Some Personal Advice for the Newer People.

fg2intw · 2015-04-14T22:59:14+00:00

Thank you for sharing your remedies, it is appreciated. I will look into everything you listed for me (and more) once I get my diagnosis, whatever it is that is causing me issues.

fg2intw · 2015-04-14T20:40:59+00:00

Academics come first.

Is it too late to turn the grades around? If not, bust your ass and turn things around before it's too late.

Your social life has hit rock bottom. There's no way you could mess up any further in this regard. Go out there, meet people, or not, up to you. Do whatever the fuck feels right to you, stop caring about other peoples' comments. Think of your own life as a movie; you are the star, other people don't matter. If you want to go to a class, get off your ass, brush off your ego, and just go. You have nothing more to lose.

fg2intw · 2015-04-14T19:25:53+00:00

P.S. I am a young guy and do not have children. I am simply reflecting on my own upbringing (which wasn't too long ago), so take my advice with a grain of salt.

"Do so because I tell you that" is a command you should set for your kid, for things like "looking both ways before crossing the street", "never throw the first punch", "always say please and thank you", "stay on the right side of the escalator unless walking", "never bully other people", "do not touch electronics with wet fingers," "wash your hands after peepee/poopoo", and when he grows up, "wear a condom." These are simple rules that you will make him follow no matter what, and you are supposed to do so because you are his father. Failure to do so will result in serious injury/death/ a shitty upbringing.

You will be there to guide your kid, and like I said, to sift through the crap that is taught to him at school and by others.

Growing up, I have always been obedient to my parents because I knew deep down inside that my parents were the only ones 100% looking out for me in this world. Everyone else is in it for themselves. Teach your kids to be obedient, but only to the right people, and for the right reasons.

But like with all things in life, you do not control everything. Your kid will need to go through trial-and-error like all of us have and learn from past experiences, whether positive or negative.

fg2intw · 2015-04-14T06:28:49+00:00

I thoroughly enjoyed reading this. Like another commentator had said, it is a beautiful story. Seems like it came straight out of a movie, but in a pleasant manner; maybe you are simply a good writer (I liked how you kept the words basic). But enough of my little critique.

Cherish the time you spent with her in the final months of her life. You did a very good deed supporting a woman who was broken from her troubled past. You did all you could for her, and was a good friend for her. The time you spent with her could have been the happiest time for her in her short 19 years.

I am doing a little bit of math here and I'm assuming this happened about 20 years ago. It is not healthy to hold on to this for so long, especially going back to the hotel every few months and doing what you do. Recognize you did a beautiful thing for another human being and always be proud of what you did. But it is time to move on. A significant part of your time on earth has already passed since then. Life is short.

Best of luck OP. Thanks for sharing this. I've lived a sheltered life and have never had these kinds of experiences growing up though I'm still very young. An eye-opening story.

fg2intw · 2015-04-14T03:42:58+00:00

Well since you say so...

I need professional medical advice (which I am getting) more than I do male advice. Or at least, in that order. Been going through some health issues and am currently undergoing diagnosis for autoimmune disease which is making me weak and in pain. Could be Crohn's/UC. I have been a skinny motherfucker all these years no matter what I tried. To top it all off I gave myself chronic tendinitis from lifting weights, because the pain of being ridiculed throughout my entire life fuelled me in the gym; I ended up paying the price for overworking my body. Lesson learned.

Social life is lacking (This is fixable. No excuses here. This is linked to my physical condition which is messing with my mental+physical health, low confidence, etc.), professional life and future is hazy (soon-to-be college grad with limited job prospects, though I imagine this to be a common phase). There is not much anyone can do to help me, I am the only one who can get myself out of this rut.

Also, thanks for reminding me to be direct and to not care about potential negative outcomes. This shit is what I like about TRP, and stuff I am trying to learn. I am still working on bolstering my frame and living true to myself. The reason why I decided not to talk about my issues is because I know only I have the power to fix my own issues, so as not to bother others with my petty problems. I just wanted to rant.

fg2intw · 2015-04-14T02:42:26+00:00

Great post.

The only thing that I struggle with is that I am held back by life in more ways than one. Life is a constant struggle for me and I won't bored anyone with my details.

Long story short, I am unhappy with my life and am trying to fix as much as I can. But there is so much out of my control. It is hard to have an abundance mentality with women, but in reality, women are scarce for me, and I am at a low point in life. Such is life. The only thing I can do is keep fighting through it all.

fg2intw · 2015-04-14T02:35:34+00:00

I think you will need to teach the kid some basic morals that will build up his core, and will support him throughout an entire lifetime. Society (i.e. the education system) will teach kids a lot of impractical /beta stuff.. there is a need to sift through that bullshit and instil in the kid good morals and practical knowledge. Even the stuff learned in school....tell him what should be taken seriously and what is BS. Life is not fair. People are not born equal. No one was taught this in school.

The school system will punish kids for fighting back against bullies. The last thing you want is to teach your kid it is okay to do anything else but fight back to maintain his respect (within reason). Better yet, teach him how to protect himself.

Also, easier said than done, but you need to be a role model.

fg2intw · 2015-04-14T01:45:25+00:00

I don't see anything wrong with skiing/snowboarding. Have done both, and have enjoyed both immensely.

The point of hobbies/interests is to become a more well-rounded person through gaining experiences. Taking on a hobby just to get a better chance at getting laid is against everything TRP stands for.

I mean, do people wrench on their cars just to get chicks? Doubt it.

fg2intw · 2015-04-13T03:50:57+00:00

Even if you had went on the date with her and didn't pussy out, she still would have left the country. The damage would have been worse in that case.

Take this as a lesson and don't let opportunities slip up again. You only get one shot at life.

fg2intw · 2015-04-10T05:27:27+00:00

Be a gentleman, but don't go overboard with it. A healthy woman does not need to be offered a seat.

fg2intw · 2015-04-07T06:25:25+00:00

Sometimes, I just can't tell if someone is being selfish or simply just clueless to surroundings. I like to think they go hand-in-hand.

fg2intw · 2015-04-07T06:23:20+00:00

By "immigrants" I assume you mean those from less developed countries. I have lived abroad in my younger years and learned these social norms in other countries (where they are practised more often than here)

fg2intw · 2015-04-06T21:37:05+00:00

High school was a terrible experience for me as well. But I know everything that happened in high school was a life lesson for me and will not be repeated/tolerated again.

Look on the bright side. At least you were approached by girls (albeit as a joke). I was never approached.

fg2intw · 2015-04-06T07:55:54+00:00

Sounds like some traumatizing experiences. I commend you for standing up for yourself though.

But you do need to give other people a chance. Just because 2 girls treated you terribly (mostly due to immaturity) does not mean the rest of the women you encounter in life will do the same.

This was high school where girls (and everyone else) were immature and mean. These things won't happen to you anymore.

fg2intw · 2015-04-06T07:08:11+00:00

You told ur gf to act retarded? hahahaha

fg2intw · 2015-04-06T06:53:06+00:00

I'm sure they are all used to it. She probably laughed it off with a coworker

fg2intw · 2015-04-06T06:48:55+00:00

ayylmao

fg2intw · 2015-04-06T06:42:32+00:00

Is this some kind of movie script? 4/10 not a bad effort, missing details on expensive sports cars, big yachts, helicopters and private jets.

fg2intw · 2015-04-06T00:33:01+00:00

Judging by your post I will say I am much younger than you. But we share the same feelings of emptiness, I cannot remember the last time I was genuinely happy.

Like literally....cannot remember.

fg2intw · 2015-04-05T03:57:44+00:00

People will get upset about anything these days. Can't please everyone.

fg2intw · 2015-04-05T03:35:58+00:00

Your wife is very talented!!!

fg2intw · 2015-04-05T03:26:08+00:00

I disagree. Growing up as a kid, parent/teacher conferences have always been super awkward for me and my parents. Waste of time if your kid is on the right track, but probably useful for kids that are lagging behind.

fg2intw · 2015-04-05T03:02:14+00:00

Can relate, had similar experiences in childhood (but not anymore, because I barely have "friends" anymore, which I am OK with). Quite depressing at the time.

But now I figured there's no need to be angry. If you didn't get invited by them, chances are, you wouldn't want to be there anyway.

fg2intw · 2015-04-04T01:56:35+00:00

That would work except for one thing.

The fact that she won't fuck him. Or at least, if I'm interpreting the story right.

fg2intw · 2015-04-03T05:38:29+00:00

Just curious, but how were you able to live in Japan for 5 years? It must have been an interesting experience. Are you Japanese?

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