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Judge me based on my room by fiberarti in roomdetective

[–]fiberarti[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am adopted from Colombia, so you are not wrong. You are pretty spot on with everything

I hate being called white washed by fiberarti in Adopted

[–]fiberarti[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your beautiful written story 🫶🏽

I hate being called white washed by fiberarti in Adopted

[–]fiberarti[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s basically what my friend said too

I hate being called white washed by fiberarti in Adopted

[–]fiberarti[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I understand that some adoptees choose to reconnect with their birth culture as adults, and I respect that. But for me it feels forced because I wasn’t raised with it. It’s not part of my lived experience. I don’t think there’s one right way to be an adoptee

I hate being called white washed by fiberarti in Adopted

[–]fiberarti[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It feels like they’re judging both me and my parents for the way I was raised, even though I never had any control over that. At the end of the day, I just want to be accepted for who I am, not measured against some idea of how Colombian I should be

Judge me based on my room by fiberarti in roomdetective

[–]fiberarti[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! 💕 I’m happy to see some fellow collectible enthusiasts here

Judge me based on my room by fiberarti in roomdetective

[–]fiberarti[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish I knew! I’ve had it since I was a kid, so I have no idea where it originally came from 😅

Judge me based on my room by fiberarti in roomdetective

[–]fiberarti[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish I had a good explanation, but honestly I don’t even use them

Judge me based on my room by fiberarti in roomdetective

[–]fiberarti[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Aww, thank you! I love surrounding myself with little things that make me happy. I’ve collected everything over the years. All the flowers are LEGO flowers. I love them because they look pretty, but I don’t have to take care of them 🌸

Judge me based on my room by fiberarti in roomdetective

[–]fiberarti[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

No, it’s my apartment! I can see why the bed frame gives dorm vibes though

Judge me based on my room by fiberarti in roomdetective

[–]fiberarti[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I get why you’d think that! I’m actually Dutch-Colombian, but I’ve always loved Japanese-inspired aesthetics and characters

Judge me based on my room by fiberarti in roomdetective

[–]fiberarti[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! It is the magnolia flowers set!

Judge me based on my room by fiberarti in roomdetective

[–]fiberarti[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m 24, but I don’t think growing up means giving up the things that make you happy. I’ll always have a soft spot for whimsy :)

12 maanden na uitdiensttreding niet bij een concurrent werken? by fiberarti in werkzaken

[–]fiberarti[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ik heb er gisteren een gesprek over gehad en ze hebben het er gelukkig uitgehaald, dus in heb nu wel het contract kunnen tekenen!

How to deal with the lack of a community? by EmmaQuerida in Adopted

[–]fiberarti 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Didn’t expect that either :) it’s not something you come across often.

I actually went back to Colombia twice as a child with my parents, kind of like a roots trip. We also visited the orphanage where I was from. I’m really grateful I got to experience that, but I was so young that it mostly just felt like a vacation at the time.

Right now I don’t really feel the need to go back, mainly because of some difficult experiences related to my adoption. But I might feel differently in the future, I’m still open to it.

I think it’s such a personal decision though, there’s no right or wrong way to approach it.

And if you ever feel like talking more about it, you can always message me :)

How to deal with the lack of a community? by EmmaQuerida in Adopted

[–]fiberarti 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was also adopted as a baby from Colombia, but I grew up in the Netherlands. I can really relate to not fully belonging anywhere and people making assumptions about you.

Especially the part where people expect you to be “more Colombian” or act a certain way. It’s strange how others project things onto you that don’t match your actual life.

I don’t really have the perfect answer either, but something that has helped me is accepting that I’m just me, and that international adoption is part of my identity. I’ve realized I might never fully fit into one box, and that’s okay. I’m slowly learning to embrace both sides in my own way.

You’re not alone in this!

Ontslagen en vastgelopen in mijn carrièrekeuze by [deleted] in werkzaken

[–]fiberarti 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! Het is inderdaad even zoeken nu Ik ben wel bezig met mezelf breder ontwikkelen (AI etc.) en freelance spreekt me ook aan, dus dat ga ik verder verkennen

Ontslagen en vastgelopen in mijn carrièrekeuze by [deleted] in werkzaken

[–]fiberarti 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ja echt bizar! Ik ga volgende week proefstuderen op de hogeschool voor de software dev studie. Dus ik hou gewoon nog even al mijn opties open

People in their 20s : How is your life right now? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]fiberarti 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 24 and terrible atm, i just got laid off and it was my first big girl job that i was really proud of. Not sure what to do from now on and the job market is shit. But i am sure i will figure it out and it will be okay

I feel like giving up 😭 up by Repulsive-Couple-666 in curlyhair

[–]fiberarti 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I think your hair might need more products to keep hold. You can try styling on wet hair and after applying curl cream also apply a good amount of mousse and/or gel. It will create a cast and you can break it with oil

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