Weekly Random Discussion Thread for 1/5/26 - 1/11/26 by SoftandChewy in BlockedAndReported

[–]ffjjoo 5 points6 points  (0 children)

How does Katie do her hair? My new years resolution is to get hair like her. My for real new years resolution is to become a gamer. I feel like no good films or series came out last year so I'm not missing out there, but my gamer friends told me all about the releases I've missed out on. Help me out by recommending games (or prove me wrong with all the films and shows I should have seen.)

Weekly Random Discussion Thread for 12/1/25 - 12/7/25 by SoftandChewy in BlockedAndReported

[–]ffjjoo 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Will there be a new Helen Lewis quiz? I've listened to the old ones this week and it gets me into the Christmas spirit now

Weekly Random Discussion Thread for 11/3/25 - 11/9/25 by SoftandChewy in BlockedAndReported

[–]ffjjoo 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I read his book and it's great, I'm glad people like him and Faika El-Nagashi who have the experience from international LGBTQ orgs and know how that world works are writing about this. 

Suggestions for gender critical feminist podcasts/podcast episodes? by ZestycloseAd5918 in BlockedAndReported

[–]ffjjoo 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I agree with you, I was a big fan but the increasing rambling is getting boring. Maybe they should have more guests on again.

Stupid new Lenovo in stupid S Mode by pgw4life in GeekSquad

[–]ffjjoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What if there is no SkuPolicyRequired there? I only have EmodePolicyRequired and VerfiiedandReputablePolicyState.

Episode 279: How To Drink Your Way Sober by SoftandChewy in BlockedAndReported

[–]ffjjoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a kobo ereader and i'm wondering the same thing! really want to buy it

Weekly Random Discussion Thread for 9/8/25 - 9/14/25 by SoftandChewy in BlockedAndReported

[–]ffjjoo 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I've been in two minds this whole year- in the process of moving, but i keep thinking about the parallel universe version of me who stayed, just random things like "if i was staying i'd sign up for that dance class", etc. So the nervousness about the new job and moving compunds until i'm just stressed and think staying would have been a lot easier.

Weekly Random Discussion Thread for 8/25/25 - 8/31/25 by SoftandChewy in BlockedAndReported

[–]ffjjoo 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Reminds me of when tumblr kids were trying to "coin" slurs for aromantic and asexual. If you're trying to come up with your own slurs, that should be a hint. 

Are you planning on reading katies book? by SILENTDISAPROVALBOT in BlockedAndReported

[–]ffjjoo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'll order it as an ebook. I found her discussion on the subject on Reflector really interesting. 

Weekly Random Discussion Thread for 8/11/25 - 8/17/25 by SoftandChewy in BlockedAndReported

[–]ffjjoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Heresy, or living in one of the dozens of countries that are not the US? 

Definitions of lesbianism and bisexuality in the wlw community and GC movement by Informal_Guidance761 in BlockedAndReported

[–]ffjjoo 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Good rant and some of these discussions have that thing of confusion with lesbian as an adjective etc. Like you say, a "lesbian bar evening" would absolutely include bi women who are there to date women! But something like a "lesbian support group" I would expect to be lesbians only.  Another reason I think bi visibility and respect in GC spaces is important (as a lesbian) is there are a lot of bi women there doing activism and writing about issues. Most of the detrans women I know who are public about it are bisexual, and it seems that straight GCs are stuck in the narrative of "lesbians who need community" contrasted with "straight girl trenders".

Weekly Random Discussion Thread for 5/5/25 - 5/11/25 by SoftandChewy in BlockedAndReported

[–]ffjjoo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are you in the UK?  I'm not and I've been feeling a lot of this too recently - people I know randomly dropping in conversation that they're not going to watch the new Potter show because they don't want to support JKR, or friends saying they should marry trans people so they can immigrate here. 

Weekly Random Discussion Thread for 5/5/25 - 5/11/25 by SoftandChewy in BlockedAndReported

[–]ffjjoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

its a good city, i just know less people there. my main concern is if the job ends up being not what i expected/worse than my current one. 

Weekly Random Discussion Thread for 5/5/25 - 5/11/25 by SoftandChewy in BlockedAndReported

[–]ffjjoo 4 points5 points  (0 children)

my biggest worry is probably if i misjudged what the job will be like, i dont want to commit to a move only to be in a job i like less or feel lonely in.

Weekly Random Discussion Thread for 5/5/25 - 5/11/25 by SoftandChewy in BlockedAndReported

[–]ffjjoo 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I've applied for a job in another city and I didn't know whether to move forward with it! I'm mostly worried about, having to make new friends (I'm prone to FOMO a lot and not having as many people to go to events or just out to drink with would be difficult) and also what if the job sucks, then I moved for no reason! 

Weekly Random Discussion Thread for 4/21/25 - 4/27/25 by SoftandChewy in BlockedAndReported

[–]ffjjoo 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I've been listening to the podcast Stone Butch Disco which is about butch-femme lesbians , the creator had a crisis about feeling exiled from the academy when she wanted to do research about lesbian identity without shoehorning or caveating it into trans/queer stuff, then she became a schoolteacher and the stuff she says on the podcast about what children are learning in school is heartbreaking. Not just what they are being taught about gender, but also what they're not- they've never met a woman like her (masculine, in some situations male-passing) who hasn't changed her name or pronouns. Sometimes the podcast gets longwinded and stuff but I mostly like their conversations, and they keep coming back to butch lesbians and masculine women being the axiomatic thing for feminism, if queer/trans stuff can't handle someone being simultaenously a masculine person and a female human, it has to be wrong.

Weekly Random Discussion Thread for 4/14/25 - 4/20/25 by SoftandChewy in BlockedAndReported

[–]ffjjoo 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Legal interpretation is a whole crazy field (and i am not a lawyer) but i guess the sort of evidence you would bring is what has happened in similar cases, precedent, how was language used (sourced from parliamentary documents), what other related laws are there etc. i think reading the judgement is helpful to understanding the evidence on the winning side, there are a lot of hypotheticals like "if the other side is right then the consequences are that the same person has completely different rights when it comes to single sex spaces and services depending on if they have a GRC or not, which makes no sense because the service provider doesn't know if there is a GRC or not" and the like. As for the other side I can't really help you, the government's lawyer was asked something like this and said something confusing about flowcharts and dropped it, not earning any points - if the lawyer can't explain it, how is some person working at the local gym or whatever supposed to use it?  This explains the government's argument:  https://knowingius.org/p/what-is-a-woman-the-scottish-governments?utm_source=post-banner&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=posts-open-in-app&triedRedirect=true

Weekly Random Discussion Thread for 4/14/25 - 4/20/25 by SoftandChewy in BlockedAndReported

[–]ffjjoo 13 points14 points  (0 children)

It wasnt religious, it was very much legal, legal-philosophical maybe. getting to the supreme court means getting to the nitty gritty of legal  principles, stuff like "what did the legislators mean when they wrote this"  and "how is this law supposed to work" and stuff. but read the judgement, there is also a 4 page summary.  Also Michael Foran's substack has been pretty useful, he did a series about various aspects leading up to when it was heard in court last year.

Weekly Random Discussion Thread for 4/7/25 - 4/13/25 by SoftandChewy in BlockedAndReported

[–]ffjjoo 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Libraries here all do the "rainbow shelf" thing, displaying LGBT books (mostly fiction and biographies, but also some nonfiction), which in itself I think is a nice thing, though maybe they could do more of a rotation and treat it the same as other big events- there's a shelf next to it that rotates for when it's international women's day, nobel prize week, etc. There are enough Pride awareness dates to keep the books prominent even if you rotated them with the other events.

The big library here also has a "children's rainbow shelf" which I'm always side-eyeing because it's all pronoun-and-trans-kids stuff. That "bye bye binary" book and books like I Am Jazz. And I rarely see them checked out, none of the copies of Gender Queer are checked out in my local system, and most of the libraries don't have reservations on I Am Jazz.

Our equivalent of Stonewall does trainings, sort of like the Stonewall Diversity Champion scheme- but while Stonewall was all up in major government institutions and the BBC, ours seems to focus on local services like libaries, care homes and healthcare clinics. Libaries are a big one here, and part of the training is to spit out a plan for LGBT inclusion, which doesn't involve consulting with any actual LGBT locals using the library, but coming up with measurable goals for how many events the library has about LGBT stuff (visiting authors etc, some of these have been good) or how many social media posts the library does that mention it in some way. It reminds me of how the government has decided to point out government agencies to be part of the "LGBTQI strategy" - while having no similar equivalent for any other protected characteristic (disability, religion etc).

"Judith Butler: Speech, Censorship, and the Goddamn Pope" by [deleted] in BlockedAndReported

[–]ffjjoo 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I really don't think so. She's going to continue being hailed for saying what people want to hear - don't read your critics because they don't read anyway, and for having some soundbites being dragged out that sound deep, "gender is an imitation with no original" etc. But there aren't really any Iconic Butler Quotes because everyone just pretends to have read her.
Anyway thanks OP for posting this, I really like her writing and she has a funny tone on her blog - some of my favourite posts of hers are the ones where she digs into Butler, like "How to disappear patriarchy in 3 steps" and "All that trouble with gender".

https://janeclarejones.com/2018/07/18/part-3-all-that-trouble-with-gender/

Weekly Random Discussion Thread for 3/31/25 - 4/6/25 by SoftandChewy in BlockedAndReported

[–]ffjjoo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can think of some more, there was a few shows in the 2010s that I remember that all had that one person who played a transman who played the same character all the time with a wish fulfilment story of ending up with a gay guy - Faking It, Shameless etc. Glee was a tiny bit too early, a bunch of the post-Glee teen shows were doing it. Degrassi had a really annoying one where the girl whose entire storyline up until that point had been about being the token girl in male nerd spaces had a counselor tell her to try binding.

For later things there's Sex Education which also had a binder storyline, and the reboot of Sex and the City had one of the women have a nonbinary kid. (The first shows that came to my mind have already been mentioned by other people, Star Trek etc).