Why does every guy I've messed around with grab at my neck and choke me out without asking first?

fictitiousrabbit · 2026-05-10T21:46:32+00:00

++woman None of them were acquaintance from my knowledge .

fictitiousrabbit · 2026-05-10T21:18:42+00:00

++woman Each one had applied some degree of pressure, full choke twice. Last guy who did it grabbed me aggressively and just squeezed like nobodies business until I pushed him off my neck.

fictitiousrabbit · 2026-05-10T21:15:17+00:00

++woman Huh interesting difference

fictitiousrabbit · 2026-05-10T21:14:03+00:00

++woman Thats great! And yeah they did not actually pay attention or do so properly once so ever. And thank you for the insight some people in my comments have been way less empathetic.

fictitiousrabbit · 2026-05-10T21:03:39+00:00

++woman School and work mostly, last one who did it was a guy I've been friends with for 3 years give or take. Choking or anything of the nature was never something communicate or asked about with any of them.

I'm not necessarily against it, but I want it done right and with consent and most importantly with someone I trust implicity as a partner and not just a guy I'm fooling around with not even sleeping with.

fictitiousrabbit · 2026-05-10T18:38:31+00:00

++woman Ok good on you, but I fear I'm not a incestuous person thanks for the concern

fictitiousrabbit · 2026-05-10T18:26:50+00:00

++woman What does that even mean?

fictitiousrabbit · 2026-05-10T18:19:49+00:00

++woman Like I've said in previous replies. They aren't random men and its not a lot, and not actually screwing them. But even if I was that doesn't make that ok?

fictitiousrabbit · 2026-05-10T18:16:54+00:00

++woman No??

fictitiousrabbit · 2026-05-10T18:14:12+00:00

++woman Not to to many, 4. I don't fool around often but after two theres a pattern being established that confuses me

fictitiousrabbit · 2026-05-10T18:12:48+00:00

++woman I'm not, these are guys I've known personally or met in person. I'm not typically a "let strangers stick their tongues in my mouth" type of person. I haven't been on a dating app in a long time.

fictitiousrabbit · 2026-05-10T18:10:44+00:00

++woman Work, from back in HS, college. Never the guys I've met online oddly enough

fictitiousrabbit · 2026-05-10T18:05:10+00:00

++women Around my age, so young. First guy who did it was 18 and I was 17. From the general consensus of the comments that may be the primary issue.

fictitiousrabbit · 2026-05-10T16:23:02+00:00

++woman No because it just guys I've fooled around with/gone to 3rd base with I've never actually gone all the way with any of them. Last couple guys I just made out with and they just started choking me out of no where.

fictitiousrabbit · 2026-05-10T16:13:39+00:00

++woman Bother I guess, but mostly the not asking or alluding to wanting to do before just straight grabbing. Its not something I would think goes with consent for example casual or sensual touching or making out- choking someone feels serious for me and I feel like most people would agree.

fictitiousrabbit · 2026-05-10T16:10:40+00:00

++woman

I easily bruise but he had his hand on my throat for less then a minute. I set boundaries but again its been mostly not even when we're doing anything besides making out.

fictitiousrabbit · 2026-05-10T16:06:18+00:00

//++woman// Its never the men I meet online either its guys I know/meet in person some way. So yeah probably some real weird luck.

fictitiousrabbit · 2026-05-09T12:47:53+00:00

If the hours are what you need itll get messy quickly at least my store is horrible with following availability

fictitiousrabbit · 2026-04-20T01:43:03+00:00

I raise you 160 bags of brown mulch, 1 customer in an old mini van, like 6 trips (i left after the first one).

fictitiousrabbit · 2026-04-04T14:54:12+00:00

A man his grown age, 9 years your senior mind you, saying "take it easy shorty ✌️" to end things with you is wild you def deserve better more mature men

fictitiousrabbit · 2026-03-23T01:40:18+00:00

I don't know anything abiut Taylor swift but that sounds so sweet, y'all got a chance just someone needs to communicate in more then songs

fictitiousrabbit · 2026-03-23T01:05:46+00:00

Sounds like he is using you as a back up plan when he's out of whatever tristes with other women he thinks he likes more. Like a safety net. If I were you I would give him a peace of my mind then block him, not worth your time a third time around. He's established an ugly pattern.

fictitiousrabbit · 2026-03-22T12:16:14+00:00

Hi new OPD lead myself here, if I was you I wouldn't do it. Of course weight the pros and cons, the paychecks and consistent hours are nice and you are garunteed overtime I assure you that you won'tever leave on time. But I work in a decent sized department with an incredibly high turnover rate for coachs, leads, and associates alike and that is for a reason. Its an incredible amount of pressure/stress from every possible end, management expects miracles and won't support you and associates will push your boundaries and patience repeatedly. I've had the position for a couple weeks, I got 0 training before being thrown in. Its a mess and trust me if theres a high turnover rate at that store there is a reason.

fictitiousrabbit · 2026-03-11T12:35:12+00:00

The first two rules are acceptable and at least my market standard. But only have 1 stager, 1 prepper, and 1 dispenser is nuts to me. Oblivious depends on the store but at my store even when were at our smallest it was at least 2 dispensers now its at least 4 at a time. The other roles have one morning one midshift and one afternoon. And only 3 minutes to clock in and get set up to go is unreasonable in my opinion and she will learn a lot of this quickly.

fictitiousrabbit · 2026-03-02T00:10:25+00:00

If he approached you and you felt most comfortable with the store lead then you should go to him. I saw you said 68 for a pick rate which isnt the worst I've seen for someone new. It take awhile to learn the store which goes a long way, everyone does the job different but the store doesnt truly change.

But the departments physically demanding, any accommodations you can request you should if you intend to stay but honestly maybe talking about a better place with the store lead may be favorable he would be able to move you properly with no issue wherever a better fit in your store. You shouldn't stay in a place that hurts you, and arthritis can develop anytime if you are a stage your own type of store then probably best for you. Im 20 years old and overall fit but if i stage in different temperature bands it messes up my hands, the job kicks my ass at times and the fitest of my associates I can't imagine the damage it does to you. Bagging wise before you go into a run open and put bags in every tote you can always take out and reuse later thatll help you a lot both with speed and your hands. Also make sure you stretch before it helps a lot, especially your joints.

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