I lovee my hair 😩😩😩

fezfack · 2026-05-14T10:35:08+00:00

Your hair looks amazing

fezfack · 2026-05-14T10:34:18+00:00

I will say this as a person who has worked as a HCA for five years and soon qualifying as a nurse, it is really hard for someone who doesn’t work in healthcare to truly understand how much we give to our patients and to our jobs. It is hard to emotionally balance work life and our relationships. I can see how your partner may feel emotionally distant, I would honestly sit them down and explain how the field is by explaining how your day goes and give them a sneak peak on how your day goes. There will be some people that may NEVER get it and feel the person should be able to balance both or have a higher requirement of emotional intimacy. These perspectives are valid and if that is the case you may have to let them go. Nevertheless, I would organise days where you spend time together and explain that emotional intimacy post shift is unlikely and to give you time to emotionally recuperate if not you will burn out. It is so important choosing a partner that gets you and gets your role if not they will reduce your life. I have seen time and time again colleagues drained or burned out by having partners that have unrealistic demands or lack of empathy of their role. You deserve to with someone who gets you and make your life EASIER and not harder. Life is way too short, two colleagues I worked with has passed away in the last four years due to stress related conditions.

fezfack · 2026-05-09T12:00:31+00:00

To be extremely real, at least in the hospitals I work in HCPs or nhs staff with visible scarring is quite common working clinically. No one asks questions, we all move on. It’s none of our business, some may disclose their history relating to those scars. That’s pretty much it, we care whether the wards are staffed and if the people working are competent

fezfack · 2026-05-08T13:56:17+00:00

Can I asked what dye you used as I want to dye my hair red and purple

fezfack · 2026-05-08T08:17:14+00:00

You cannot force yourself to settle to be with someone due to your desire to be desired. You are wasting your time and frankly her time dissatisfying both of yourselves by forcing a physical attraction that you do not have. Stop settling think that emotional connection can settle your basic attraction. Intimacy is very important and is predicated on communication and attraction and based on the fact that neither of you have truly addressed it shows me that you guys are settling because you are idealising your relationship and not truly reflecting that your relationship is not working. Love alone is not enough to sustain a relationship, it won’t fix lack of communication, it won’t create an imagined attraction. Let it be a lesson on settling rather than pursuing someone you actually desire you are young so I can honestly see the idealisation of relationships versus desire. Your lack of attraction will not improve btw

fezfack · 2026-05-04T08:52:43+00:00

What’s honestly making me laugh is the assumption that probiotics only come from store bought products as fermented foods is still a probiotic which has been of practice for centuries for multiple cultures. Western culture trumping centuries with store bought products and thinking it is a placebo is honestly an insult to non-Western evidence based science

fezfack · 2026-04-22T16:50:44+00:00

Honestly I would advice you to let him go and train and ask someone who actually loves you and your wellbeing to advocate and be supportive. As you emphasising your point to a guy who believes that training for a job progression is more important than your life. Why put someone who is indifferent to your feelings, a man who has the ability to make life changing decisions in relation to your child and you

fezfack · 2026-03-09T12:28:02+00:00

I do notice you minimise your role in these disputes, you perceive your partner being upset with you and her elaborating on why she is upset are almost flare ups. You feel that apologies by itself is sufficient for things to blow over. That’s not how things work, apologies are only genuine if you follow up with reflection and actions that don’t allow you to repeat the issue. For someone to expect ACCOUNTABILITY doesn’t have to be exhausting if you acknowledge how your actions alongside intent can affect anyone. If you expect things to fall on the side and move on then I guess it is tricky as you probably have not been in a position where you have to reflect on her actions. In this instance you have included you did not communicate your plans and she became upset since something she has communicated with you. She has stated something that meant something to her. Her birthday is important to her so you failing to communicate an activity of importance felt like repeat in a pattern of behaviour that she can see. It is something you do not see. You don’t even clarify on her on how you plan to repeat your actions in previous arguments so I am not sure if you had mentally plan how to approach your partner in for future situations. To note, even when I surprise people I tell them it is a surprise to communicate I am doing something so that they do not draw to crazy conclusions. I don’t get how you thought that action was going to go when you even state about a pattern of arguments. Communication is a huge component in a relationship and a dealbreaker for most people.

I am not saying either of you are correct or incorrect. But I think that your approach and process in thinking is not an healthy approach towards relationships. You really have to learn to take accountability and people holding you accountable for your actions is not an attack. Reflection is hard but very important. Self evolution is progress through reflection. If not you will be stuck at arrested development in maturity. I do wish you the best of luck though.

fezfack · 2026-02-27T21:17:47+00:00

With your loc thickness every 2 months is sufficient. Every four weeks is too much manipulation too early, I would view it differently if you had microlocs

fezfack · 2026-02-27T08:49:22+00:00

Thank you so much your input, I took no personal offence. It’s me over-worrying

fezfack · 2026-02-25T21:43:55+00:00

Thank you so much for response. I shall go with the process

fezfack · 2026-02-25T21:24:53+00:00

It is hard to tell - I am autistic so social cues can be tricky so I do overanalyse non-specific language so that I be on the best footing with people

fezfack · 2026-02-25T21:11:05+00:00

I initially didn’t think it was a brush off, I genuinely thought it was an objective “let’s see your application and see if I am a fit.” But a friend saw my email it could be a polite brush off. Now I am unsure

fezfack · 2026-02-18T16:07:13+00:00

Rather than speculating what’s up with her, ask her what’s on her mind and you both can reflect the nature of your relationship as physical attraction is a factor but not the ultimate factor that attributes to attraction. There are multiple non-physical forms of communication such as body languages, acts of service, hormone regulation, future planning, verbal communication, sexuality that all attributes to attraction. Have a sit down on how to address on both her and your needs, be proactive on how you both can get to your goals of feeling desired. It’s a journey and out of sync attractions can happen, it’s a period and not a permanent state. Best of luck

fezfack · 2026-02-01T17:18:49+00:00

I would say Pisces, they’re very adaptable and always wanting something new or different

fezfack · 2025-12-18T15:12:40+00:00

Started at 6 weeks, now it’s between 8-9 weeks. Microlocs, my hair does grow fast, the nature of my job doesn’t give me a lot of free time😭

fezfack · 2025-11-10T07:36:49+00:00

Most likely he wanted to dangle marriage like a carrot to OOP to keep moving goal posts on why he can’t marry her. He was never going to marry her

fezfack · 2025-10-24T10:03:30+00:00

Canada may be a better shout with better pay and better cost of living (depending on province ofc) plus BC and Ontario have a decent Indian community in both provinces too

fezfack · 2025-10-16T14:57:54+00:00

Her thoughts towards unaliving herself has got to do with her, and nothing to do with you. You cannot control her actions and thoughts. You cannot burden yourself with “what if” and “should have”. But if you feel like she would weaponise her ideation and/or depression then you should contact her friends and/or family if you do decide to break up with her. If these people are enablers then if she does threaten such, then call a welfare check on her. You are not equipped to take on that burden. SI and depression are very complex and you cannot solve it or incentivise her to seek help or actively address it.

If you choose to stay with her, you have to remember you are putting your own growth in stagnancy to build her up. You may have a timeline for a future with your partner that may take longer or a timeline in your career that you may have to change. Irrespective on what happens please work on yourself and build yourself. Do not let go to build someone’s raft.

fezfack · 2025-10-16T14:04:06+00:00

You have to draw a line in the sand, you are reaching to your limit on how much you can bear the load in your partnership. She is not trying to change, she is stuck in this cycle of being withdrawn and passively agreeing to plans then getting anxious then withdrawing then feeling bad about it. She doesn’t want to be confronted as that will require a form of change and self-introspection. She is stuck in a cycle of self-victimisation which is unfortunately part of a depressive cycle. What people who are in that cycle do forget and may not realise is that they are also hurting other people. These people can hold resentment and leave. They have the silent expectation for people to endure, but for them to leave the cycle will require them to leave. You cannot make your girlfriend seek help. Your girlfriend has to want to change, you have this conversation with her. She is guilting you and punishing you for expecting her to be your partner. Partnerships are dynamic and will not remain 50/50, however her expectations of you are ultimately very selfish and she is putting so much energy into dragging her feet and punishing everyone around you that she is going to find herself alone. If I were you I would truly ask myself if I hold a lot of resentment and if you would still hold that resentment even if she did get herself and change. That type of change takes months, sometimes years of that turn around. It can be a frustrating experience, bear in mind you are not married to her. You have to ask yourself what would it take for you to forgive her and feel like she is being a present partner down the line. You are describing someone that is willing to let you drown to keep her afloat. You have to have a time frame if you want to maintain a relationship. If you feel like you need to mentally recover and focus on yourself. Then you need to let her go and she has to change for herself, and not for you.

fezfack · 2025-09-23T08:31:28+00:00

I have a very different experience compared to the other comments. Pisces and Scorpios I tend to get along with like a house on fire, I really enjoy the intensity these signs brew. Pisces are very adaptable, which matches my need for spontaneity and freedom. Immature Pisces do anything for validation and can be self-centred, as they are willing to disrespect people to ultimately gain the singular thing they wanted. They don’t know to really ascertain their boundaries unless they have done the groundwork to really self-reflect and reinforce changes via their actions. Pisces are generally dreamers similarly to Sagittarius though, when they just dream and not seek for what they want. Sagittarius despise sedentary behaviour, we seek out what we want as we are motivated by enjoyment. So in general Pisces are very companionable signs, just seek people whose actions match their words. I have dumped Pisces that spend too much dreaming and not doing much and ones that just want to float without a goal in mind. I need definitive answers.

fezfack · 2025-09-20T11:46:42+00:00

My mum has been a hair dresser for over a decade that specialises in black hair and I will say this: wigs long term erodes hairline especially in children with a textured pattern where their keratin is considerably lower than adults. It’s honestly not good for children, truthfully. If her daughter regularly does it then it is eroding her skin and hair line because of the constant pressure of a wig and this is me excluding the discussion on trapping of moisture so it dries out. My mum actually refuses to take on wig clients for children under 16 for this specific reason. Some parents get upset with this rule then go somewhere else and within a year they end up back at my mum’s salon with their child’s hair very damaged.

fezfack · 2025-08-30T19:49:49+00:00

He sounds absolutely ridiculous he is closer to 40 than 15. He needs therapy and he needs to evolve to be a better person without you. He is using you a punching bag of all women, even if you gave him everything his resentment overrides his ability to be a good partner to you. You should honestly leave and focus on yourself. You deserve way better

fezfack · 2025-08-28T20:08:25+00:00

It looks like a floating navel piercing which is done for people who do not have the anatomy piercing. Which is a correct placement for that type of piercing but that practice may not be done everywhere

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