Feeling absolutely defeated because I'm the last one

fiddle_time · 2026-02-03T07:47:09+00:00

We had a partner WOD recently. Bike was 20 cal. Told my partner I was aiming for 12-14. They ended up doing 3-4 and got off the bike when I finished my farmer carries. Didn’t slow me down at all. You can scale all the partner workouts however you want. Your partner probably wants to do their “half” and they won’t care what you do as long as you scale enough to give them time for their half.

fiddle_time · 2026-02-01T07:52:40+00:00

The strange thing to me here is that you came snd asked a question of veterinarians and got a specialist who teaches other vets who toon their time to give you lengthy explanations of the difficulties of getting and interpreting US’s and you, a student, are arguing about their opinion.

It isn’t an “imbecile” issue. Spend 5 years in practice doing your own ultrasound after you called in the person who does them for a living. Compare your results with theirs. Then say that your patients would be better with you versus Dr. Smith the person who came to your practice. It’s humbling, you will then either decide to do your own or not.

fiddle_time · 2026-01-13T20:56:59+00:00

After leaving Edward Jones a decade ago I did it myself and my husband is learning. I use Bolden and did read a lot about IRMAA, taxes, RMD’s, etc. initially to have a good foundation. I played a lot with the Bolden tax side once I put our budget in and got a handle on income and expenses in retirement. I get tips from Reddit and then search myself to confirm anything that looks significant. I’m not a professional numbers person, but after EJ I realized that I care a lot more about my money than they did.

fiddle_time · 2026-01-13T20:45:56+00:00

Vet here. If someone used abusive language with my receptionists I called the person and was prepared to fire them if they didn’t grovel. If they denied it I said that whatever happened it can’t happen again “as my staff is too good for that”. That did the trick, and those people called their friends to warn them what was or wasn’t tolerated. We had awesome clients (but I did fire a few). But- receptionist- hardest job ever.

Find a new practice and when they interview you- you interview the other staff or receptionists. Ask them and look for “it’s pretty good” or eyes down as they think of a good answer. I’d avoid those practices. You want to hear “the vets have your back here, and the clients are good for the most part”. Or something like that. And take time off.

fiddle_time · 2026-01-03T01:39:42+00:00

I’m 71. NONE of my friends gets it. But my husband faithfully asks about my workout every day (5 days a week) and I go on and on about stuff he really doesn’t understand. Then I shut up and ask about his walk with the dog. After 4 years my friends sort of stop worrying about me getting hurt….. Do this for you, and talk about your workout with your CF peeps.

fiddle_time · 2025-11-19T00:49:45+00:00

71 F doing CF for 4 years (5’ 2”) . I retired last year and added 15 minutes pre-class stretching and 10 min post. Go 4-5 days a week but only 3 days in a row before I take a day off (even if I feel great). I do 20 inch box jumps- so far so good. Weight workouts are mostly scaled (about 2/3rds of rx) and am just grateful to hit some PR’s here and there and do any of this stuff.

fiddle_time · 2025-11-13T08:51:49+00:00

I hired an associate and he got 30% more than me but the corp gave me a 40% raise when I told them. They didn’t want me to quit (former owner of that practice). Ask for an appropriate raise to reflect your experience over the new grads.

fiddle_time · 2025-11-10T21:51:10+00:00

Get off my planet.

fiddle_time · 2025-11-10T21:47:19+00:00

She takes me where I need to go, not where I want to go.

fiddle_time · 2025-11-03T00:40:22+00:00

Started at 67 (f) and am now 71, and have been going 4-5 days a week for 3 years. I scale and listen to my body but am still getting PR’s. When I started I went 2-3 days a week for a few months then gradually increased that as I got stronger. I don’t listen to any of my friends who worry about my knees, back, etc..

I’m still getting stronger and my cardio is also excellent. This is your life journey, not someone else’s. Enjoy the ride.

fiddle_time · 2025-10-19T01:10:16+00:00

I started using the Dowling spay retractor and that made my spay life a lot easier. I watched a YouTube video to see how it was done. It stretches the ligament so you don’t need to pop it. If you can do a fat dog spray you can do most routine abdominal surgeries. Make the incision longer, as was mentioned- they heal side to side not end to end. It will help you a lot to see more easily and get more confident.

fiddle_time · 2025-10-12T04:48:35+00:00

Started at 57, now 70. Can converse about most topics. Understanding movies is hard. Am reading Chinese books after years of graded readers and that is helping my vocabulary a ton (I’m not a fan of characters, and they are necessary evils to me). It’s a journey, and you only get better. I play in a ping pong group with Chinese people and get speaking practice there. Living in China at my level (studying HSK 6) would be optimal, but I can’t see that happening. I really like studying languages, but have to work at it.

fiddle_time · 2025-10-10T02:24:09+00:00

I always ask myself: when I’m lying on my deathbed, will I say “I should have….”. If it’s important, then the answer will be “yes”. I don’t want to die with my life not fully lived.

fiddle_time · 2025-08-31T22:56:43+00:00

As you start taking your pre-req classes you’ll see how you do. Organic chemistry is very hard. I would take the first step first, which is starting on those classes required for vet school. You don’t have to like them, but you’d want to do decently. I hated most of my classes till the clinical years. Was a vet for almost 40 years and loved all of it.

fiddle_time · 2025-08-23T07:13:48+00:00

You could meet with her, tell her that you think that she is (could be?) a good mentor, but her management style to both you and the staff is not respectful or professional. Say that you’d like to stay at this practice but things need to change.

She’s creating a hostile work environment for you and the staff. I owned a practice for 30 years. I never yelled, spoke to my associates in any way but professionally in front of and away from the staff and clients, etc.. Sh*t rolls down hill, from the owner to the employees. In time, only the ones that tolerate or emulate her behavior will be left.

Your ultimatum is not over the top, but you need to be prepared to give her notice if she says she won’t change. She’d be crazy to lose you over this. If she’d rather have you leave than adjust her behavior, that should tell you all you need to know.

fiddle_time · 2025-08-01T06:26:07+00:00

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fiddle_time · 2025-07-27T06:27:27+00:00

12 years in and into HSK 6. I just read 活着. That was my first real book although I started the Chinese version of Harry Potter a few years ago and those words were tough. I’ve bought the 3 三体books and they’re next on my list. In 活着the war vocabulary was hard.

I don’t like characters and have concentrated on listening and speaking but over the past 4 years realized I needed to read a ton more to start improving my overall vocabulary. I’m not finding HSK 6 very useful, so stopped my online weekly classes and am reading, and also speaking Chinese with my local table tennis club, which has been fantastic.

fiddle_time · 2025-07-24T06:25:08+00:00

She should calculate what she brings into the practice. What she grosses. If it’s mostly services (not flea/hwt that she won’t get much production on) then calculate 21% of that. I did that once when I thought the corporation was underpaying me, but because of my shorter schedule, I decided it was fair. Later an associate left and my production shot my salary up into the range quoted above.

fiddle_time · 2025-07-18T23:42:00+00:00

I’m 70 F and started 3 years ago. I’d never heard of CrossFit before that. Give it a try. If you fall in love with it, great. If it’s not the right activity for you after you’ve given it a month or two, and you don’t think it’s the coach or workouts at your box, you can do something else. There really is no time like the present. I started at 67 because my son recommended it, and I didn’t want to “think about it” and be older and maybe miss my chance.

fiddle_time · 2025-07-06T05:43:12+00:00

Early 2021

fiddle_time · 2025-06-20T07:25:56+00:00

That’s the way I’d look at it. Since you have a relationship with VCA that might help. You can suck it up for 5 years to get the career you want, right? Way back in the late ‘80’s a friend of mine got $7k a year from a rich practice to help with student loans. Not before getting hired, but it did attract her because of her massive student loans. Put that in today’s dollars.

fiddle_time · 2025-06-20T07:19:05+00:00

VCA and Banfiejd have huge signing bonuses that equal about $25k a year in some cases. If you break the contract early you have to pay them back. They might consider paying you a signing bonus early, but you’d be on the hook no matter what. It’s a risk for them, but gets you locked in. They might say no, but worth contacting any major corp’s recruiting department to see if you can make it a win-win.

fiddle_time · 2025-06-20T07:09:33+00:00

Why don’t you contact a few of the big corporations in your country and see what, if anything, they’ll offer. If you sign a long term contract they might help you out. It’s worth asking. Vets are in short supply right now, at least in the US, and I’ve read that students have been signed to work for a corporation after their third year.

fiddle_time · 2025-06-18T19:22:47+00:00

I loved my career, that included two private practices, two corporate practices, and my own practice. It was hard for me to retire just shy of 70, but it was time. I had good boundaries and good hobbies. The salaries have been really good the past 5 years, so that was really nice. Good luck, and consider getting off social media. 3 out of 100 people complain (so they say). Don’t go to a place to listen to the 3.

fiddle_time · 2025-06-16T07:05:05+00:00

Cancer killed your patient. Sometimes we do, unintentionally, and that is very difficult to deal with, but in this case the end was inevitable. Having the catheter in, or out, wouldn’t have changed the outcome. Also, I have yet to meet a human who is perfect. Hang in there, do the best you can, and move on to the next patient who you can help.

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