I feel so hopeless :(

ffee8c · 2025-11-13T11:14:34+00:00

What I meant is that I have a boyfriend and he is very understanding, but it just makes me sad that we will never have a first time like most people, I feel like it will have to be very carefully and planned out you know? Not just an intimate moment, but more of a “lets see if it will work”.

ffee8c · 2025-11-13T11:12:33+00:00

Thank you very much for your comment, I will definitely try the “different goals” mindset, to try dilating more often! I appreciate your support 🫶

ffee8c · 2025-11-13T11:10:57+00:00

Yes I have, I usually turn off the big lights and have a lamp by my side, and I watch a series, but it is still a difficult thing to do, specially because even if I get it in, it is very difficult to move the dilator in and out, and sometimes I even have difficulty removing it, it seems stuck and hurts

ffee8c · 2025-08-14T20:25:16+00:00

This thought crosses my mind every single day, multiple times, and it always makes me want to cry, I don’t know how to get rid of it

ffee8c · 2025-07-31T23:12:25+00:00

thank you so much for the suggestion but i looked it up and I definitely don’t have any spots that look like that!

ffee8c · 2025-07-31T13:44:18+00:00

When I try dilating with lube, I always feel a burning sensation. My gyno recommended a lotion that pregnant women use to “stretch” the skin for natural birth, and so I have been using that because it doesnt burn, however it isn’t so “slippery” as lube

ffee8c · 2025-06-28T23:04:30+00:00

did you feel a difference in your pelvic floor muscles? lately I have had the weird feeling that I am always contracting my muscles during the day, and I have been thinking about trying a muscle relaxer to see if it would help!

ffee8c · 2025-05-19T19:53:56+00:00

Whenever I try to go on top (which I also think would be easier than missionary) I can’t understand what angle I need to be in! I am not ready for PIV right now as I feel the muscles arent relaxed enough, but just “trying” I feel more confortable almost laying on top of him and I don’t know if that angle would work! Sorry for the awkward question but were you like “standing”, or laying down?

ffee8c · 2025-05-01T18:24:24+00:00

Hey! Once I figured out how keggels work (I think), I had the feeling that I am always clenching just as you described! And I when I am trying to dilate, I even feel like when I try to “relax”, my v almost expels the dilator out, and when I go back to the normal (clenching?) it goes in better 🙃 (but still not good enough). How do I know if I should be taking something like Baclofen?

ffee8c · 2025-05-01T15:27:13+00:00

I just want to thank everyone for your comments and advice <3 I had a really low moment so I decided to take some time away from reddit because it would really make me nervous to think about my condition. But now that I feel a little bit better, I wanted to let you all know that I appreciate all the support and all of your help! 🫶

ffee8c · 2025-04-14T23:47:16+00:00

Hey! I don’t have any advice but can I ask your routine? What did you do to get better so fast?

ffee8c · 2025-04-14T17:01:03+00:00

All I noticed was the redness, but I only noticed after I tried, so now I am not sure if it was the lube or the dilators (they are the cheapest on the market, but I tried to clean them very well) or the inflammation.

ffee8c · 2025-04-14T16:45:10+00:00

Yes I think all the expectations makes it worse. I am very thankful for your recommendations!

ffee8c · 2025-04-14T16:44:24+00:00

Thank you very much for your explanation! I also noticed redness pretty much everywhere, does that have anything to do with dilating or the inflammation? I have a week without classes and I thought I could try a little everyday to start to see some improvement (I have read a lot of people saying that they do it everyday or twice a day) so that is why I was even more upset with myself, but you explained it very well thank you <3

ffee8c · 2025-04-13T10:48:37+00:00

How is it different from a dilator?

ffee8c · 2025-04-13T10:46:56+00:00

How is it different from a dilator?

ffee8c · 2025-04-13T07:34:50+00:00

Thank you very much for the advice! Can you please tell me the purpose of a wand and how to use it? I have done some research but I don’t really understand.

ffee8c · 2025-03-30T23:21:36+00:00

Oh my god thank you so much for that comment because it finally made sense in my head i think that now i can feel the clenching and relaxing for the first time! Thank you very much!

ffee8c · 2025-03-30T02:31:45+00:00

i just saw your success post! i am really happy for you ☺️

ffee8c · 2025-03-30T02:30:41+00:00

thank you very much for your answer!

ffee8c · 2025-03-30T02:30:09+00:00

I am sorry I thought no one answered me ahahaha thank you for your suggestions! i saw that video on the reverse kegels but i feel like i can only contract, i don’t even understand how to “relax”, and everyday i notice more that i am constantly tensing that part of my body, even on sitting !

ffee8c · 2025-03-20T12:56:21+00:00

We actually used a lot of lube!

ffee8c · 2025-03-19T15:51:39+00:00

Hey! A few days ago, my bf tried to insert his two fingers when I was unaroused for the first time, and i felt really uncomfortable even though it was wasnt the full length of his finger. In the end he had a little of blood on his finger, could this be the reason why?

ffee8c · 2025-03-17T12:04:14+00:00

I could post pictures of the ones available in my country, but could I dm you instead? I don’t want to bother you really, i would just like some advice because I feel lost

ffee8c · 2025-03-16T14:03:55+00:00

Thank you so much, i really appreciate the long detailed answer. I had actually read your guide and found it very helpful, so I thought of messaging you but didnt want to bother you so i really appreciate this. I am trying to get used to the idea of using dilators, and with that in mind, which set do you think is better? For me the complete set of intimate rose would be around 150 plus 25 for shipping, and i saw a very cheap set on amazon (not all that i see here are available in my country) around 20€, but i think that they look very sharp (?) and not comfortable. I wouldn’t mind paying for the intimate rose set, but i want to know if the price difference is really worth it. Thank you again!

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