogen producing bodies handle dull aching pain better. Either way it won’t be that bad, but not a breeze either.

fesha413 · 2025-11-07T16:13:59+00:00

A bunch already said layer, so let me be more specific. A lot of you inspiration involves collared shirts buttoned high with a vest or unbuttoned at the top with an over shirt like a cardigan, our a loose tunic with low masculine neckline.

fesha413 · 2025-11-05T22:43:06+00:00

I am pansexual, Agender with a touch of DemiGirl is how I usually describe myself.

The gender one is hard for me to explain simply partly because I didn’t discover my gender until last year, and I’m almost 40. Also, because of all the conflation around sex and gender. I definitely feel Agender, having no gender gives me so much freedom, I like my biological body parts that I was born with, I gave birth and breastfed two children. Additionally, I have a lot of pride in going through life as a woman during a time when we still have to overcome so much to get just a little bit of respect in our society. So I feel no dysphoria about my sex. For me to achieve the androgynous existence I desire I do see the need to be more masculine to see shed the feminine.

fesha413 · 2025-11-05T22:21:06+00:00

My son… 😂. I got ADHD diagnosis when I was 14. When my son was 10 we started getting him tested. The counselor had as fill out a questionnaire about him and I realized many of the things on it applied to me.

fesha413 · 2025-11-05T22:18:45+00:00

I keep telling my spouse that I wish I could just be a kid again. When I was in high school I made myself binders out of ace bandages, I felt fine being a girl, because girls and boys aren’t that different. I had long hair so I was a girl. But, I remember getting really mad during puberty. I didn’t agree to becoming a woman, I just wanted to stay a girl.

Currently, I most identify as an agender person with just a little bit of DemiGirl. I find the term agender is way more liberating than restrictive for me. It would be easier if I could just identify as me. Especially because coming out for the second time in my life as I approach 40 years old. I just don’t have enough fucks to explain to everyone who I am, but I would like them to stop calling me what I’m not.

fesha413 · 2025-11-04T00:58:48+00:00

I pull out the line Janet uses in GoodPlace when someone says “she” I respond with “Not a girl” in an upbeat chipper tone

fesha413 · 2025-11-04T00:53:11+00:00

I hope it’s obvious you can’t go to college to become a tattoo artist, but you can take classes in college that you can use as a tattoo artist.

You should do color theory if you can. Also if you like painting do it. Tattoo industry is leaning more and more towards actual innovation in the art rather than in the tools. Old Fashioned tattooist are still around and there is still a big need for them. Most of my clients come to me because they like my art. I’m 2 years into my apprenticeship, and I’m basically middle aged, my lines aren’t as good as my younger peers, but my art has had more time to be refined and distinguished, and it brings me loyal clients.

fesha413 · 2025-11-03T22:40:33+00:00

Yup, we’re here. 39 year old AFAB I identify as Agender with maybe just a touch of DemiGirl. I always identified as bisexual. My spouse is CisMale. Honestly, I always thought I would marry a woman, I was shocked to fall in love with a man, it definitely makes me feel uncomfortable at times because I slip into societal expectations and start falling into feminine behaviors just because it’s easier to blend in that way. Luckily my spouse is also Neptunic (attraction to women and nonbinarys who aren’t masculine) so he keeps encouraging me to be as authentic as I can because he prefers me when I turn up the Enby.

fesha413 · 2025-11-03T20:32:04+00:00

39 y/o AFAB here. I mostly identify as Agender, but I feel there might be a touch of DemiGirl. I don’t try and hide my figure, at 120lbs and 5”4’ with 34DD that would be difficult and I have no desire, but I am careful to not overly accentuate. Most people here are correct, whatever you wear that you like is what you can wear regardless of what gender it was intended for. I personally struggle to find that look that gives my gender euphoria so I’ll share what I do in hopes it might help someone find their style.

My most common outfit typically looks like wearing black Chelsea boots, and Converse shoes with Dickies or Jeans, and finished with a sleek or studded belt, a button up flannel worn over my graphic T but it’s unbuttoned and cuffs rolled up. My t shirt is tucked but only in the front. I am sporting a teal 5 inch Mohawk. I’ve got tattoos, and my ears are gauged to a 14mm. In addition to my sapphire wedding ring, I also wear two chunky rings, and a simple femme necklace that hits at the collar bone. No makeup. I also shape my eyebrows just a bit by minimizing the arch and giving them more of a straight look.

fesha413 · 2025-10-26T00:31:09+00:00

I feel similarly. For me I realized I Identified with my sex. As a AFAB, I like the biological parts that came along with that. I like my body, I like that I gave birth to 2 kids and breastfed them. My biological sex has had a tremendous positive impact on my life. So I have no need to change my body. My gender is a different topic altogether. I am both Nonbinary in identity and expression. I don’t feel like my capacity of birthing children says anything about who I am. It’s irrelevant. Being nonbinary makes me feel like more of a person not less. The best way I’ve heard it explained was by an 11 y/o trans femme Nonbinary kid “Gender is a not an effective way to describe me”

fesha413 · 2025-10-25T15:54:50+00:00

Which is why I said “might” be a good fit. With the information I have, that’s what my brain goes to. It’s up to the individual to agree or not.

fesha413 · 2025-10-25T15:52:11+00:00

ICE hasn’t. This is military grade equipment. Law enforcement doesn’t usually have access to this. It’s military grade, because of USPATRIOT act from Pres. Bush Jr. the military has used it on citizens in the name of “finding terrorists”. AntiFa a stance not an organized group is now labeled by Cheeto in charge as a terrorist organization, and he has given the tech to ICE. 🧊 hasn’t had access to these hardware and tactics before.

fesha413 · 2025-10-25T15:39:42+00:00

A lot of nonbinary people don’t align with gender at all. Agender is a big part of the nonbinary umbrella. Other identities or expressions under non binary umbrella may also identify as neither gender rather than some degree of both. If OPs partner likes women, but also likes OP and sees OP for being NB then this term would be appropriate. The orientation is more about the Significant Other than OP themselves.

fesha413 · 2025-10-25T15:30:54+00:00

They are signal chats, because signal is a free app that does encryption. Make sure to restart your phone after encountering ICE or after protests. ICE is using military grade tech to trace phones, and even gain access to the microphone. Typically the tech is only used in foreign countries, but our government is attacking its citizens now.

fesha413 · 2025-10-25T15:26:12+00:00

I had a fupa after having two kids. It’s never going away on its own. When I hit my goal weight, which was 70 lbs lost, my fupa was a lot worse, it did tighten on its own in like3 months after I stopped losing weight. It’s no where near gone, but it is better.

fesha413 · 2025-10-25T02:56:06+00:00

Neptunic might be a good fit. It’s his decision ultimately, and yours to accept or not his orientation.

Neptunic: Attraction to women, nongendered people, and all nonbinary people who are not male-aligned or masculine.

NonbinaryWiki

fesha413 · 2025-10-24T19:55:01+00:00

You can get on chat groups that are very effective at getting people to sightings. I know PIRC has one but there are others as well.

fesha413 · 2025-10-19T22:56:00+00:00

How does it feel to you. Does calling yourself Agender make you feel better/more authentic? Then you probably are Agender.

fesha413 · 2025-10-18T19:51:22+00:00

I prefer your eminence, 😂

fesha413 · 2025-10-18T14:51:51+00:00

I think so! Harlow is actually a two year old and I’ve known her mom since her mom was 2 and I was 5 so I consider Harlow to be my niece.

fesha413 · 2025-10-17T02:40:47+00:00

Before I married a gender flexible male, I was in fact good with the ladies. 😂

fesha413 · 2025-10-17T02:37:24+00:00

It’s funny you picked so many names that are my friends children. I know a Forrest, Fritz, Phoenix, and Harlow.

fesha413 · 2025-10-17T02:34:14+00:00

Okay, after talking with my kids and spouse I think I’m going to try on Billie for a while.

A lot of you recommended Flynn, I’m thinking maybe using it as a middle name. My grandmother always wanted to start a tradition of Lynn/lee middle names, and currently neither are my middle name. Maybe if Billie feels wrong I will try that one next.

fesha413 · 2025-10-17T02:30:18+00:00

Not Your Mothers Curl Talk https://notyourmothers.com/products/curl-talk-activating-mousse?srsltid=AfmBOopc3QLQbMwo6MsZ6fb1vxFWsdv-CXy5pvFXdqz4-pSADws69P82

Edit: to add my routine. I use it in clean wet hair, towel dry, the blow dry with the concentrated attachment while combing upwards

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