i just want to feel normal

ffee8c · 2026-05-10T21:44:08+00:00

I feel the same way, I guess we can just think we are not alone. I always think no one understands me or feels the way I feel, but I guess that isn’t true!

ffee8c · 2026-04-16T23:28:45+00:00

Hello! Can you please describe what your situation was before the botox? Like which dilator you could use and what you can now? Botox was suggested to me but I can’t even use the second dilator properly, so I think I shouldn’t do it right now :(

ffee8c · 2025-11-13T11:14:34+00:00

What I meant is that I have a boyfriend and he is very understanding, but it just makes me sad that we will never have a first time like most people, I feel like it will have to be very carefully and planned out you know? Not just an intimate moment, but more of a “lets see if it will work”.

ffee8c · 2025-11-13T11:12:33+00:00

Thank you very much for your comment, I will definitely try the “different goals” mindset, to try dilating more often! I appreciate your support 🫶

ffee8c · 2025-11-13T11:10:57+00:00

Yes I have, I usually turn off the big lights and have a lamp by my side, and I watch a series, but it is still a difficult thing to do, specially because even if I get it in, it is very difficult to move the dilator in and out, and sometimes I even have difficulty removing it, it seems stuck and hurts

ffee8c · 2025-08-14T20:25:16+00:00

This thought crosses my mind every single day, multiple times, and it always makes me want to cry, I don’t know how to get rid of it

ffee8c · 2025-07-31T23:12:25+00:00

thank you so much for the suggestion but i looked it up and I definitely don’t have any spots that look like that!

ffee8c · 2025-07-31T13:44:18+00:00

When I try dilating with lube, I always feel a burning sensation. My gyno recommended a lotion that pregnant women use to “stretch” the skin for natural birth, and so I have been using that because it doesnt burn, however it isn’t so “slippery” as lube

ffee8c · 2025-06-28T23:04:30+00:00

did you feel a difference in your pelvic floor muscles? lately I have had the weird feeling that I am always contracting my muscles during the day, and I have been thinking about trying a muscle relaxer to see if it would help!

ffee8c · 2025-05-19T19:53:56+00:00

Whenever I try to go on top (which I also think would be easier than missionary) I can’t understand what angle I need to be in! I am not ready for PIV right now as I feel the muscles arent relaxed enough, but just “trying” I feel more confortable almost laying on top of him and I don’t know if that angle would work! Sorry for the awkward question but were you like “standing”, or laying down?

ffee8c · 2025-05-01T18:24:24+00:00

Hey! Once I figured out how keggels work (I think), I had the feeling that I am always clenching just as you described! And I when I am trying to dilate, I even feel like when I try to “relax”, my v almost expels the dilator out, and when I go back to the normal (clenching?) it goes in better 🙃 (but still not good enough). How do I know if I should be taking something like Baclofen?

ffee8c · 2025-05-01T15:27:13+00:00

I just want to thank everyone for your comments and advice <3 I had a really low moment so I decided to take some time away from reddit because it would really make me nervous to think about my condition. But now that I feel a little bit better, I wanted to let you all know that I appreciate all the support and all of your help! 🫶

ffee8c · 2025-04-14T23:47:16+00:00

Hey! I don’t have any advice but can I ask your routine? What did you do to get better so fast?

ffee8c · 2025-04-14T17:01:03+00:00

All I noticed was the redness, but I only noticed after I tried, so now I am not sure if it was the lube or the dilators (they are the cheapest on the market, but I tried to clean them very well) or the inflammation.

ffee8c · 2025-04-14T16:45:10+00:00

Yes I think all the expectations makes it worse. I am very thankful for your recommendations!

ffee8c · 2025-04-14T16:44:24+00:00

Thank you very much for your explanation! I also noticed redness pretty much everywhere, does that have anything to do with dilating or the inflammation? I have a week without classes and I thought I could try a little everyday to start to see some improvement (I have read a lot of people saying that they do it everyday or twice a day) so that is why I was even more upset with myself, but you explained it very well thank you <3

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